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Dating Age |OT$6| Just ask her out already
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RadicalVelocity
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A Hail Mary, obviously. Shooting for that tag, but the chance of success is...
Moose Biscuits
It would be extreamly painful...
Oh, you're older than me. My apologies, I didn't think so (I think I assumed based on your avatar, I usually subconsciously believe people look like their avatars even if they're not real things). Well, maybe I'll end up like you eventually, I'm not going to pretend I know everything at the moment even about myself.
Advocatus Diaboli
Member
I appreciate how you're solemnly optimistic and, shockingly, not jaded. You're right. No one wants someone due to desperation.
That said, I'll unpack the RedPill bullshit that he's slinging and say that, as both men and women gain life experience, dating becomes far simpler.
Moose Biscuits
It would be extreamly painful...
Also please don't call me a robot, it makes me feel a bit bad. Although sometimes I do wish I was a robot, so that everything would be easier. Sometimes I look into methods of removing libido like castration or medication since that's the only thing that feels like it's dragging, but apparently there's no foolproof way of doing it (even castrated people get sexual desire sometimes, which seems mean). I suspect that it's too hardwired in most of us to be fully removed, not to mention the amount of nurture that has an effect.
JadedWriter
Member
I can be reasoned with, I just have to be called out for my dumb bullshit first. I get more dates now than I did in my teens and 20's, still not a lot though. I guess if a person didn't have to wade through my intro personality I'd get dates more.
Been gaming since I was like 6, some things I'm probably just not growing out of. I probably look younger than you though. I do not look 32, few months shy of 33. I wouldn't wish constant loneliness on anybody.
always crazy bacon
Banned
My teenage dating fails were in hindsight due to undeveloped social skills and a lack of confidence. Fortunately there was no internet at that time to support my wrong conclusions as to why I didn't have a girlfriend.
Advocatus Diaboli
Member
Same here. Plus I was fat (though not as fat as I thought I was, of course) and failed the table test. And I was just generally inexperienced, embarrassed of myself, my body, and my ability to have relationships at all. I didn't really start dating until my third year of law school, then I had a detour (marriage), and I feel like it's only been in the last three years that I've actually learned how to be a decent partner.
As y'all know, there have been hurdles.
I can't even recognize the kid who whined about being forever alone.
JadedWriter
Member
I guess everybody fucks shit up at some point.
I could use a Wingman, I'm a catastrophe...and that dude got banned...wow...
always crazy bacon
Banned
Coincidentally one of the reason I thought I was failing was because I was skinny. Grass wasn't greener on the other side.
Hear hear.
Lack of confidence isn't even just about it being something people can detect and consider unattractive, it'll also lead you to self-sabotage and ruin or ignore opportunities you might otherwise have as well (because you feel you don't deserve it, or who would fall for someone like you, so it must not be true or just in your head, etc).
Also, if past experiences lead to you writing off an entire gender as bad apples, the problem is probably you rather than the entire gender specified. WTF at some of these recent posts.
PancakeBurglar
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Had two dates today one was pretty good the other was quite possibly my first straight up bad date.
Date 1, I met up for coffee around noon and chatted for a good hour and half. Really cute and we had quite a bit of common ground. Conversion flowed well and she mentioned she is a big fan of the Alien films and mentioned she wanted to see the new movie with me next week. So I'll try to set up another date with her for next week, probably dinner and movie.
Date 2, I've had mediocre dates that didn't really go anywhere but this girl was worst date I've had yet. Met up for drinks and she was just boring, talked pretty much the entire date without asking many questions about myself, texted a bunch during the date, had very few hobbies and interests. Had like no goals or ambition, she was cute but holy shit was she bland personality wise, first time I've walked away from a date and went "What the hell was that?"
Definitely going to follow up with the first girl though, she was interesting and things felt so much more natural with her. So weird to have two dates the same day with such a big contrast.
