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[Mr Reasonable]

Why do you think that? Some people aren’t social butterflies.

I get on fine with my work colleagues but that’s all they are. I’m perfectly happy in my own company too. I can do what I want when I want without the need for military planning if I want to go somewhere or do something.

I think there are innumerable situations where having at least a friend or two would make the world of difference.

Perhaps I'm taking what people are saying too literally, but it reads like some would be happy never speaking to a friend ever again.

 

[Windle Poons]

I think there are innumerable situations where having at least a friend or two would make the world of difference.

Perhaps I'm taking what people are saying too literally, but it reads like some would be happy never speaking to a friend ever again.

I don't have any friends.

Am I miserable and lonely? Fuck no.

 

[DeafTourette]

I forgot what the thread title said...

The last close friend I made was around 2018 ... A woman... 6'1 and gorgeous and FINE!

 

[Artistic]

I would like to believe I have one. We became close friends through work about two and half years ago.

 

[NecrosaroIII]

My closest friend I've known since 2003. My most recent ones are from 2021, which I met through work.

 

[IntentionalPun]

I make new friends probably every couple of years. Have quickly escalating friendships and then I always let them fizzle out. Eventually I just ghost people.

I am not capable of REALLY connecting with people like they want to connect with me.

 

[Idleyes]

I am not capable of REALLY connecting with people like they want to connect with me.

Pfft, you're probably similar to me, haven't met anyone who's into gaming as much I am IRL and has their own setup, so I don’t have to share, lol. Most people who tried to be my friend were into things I just wasn’t interested in. I wouldn’t be so quick to assume it's any shortcoming on your part.

 

[nush]

I make new friends probably every couple of years. Have quickly escalating friendships and then I always let them fizzle out. Eventually I just ghost people.

I am not capable of REALLY connecting with people like they want to connect with me.

Be British and have no interest in football and most guys that you meet the only way they can make friends is talking about football. They don't know what to do when you say it's of no interest and just drift off.

Older guys seem to only have three topics of conversation, football, the wife and kids and "Remember when". That's fucking it.

 

[Edmund]

I do have several but I'm at the age where my friends are getting married and having babies so we're kinda drifting apart because it's so hard to arrange for outings anymore when your friends have newborn.

We go from meeting up twice a month in our group to twice a year if we're lucky.

Some aren't even allowed to play video games anymore because their wives would get mad at them.

 

[nush]

Some aren't even allowed to play video games anymore because their wives would get mad at them.

 

[Ellery]

Yes I have close friends.

Last time I made one was 1999

 

[EerieArcade]

I have 0 close friends. I occasionally talk to two people I used to go to school with, but that's it. I've bumped into friends and they've asked me to catch up with a drink down the pub and what have you, but I've never followed up on it. Just happy with doing my own thing. I've never really sat down and thought "Wow, I wish I had friends." I get my social interaction with family and that's enough.

 

[King of Fanta]

Haven't had one in about 15 years I think? Its nice not having to make up reasons for not wanting to go out, gives me more time to drink.

 

[DeafTourette]

Some of these posts are really sad

 

[IntentionalPun]

Pfft, you're probably similar to me, haven't met anyone who's into gaming as much I am IRL and has their own setup, so I don’t have to share, lol. Most people who tried to be my friend were into things I just wasn’t interested in. I wouldn’t be so quick to assume it's any shortcoming on your part.

It’s really not about hobbies for me. My friends and I generally just go out on the town or just have conversations and whatnot. I have a history of people wanting to latch on to me and be a friend and I maintain it for a while, and it’s not like I’m not really enjoying myself while hanging but it all crumbles eventually.

I’m bi-polar among other thing so part of it is just 100% not feeling up to social interactions randomly for like a week at a time then as time goes on not wanting to deal with the feeling that sort of compounds.

 

[Alex11]

The last friends I had was when I was 24-25 years -- now I'm 37 -- and they were bothered by something I did that didn't affect them whatsoever so they "unfriended" me, lol.

Disappointing, but that's ok because it taught me a valuable lesson, don't trust anyone completely and "friend" it's a wrong word when you're an adult.
You have people that you connect with through shared interests, views, hobbies, etc., but that connection can be very easily broken if you start contradicting for different reasons.

 

[StreetsofBeige]

The last friends I had was when I was 24-25 years -- now I'm 37 -- and they were bothered by something I did that didn't affect them whatsoever so they "unfriended" me, lol.

Disappointing, but that's ok because it taught me a valuable lesson, don't trust anyone completely and "friend" it's a wrong word when you're an adult.
You have people that you connect with through shared interests, views, hobbies, etc., but that connection can be very easily broken if you start contradicting for different reasons.

Being ignored or unfriended doesn't even have to have a cause.

On FB or Linkedin, I had numerous coworkers who were cool, friends, even went to some of their weddings. I dont speak to them anymore since we all changed jobs, so we werent super close or anything. But you'd think at least just stay in contact on FB and/or Linkedin.

Nope. Suddenly Unfriended on FB and Unconnected on Linkedin. I guess I'm too peripheral as a friend to be connected since they are still connected with other people (including other people I know too).

