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[Zibrahim]

Last night I was hanging out with a girl and a few drinks turned into a lot more. She turned on some music and started grinding on me then pulled me into the bedroom; I remember all of that. Then I started to pass out and sort of hunched over her as she kept grinding on me. She pushed me onto the bed and took my pants off. At this point I remember saying, "hey no, let's not do this drunk" and she said it was fine. She grabbed a prophylactic and put it on me and attempted to have sex with me while I was on the bed. I was in and out of all of this; only remember flashes of what happened.

Woke up this morning and she apologized for what happened last night.

I feel really weird about this because I'm a guy who doesn't really care too much about getting laid or not. But when I ask a woman not to have sex with me and she does, while I'm drunk at that, I feel...I don't know violated doesn't seem to encompass the feeling.

 

[BearPawB]

If it feels like you were violated, then you probably were.

 

[MormaPope]

I think so. Whether or not you feel she deserves punishment for doing that is up to you.

 

[Fedelias]

I think you did.

 

[GoldenEye 007]

That's textbook rape.

 

[Delta Assault]

I guess technically, you did.

 

[BadAss2961]

Well yeah, sounds like you were raped.

How upset are you though?

 

[Winterfang]

Did she still had sex with you while you where still sleeping and after you tell her not to? Yeah is kind of rapeish, actually happens a lot.

 

[Lima]

Congrats on the sex

 

[m_shortpants]

Seems like it was without consent. If she apologized she may be open to talking more about it. Might help.

 

[soundahfekz]

Congrats on the sex

welp

 

[Kinyou]

That's textbook rape.

There's a textbook about rape?

 

[Hollycat]

Yep, but to be fair, it sounds like she was wasted too.

 

[Makai]

Clearly rape, I think.

 

[AyaisMUsikWhore]

That sounds like rape. If you said no, even in your drunken state, and she took advantage of you despite that; that is rape.

Now I'm not sure if you sincerely take her apology or would like the law involved but, I would do the latter. Just because you are not a women doesn't mean you should scoff it off. Do what you got to do.

 

[GoldenEye 007]

There's a textbook about rape?

Sure

 

[diaspora]

Well, yes.

 

[Lan Dong Mik]

This predator should be behind bars.

 

[Fuchs]

1. congratsonthesex.gif

2. If you feel violated, then you were, I guess.

 

[ReturnOfTheRAT]

I guess so. Be thankful that there was protection.

 

[8 X 11 Printer Paper]

Can't call it anything else when you said no and she ignored your will.

 

[.GqueB.]

There's a textbook about rape?

Prolly.

And yea OP. Seems like you were raped.

 

[gugi40]

She wanted to have sex and you said no, she proceeds to have sex with you anyway.

Yeah it sounds like you were. She took advantage of the state you were in and did what she wanted regardless of you not consenting.


I'm sorry this happened to you.

 

[Chariot]

Yep, but to be fair, it sounds like she was wasted too.

Genderswap the situation and then tell me if thats still an valid excuse for you.

 

[Hackworth]

You said no, she had sex anyway. Doesn't seem to be much grey area here.

Sorry this happened, OP.

 

[Zibrahim]

Well yeah, sounds like you were raped.

How upset are you though?

I don't really know how to feel about it. The event is just lingering in my mind and I can't seem to get over it. I'm angry at myself for getting that drunk and allowing myself to be in that situation. But at the same time I trusted her not to do this and she did.

It's all confusing for me.

Yep, but to be fair, it sounds like she was wasted too.

She was definitely more sober than I was.

 

[SwiftDeath]

If you said No clearly and she continued that seems pretty cut and dry

 

[TheRedSnifit]

The FBI changed their definition a few years ago, so yes.

 

[CheesecakeRecipe]

If you said no and insisted, that is indeed rape.

 

[victreeb3l]

That sounds like rape. If it was reversed, then you would probably be in jail or something now.

 

[injurai]

Yep, but to be fair, it sounds like she was wasted too.

totally excusable then right?

 

[Intheflorsh]

Sounds like it OP. Sorry to hear that.

Yep, but to be fair, it sounds like she was wasted too.

So?

 

[GrayFoxPL]

Did she put something in your drink?

Fuck..

 

[ExplodingKetchup]

It sounds like you did OP. I'm really sorry.

 

[Sai-kun]

That....sounds like rape.

edit: don't blame yourself!

 

[-Plasma Reus-]

I am really sorry this happened to you OP.
Must have been a terrible experience. Perhaps in time you will learn to live with what has happened to you

 

[Gartooth]

Sounds like it. She took advantage of you being unconscious for the most part.

 

[Interficium]

Congrats on the sex

Wow, what a fucked-up reply.

How does the fact that a dude instead of a woman made the OP make this kind of thing OK.

 

[Exokell]

At least she didn't put a dildo up ur butt

 

[zeemumu]

It sounds like you were.

 

[Suen]

damn that ban came so fast. Expecting more to get banned here.

 

[Ninja Scooter]

I wonder how the police and local DA where you live would react to this if OP decided to pursue it.

 

[Nokagi]

What's the confusion here? If someone has sex with you against your will then it's rape.

 

[Storm Chamber]

This is pretty awful man

 

[Yagharek]

Well, if your recollection is accurate and you said no, then it meets the legal definition.

Maybe consider getting an std check too.

 

[Dwarven Defender]

I'd go to the police.

Even if they tell you they can't do anything, your complaint will be registered. You don't know what happened, as far as you know, she could have even used you to get herself pregnant. So, just for it to get registered, tell the police, make a declaration, something.

And don't talk to her again.

 

[b&jy77VjiKn$#F]

At least she didn't put a dildo up ur butt

What if she did?

 

[Deleted member 102362]

Based on the details you've given us, it sounds like you were raped.

I'm sorry this happened to you, Zibrahim. Have you considered what legal recourse you can take in this situation?

 

[Delta Assault]

I'd go to the police.

Even if they tell you they can't do anything, your complaint will be registered. You don't know what happened, as far as you know, she could have even used you to get herself pregnant. So, just for it to get registered, tell the police, make a declaration, something.

And don't talk to her again.

Dude, read the OP. She put a condom on him.

 

[.GqueB.]

I don't really know how to feel about it. The event is just lingering in my mind and I can't seem to get over it. I'm angry at myself for getting that drunk and allowing myself to be in that situation. But at the same time I trusted her not to do this and she did.

It's all confusing for me.

Don't wanna be cliche here but don't blame yourself for anything. You clearly had a certain level of trust in this person and she shit on it but don't start blaming yourself for drinking too much.