Date 1, I met up for coffee around noon and chatted for a good hour and half. Really cute and we had quite a bit of common ground. Conversion flowed well and she mentioned she is a big fan of the Alien films and mentioned she wanted to see the new movie with me next week. So I'll try to set up another date with her for next week, probably dinner and movie.
Date 2, I've had mediocre dates that didn't really go anywhere but this girl was worst date I've had yet. Met up for drinks and she was just boring, talked pretty much the entire date without asking many questions about myself, texted a bunch during the date, had very few hobbies and interests. Had like no goals or ambition, she was cute but holy shit was she bland personality wise, first time I've walked away from a date and went "What the hell was that?"
Definitely going to follow up with the first girl though, she was interesting and things felt so much more natural with her. So weird to have two dates the same day with such a big contrast.
always crazy bacon
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That's why you date multiple people and not put all your expectations on one date.
JadedWriter
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As I said people should just archive my posts and look at them like a fucking bible and do the opposite of what I do.
I swear to God I spend one day dedicated to beating Persona 5 and this thread explodes. I can't leave you all alone for two minutes. I don't have avatars usually either and JadedWriter took my waifu, this is the worst offense.
Dating-GAF |OT7| Begging on the Subway Platform for Another Chance
Dating GAF |OT7| Wife Material to 6.5 At Best In A Week Flat
Also lol at that Ahole or whatever
Dating-GAF |OT7| By My Scientific Calculations, You're Average
Dating-GAF |OT7| Eventually the Women Will Get Desperate
An interesting subject to broach, especially since the homeliest of women still tend to get views. I might give it a read soon.
I'm assuming someone reported him, he was a dick
Dating-GAF |OT7| Begging on the Subway Platform for Another Chance
Dating GAF |OT7| Wife Material to 6.5 At Best In A Week Flat
Also lol at that Ahole or whatever
Dating-GAF |OT7| By My Scientific Calculations, You're Average
Dating-GAF |OT7| Eventually the Women Will Get Desperate
An interesting subject to broach, especially since the homeliest of women still tend to get views. I might give it a read soon.
I'm assuming someone reported him, he was a dick
Or they're watching... Always watching... O_O
always crazy bacon
Banned
FTFY
|OT7| Blowing off friends, and she did too!
Man I love you guys
Not Ahole, but the rest of you
timetokill
Banned
|OT7| I blew off my friends, and she did too!
I did not report him, even though I was the basic shallow bitch lol.
Well due to the earlier incident a bit ago, it's possible mods are actually watching the thread, as I did eventually report that user who shall not be named (because I don't want that dredged up again unless someone really makes the effort to dig through the thread)(Please don't).
So everyone be on your best behavior~~~ ;D
For real though I don't know for sure but yeah, you know, be good and whatever
So everyone be on your best behavior~~~ ;D
For real though I don't know for sure but yeah, you know, be good and whatever
Spent the day at a friend's house party....this one girl was either (1) an annoying drunk, (2) a bit of a jerk, or (3) was just lucky enough to tease me about something I'm working on in therapy
. Funny thing is she had liked my OKC profile about 3 months ago. I didn't like her back since we were both scheduled to attend a mutual friends party, and I had wanted to chat her up in person (she didn't show up).
I got along the best with the woman who had a kid and a husband in jail...
I have trouble expressing emotion via voice
I got along the best with the woman who had a kid and a husband in jail...
always crazy bacon
Banned
It's general advice given to men with certain relationship queries. It's not a gaf creation.
Oh really? I have never heard of it or seen it before this thread some pages back. Titles are better when they are GAF specific so I guess that one is out then haha
Dr Duncan Steel
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UPDATE
She texted me, "So this guy I'm seeing are going to go out tomorrow you want to join us?"
I gave a polite "I think I'll pass, you two have fun." Despite my instincts to respond with something more....colorful.
