This statement is trouble.
Lets see a guy pull that defense here and see where it goes.
This statement is trouble.
I can't help but think that if I didn't get that drunk, this wouldn't have happened.
next time if she is hot just give her the permission before you get drunk
This is wrong; that's all that can be said about this post, this is wrong!Yep, but to be fair, it sounds like she was wasted too.
Thanks, people. I'm not considering any legal action because I'm still trying to come to terms with what happened. I know I shouldn't blame myself but it's hard not to when I take responsibility for my actions so much. I can't help but think that if I didn't get that drunk, this wouldn't have happened.
She didn't put anything in my drinks and I'm pretty sure she stopped and removed/got rid of the condom because I wasn't exactly performing at my best.
next time if she is hot just give her the permission before you get drunk
next time if she is hot just give her the permission before you get drunk
What part of OPs statement that he didn't want to have sex while drunk did you not understand?next time if she is hot just give her the permission before you get drunk
I'm guessing pretty much the same, but people will get more angry. Some people will try to defend the rapist, the phrase victim blaming will be use, lots of people will get banned, blood thirsty GAF will demand the person to be raped in jail, the usual posters will be involved, the thread will linger in OT for like a month. The usual.
It's not your fault OP, try to talk to the girl and get the complete story. You have the right to know what happened when you passe out.
next time if she is hot just give her the permission before you get drunk
That's a pretty big detail, fucking report that shit.Thanks, people. I'm not considering any legal action because I'm still trying to come to terms with what happened. I know I shouldn't blame myself but it's hard not to when I take responsibility for my actions so much. I can't help but think that if I didn't get that drunk, this wouldn't have happened.
She didn't put anything in my drinks and I'm pretty sure she stopped and removed/got rid of the condom because I wasn't exactly performing at my best.
Correct.
Because I don't like having drunken sex.
Go to the police and report it now. You don't have to pursue prosecution if you don't want to, but it'll be much easier to pursue it later if you change your mind and do want to pursue prosecution later and they already have a report of the activity.
I dunno, a bit of public shaming for these isn't that bad in my opinion.No need to quote the dumb posts. They'll be taken care of.
What part of OPs statement that he didn't want to have sex while drunk did you not understand?
next time if she is hot just give her the permission before you get drunk
Yeah, on more thought on the matter, you need to; the last thing you need is a burden on you from a possible pregnancy that you had no say on. You need to file a report immediately and stay strong in this case.That's a pretty big detail, fucking report that shit.
See this is why male rape victims are not taken seriously.
Thanks, people. I'm not considering any legal action because I'm still trying to come to terms with what happened. I know I shouldn't blame myself but it's hard not to when I take responsibility for my actions so much. I can't help but think that if I didn't get that drunk, this wouldn't have happened.
Dude he didn't want to have sex. I think you don't understand that.next time
No. That's why I'm posting here. I don't know you guys and having an objective response from people that don't know me helps me.
next time if she is hot just give her the permission before you get drunk
To be fair, in not reporting it, the OP isn't taking it as seriously as he should.
It's certainly a murky topic, but this was an incident of rape. The rapist needs to understand the cost of her actions, with the OP confronting her with his feelings at the very least, if not bringing this to the police.
To be fair, in not reporting it, the OP isn't taking it as seriously as he should.
File a damn report. Now.
It's never your fault.
A lot of victims place the blame on themselves like if they had done something differently they wouldn't have gotten raped.
You did nothing wrong. She took advantage of you.
I know you're probably confused right now but she should face legal consequences for what she did. It's more than likely that she has or she will assault someone else.
This.OP, if you have a close friend or family member, I would encourage you to tell them about the incident and see if they'll accompany you when reporting. Can help to have some support.
I'd go to the police.
Even if they tell you they can't do anything, your complaint will be registered. You don't know what happened, as far as you know, she could have even used you to get herself pregnant. So, just for it to get registered, tell the police, make a declaration, something.
And don't talk to her again.
No, I'm being fair. There are women who have trouble with reporting it too. That doesn't mean he's not taking it seriously. He may not be sure if that's the right course of action. He may be confused.
Is this important right now? You dont have to be traumatized to be raped.Are you actually traumatised or just pissed off?
Lord save us from idiots like this.next time if she is hot just give her the permission before you get drunk