Oh well. Dont care. I've never unfriended someone. And on Linkedin only unconnected from some recruiters who I never spoke to or are outright annoying spamming me BS posts. But in life, some people will disconnect from others, while some will just leave it as is.

 

[Dr. Suchong]

Definitely harder to make a friend when you're older (I'm 46)
I mean, how do people do it?, I don't get it?
I'm certainly not going to ask another guy if he wants to "Maybe get together for drinks? " or something, if we "hit it off", seems kind of feeble, I dunno, like "Please be my friend!"
Additionally, the only place I'm likely to form relationships is at work, and I find once you remove the work component, you find you have little to talk about to the person outside of that.
I have no friends now through choice.
I find people mostly exhausting and I tire of pushing and pulling with them.
I'm Asocial, introverted, socially anxious, and have single sided deafness, so talking to people is generally a fucking nightmare.

 

[DeVeAn]

These days I tend to be VERY picky with friends. Had made a neighborhood friend as I was new to the hood. He was very helpful. I noticed he started acting like a girlfriend expecting me to inform him of things. FUCK THAT. I don't want other peoples bullshit in my life. I don't mind a vent session her and there.

I miss talking to the "bros". I dropped a long time friend a year ago. Known him since 3rd grade. I realized I was always there for him while he used me to fill voids and dump issues on.

I'll just talk to my wife and kids for the time being.

 

[Soapbox Killer]

I make real friends every time I change jobs. People that I will speak to long after I stopped working there. I'm an extrovert and like speaking with strangers and being neighborly so it's easy for me.

 

[Pagusas]

yes 4 of them.

1 from highschool, he was the best man at my wedding and we have that type of friendship where we can go a year without talking and pick up like we just spoke yesterday. Trust him with my life.

2 from work, 1 guy and 1 girl, I text both every day even though we no longer work together, have lunches and dinners together, they threw me a surprise birthday party with my wife this year. I know both would be there for me if I ever needed anything.

and then my wife, met her in my mid 20's and we are each others best friends, around each other more than anyone else, we've traveled the world together, and we both have each others backs through everything.

 

[Lord Panda]

Nvm

 

[nush]

I dropped a long time friend a year ago.

I dropped a friend of 30 years about 18 months ago.

She got addicted to crack and was working her way through her old friends list milking them all until they left. She hid the addiction long enough until she realized they was no payday and got nasty. I instantly bailed when I knew what time it was.

30 years ago nice guy isn't the guy I am now. Surprise Pikachu bitch.

 

[Fbh]

Not really. Used to have a couple but we all ended up in different countries and just started to drift apart over the years. We still keep in touch though but it's obviously not the same as hanging out in person.
I've moved around several times over the last decade, always to pretty far away locations. So I hardly even have non close friends these days (at least I still keep "hanging out" with some friends through videogames)

It gets lonely sometimes but at the same time I've always been more on the introverted side so I do decently on my own too.

 

[El Muerto]

I have a few left. Quit hanging out with some of my friends because they dont have cars so could never meet up unless i pick them up, but they never have money to go do anything like go out and eat, and just never want to hang out and play games and chill. All the cool people at my job left and we lost touch. I work from home so kinda hard to make more friends. I dont want to go out somewhere and talk to random dudes and try to make friends, that's kinda weird lol.

 

[kazuyamishima]

Used to have a couple, but since I moved to another country 8 years ago, everything changed.

The last one that I had we basically drifted apart due to some business issues (not my fault but his) and then we even barely talk anymore.

In the country that I'm atm (Australia) is a little bit hard considering that I'm approaching 40, I do have interactions with a lot of people aside of my work colleagues but nothing close, I started to play Football (soccer) again about 2 years ago but ended with a Torn ACL in one knee and a tear meniscus in the other one so goodbye to make any pals through that.

My wife thinks that I should be making more friends no matter the cost but most of the times I only have energy to lift some weights after work and play some games or watch a few movies/series.

I don't consider myself an introvert person, but I do find very tiresome to search for new friends since it's very hard to find decent and real people/friends.

 

[GigaBowser]

i wars pvopular in highschool played football then became town drunk and got arbd now I got only a couple buddies buuuuuut married and harv a family so dont care

 

[Darkmakaimura]

I would like to consider my roommate as a good friend but not sure she considers me one.

Edit: she moved in last February.

 

[DeVeAn]

I feel like I am both introvert/extrovert. I can speak to anyone about a lot. There are times where I don't even want to see another human lol.

 

[Laptop1991]

For me it depends on your age, i had loads of friends when i was a teen or in my twenties, but they get less and less as i grew older and they drifted away mostly, i remember my Dad saying you can name your true friends on 1 hand and he was right, i only have a core of long time friends, with other's being acquaintances.

 

[Kacho]

My friend group drifted apart when we got married and had kids. I'm fine with it though. I get all my social interaction through work and family.

Shit posting with internet bros about video games helps fill the void there.

 

[Coconutt]

34 year old man , I've had plenty of acquaintances but can't say I've ever had a close friend in all my life. For the longest time I thought there was something wrong with me but took a while to realize I just don't like being around others life's much simpler if the only thing you have to worry about is yourself.