Taking this L by christening this newly purchased Nintendo Switch and Zelda while I drink until I can't fucking see anymore!
always crazy bacon
Banned
Dr Duncan Steel
Member
She's moving away and specifially told me that it was "best and fair to not have anything with anyone while I'm up here." and here I am seeing this bullshit, I'm just straight furious now. Like I really feel compelled to call her out on that.
Don't
Prob just looking for fun, should have done your thing while the ball was in your court.
Miles Quaritch
Member
Jesus Christ, the fuck happened in here...
AnAhole certainly lived up to his username huh. Goddamn...
AnAhole certainly lived up to his username huh. Goddamn...
Messofanego
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A misogynist called AnAhole was in our midst, but it's all quiet on the waterfront now.
Miles Quaritch
Member
Don't do this, forget about it and move on.
|OT7| I blew off my friends, to jerk off and move on
I had forgotten about that one. Wow these threads really have been great entertainment.
Same. Going to a gym regularly again has done wonders for my self confidence.
always crazy bacon
Banned
Forget it guy, falls under "whatever isn't a hard yes from a woman when you ask them out is actually no" rule.
"I want time to myself"
"I've just got out of a relationship and don't want to jump into another one"
"I'm not looking to date anyone right now"
and all it's variants only to have a new boyfriend the following week (that's not you). It's a really common rejection line. Congratulations on not being a pathetic guy to take her up on the offer of a date with her boyfriend. Many a friendzoned guy would have taken her up on that.
Miles Quaritch
Member
I remember back on college when a girl I was interested in told me she wasn't looking to date anyone, only to be dating someone like a week later.
That was a lesson learned. When women say they aren't looking to date anyone, what they mean is they don't want to date you, but they don't want to come right out and say it for fear of an angry response or because they do like you and how you make them feel but you're not dating material.
Getting upset, angry or wanting to call them out is pointless and it's why people (mostly women, but it's not just limited to them) don't always come out and outright reject someone they aren't interested in.
That was a lesson learned. When women say they aren't looking to date anyone, what they mean is they don't want to date you, but they don't want to come right out and say it for fear of an angry response or because they do like you and how you make them feel but you're not dating material.
Getting upset, angry or wanting to call them out is pointless and it's why people (mostly women, but it's not just limited to them) don't always come out and outright reject someone they aren't interested in.
True Savior
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Jaded what are you doing. Begging? C'mon son.
About the average bullshit in the other page, men and women are both superfluous. It's not true one compromise more than the other. If women can get hotter people online than the counterpart guy it's just cause of volume. You can't blame them cause guys are more thirsty. If you have two people to choose in the same conditions and one is more attractive, it's not hard to know which will be picked.
About the average bullshit in the other page, men and women are both superfluous. It's not true one compromise more than the other. If women can get hotter people online than the counterpart guy it's just cause of volume. You can't blame them cause guys are more thirsty. If you have two people to choose in the same conditions and one is more attractive, it's not hard to know which will be picked.
JadedWriter
Member
I was begging while wearing a Berserk shirt.
Don't forget to drown your feels in some loud goth rock, I can always suggest a few things.
artsi
Member
The girl from friday is pretty fun but I'm afraid she drinks a bit too much to be a potential relationship partner, considering I can't even drink much for medical reasons. She doesn't have a job either, which isn't a problem itself but considering she spends all nights partying... naaah.
Tuesday I'm meeting with this cute bank teller who lives in the countryside and seems more like my type.
Tuesday I'm meeting with this cute bank teller who lives in the countryside and seems more like my type.
always crazy bacon
Banned
always crazy bacon
Banned
That would put her on my avoid list too.
JadedWriter
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If you want a P5 avatar you can always take Tae or Sae. I'm gonna die laughing if my BS winds up as the next OT.
always crazy bacon
Banned
Stop begging for meme status.
JadedWriter
Member
Don't worry I'm pretty sure by the time the next OT rolls around my nonsense will be long forgotten and replaced by something else.
True Savior
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