I've been seeing this girl a couple month's now, a real sweetheart but in typical southern fashion has put her heart in the wrong place and been hurt. Currently she has a 1 year old she has joint custody with the alcoholic father, something she needs to do since his mother is her main babysitter. She has no money - she borrowed $425 from a coworker for a week to make rent - but should be doing better now that she's working 40+ hours. We started dating shortly after she left her last boyfriend she lived with.
Today I find out in that brief week she hooked up with him, something I didn't know her to do based on her personality; We're both "relationship types".
She's pregnant; 9 weeks, Not mine.
I consider myself at least mildly intelligent, and thanks to GAF and YouTube I feel I have a solid understanding for most things in the world even if I'll never experience them intimately. That said, given her situation, the most confusing part is she won't have an abortion? Its mentally exhausting, I get that - I just called my mom for advice who said crying my father made her get one she still regrets - but is it my male reasoning that makes me feel this is the best option?
Abortion should only be used as a last resort, but to better her life and her current child's I think it's the only real option.
It's her choice, her life, and I'll respect whatever she chooses.