What's the confusion here? If someone has sex with you against your will then it's rape.
Dude, read the OP. She put a condom on him.
I can help you clear that up. You know what causes rape? Rapists.I don't really know how to feel about it. The event is just lingering in my mind and I can't seem to get over it. I'm angry at myself for getting that drunk and allowing myself to be in that situation. But at the same time I trusted her not to do this and she did.
It's all confusing for me.
Yep, definitely rape. And don't blame yourself OP.I don't really know how to feel about it. The event is just lingering in my mind and I can't seem to get over it. I'm angry at myself for getting that drunk and allowing myself to be in that situation. But at the same time I trusted her not to do this and she did.
It's all confusing for me.
Yep, but to be fair, it sounds like she was wasted too.
Genderswap the situation and then tell me if thats still an valid excuse for you.
I don't really know how to feel about it. The event is just lingering in my mind and I can't seem to get over it. I'm angry at myself for getting that drunk and allowing myself to be in that situation. But at the same time I trusted her not to do this and she did.
It's all confusing for me.
She was definitely more sober than I was.
Seems he didn't wanna do it drunk. I've gotten like that before. Having sex while too drunk is more trouble than its worth.Why did you not want to have set with her? I don't think I could ever be raped by a female since I wouldn't be in an intimate setting with someone that I didn't want to have set with
This statement is trouble.Yep, but to be fair, it sounds like she was wasted too.
Last night I was hanging out with a girl and a few drinks turned into a lot more. She turned on some music and started grinding on me then pulled me into the bedroom; I remember all of that. Then I started to pass out and sort of hunched over her as she kept grinding on me. She pushed me onto the bed and took my pants off. At this point I remember saying, "hey no, let's not do this drunk" and she said it was fine. She grabbed a prophylactic and put it on me and attempted to have sex with me while I was on the bed. I was in and out of all of this; only remember flashes of what happened.
Woke up this morning and she apologized for what happened last night.
I feel really weird about this because I'm a guy who doesn't really care too much about getting laid or not. But when I ask a woman not to have sex with me and she does, while I'm drunk at that, I feel...I don't know violated doesn't seem to encompass the feeling.
Dude, read the OP. She put a condom on him.
Last night I was hanging out with a girl and a few drinks turned into a lot more. She turned on some music and started grinding on me then pulled me into the bedroom; I remember all of that. Then I started to pass out and sort of hunched over her as she kept grinding on me. She pushed me onto the bed and took my pants off. At this point I remember saying, "hey no, let's not do this drunk" and she said it was fine. She grabbed a prophylactic and put it on me and attempted to have sex with me while I was on the bed. I was in and out of all of this; only remember flashes of what happened.
Woke up this morning and she apologized for what happened last night.
I feel really weird about this because I'm a guy who doesn't really care too much about getting laid or not. But when I ask a woman not to have sex with me and she does, while I'm drunk at that, I feel...I don't know violated doesn't seem to encompass the feeling.
Usually I would say the same thing, as it make sense to do so, but one should do a little research first; some law enforcement is extremely sexist when it comes to violations when the victim is male. Sadly, I speak from experience.That's horrible. File a police report immediately.
Wait what? So did she or didn't she? Also what's a prophylactic in this situation?
What's the confusion here? If someone has sex with you against your will then it's rape.
And where is the condom then?
Something along those lines, yeah.What's a prohylactic?
Condom?
Dude, read the OP. She put a condom on him.
Why did you not want to have set with her? I don't think I could ever be raped by a female since I wouldn't be in an intimate setting with someone that I didn't want to have set with
What's a prohylactic?
Condom?
Why did you not want to have set with her? I don't think I could ever be raped by a female since I wouldn't be in an intimate setting with someone that I didn't want to have set with
So... you're suggesting she wanted to get pregnant by... slipping a condom on him, and then taking it off so she could collect the semen from the condom and put it into a turkey baster, so she could try and use the turkey baster to impregnate herself?
Wha?
She could easily changed her mind or lost it inbetween.So... you're suggesting she wanted to get pregnant by... slipping a condom on him, and then taking it off so she could collect the semen from the condom and put it into a turkey baster, so she could try and use the turkey baster to impregnate herself?
Wha?
So... you're suggesting she wanted to get pregnant by... slipping a condom on him, and then taking it off so she could collect the semen from the condom and put it into a turkey baster, so she could try and use the turkey baster to impregnate herself?
Wha?
Usually I would say the same thing, as it make sense to do so, but one should do a little research first; some law enforcement is extremely sexist when it comes to violations when the victim is male. Sadly, I speak from experience.
It's actually not unheard of.
I wonder what the replies in this thread would be like if the OP was a woman...
Well most statutes call it "sexual battery" now and from your description, that's unfortunately exactly what happened.
Have you talked to anyone (a friend or a family member) about what happened?
It would be much more matter of fact to tell her to go to the police. Posters here are giving the OP a lot more leeway to come to his own decision after getting some guidance and reflecting on it. This is not a bad way to look it, imo, but it is certainly different than if the gender was reversed.That sounds pretty bad, those types of situations can leave a very lasting imprint on a person.
I wonder what the replies in this thread would be like if the OP was a woman...
That sounds pretty bad, those types of situations can leave a very lasting imprint on a person.
I wonder what the replies in this thread would be like if the OP was a woman...