It goes both ways. I remember in the no fap TED Talks thread there were loads of people judging anyone who watched porn because apparently everyone was addicted and was suffering because of it. The idea was that everyone could improve themselves if they stopped masturbating, which is kinda ridiculous. If it's affecting you negatively then yeah you probably should cut down.
Ignore people who view it as weird or whatever else and stop if you think you have to, but repressing sexual urges can also have bad results.
Thanks for your reply. But sexual urges come and go and it's really a build up of energy that can be directed at other things in life. Of course if I'm dwelling on something sexual, the urges will be stronger than ever. But again, I always thought those sexual urges were good and not simply repressing them but either redirecting it to other activities as said above or using the urges and flirting with girls. That's how I always thought.
And yes, I am a very introvert at nature. I grew up with few friends. And my whole life I would hang more around my family members or the few friends I had. So when I discovered porn and masturbation in my early teen years and the sexual urges were beginning to surface. I thought well since I find it hard to flirt with girls why not fap to porn. Then it became a dependence to relieve my sexual urges and not wanting to talk to girls at all.
That's not normal. That's why I don't fap and participated in this challenge so that I can improve. And since participating I have seen an increase in me talking and flirting with a lot more girls than usual.
That's just my experience. I'm definitely NOT encouraging this for EVERYONE. And telling everyone to stop watching porn. "The idea was that everyone could improve themselves if they stopped masturbating, which is kinda ridiculous." That is definitely ridiculous. Porn is nice. It's art. It can sometimes teach you new things to do during a sexual act with a significant other. Naked photos of girls, girls in lingerie is nice also. Masturbating is helpful too. It lets you experience your own body and find things you never thought you could do before or what turns you on.
But the effects porn and masturbating done to me, like the tiresome, making me dependent on it to relieve my sexual urges, anti-social, low dopamine levels. It definitely made want to STOP and make a change.
Again this is me. It probably doesn't effect other introverts or extroverts like it does me.
See, thats all different. You've got other issues going on. The porn and wanking might be making it worse for you, but dont act like everybody is like this. I'm sorry for your troubles and all, but plenty of people do these things without all the bad side effects. I certainly dont feel anti-social after a wank. Tired, maybe, cuz I can be relaxed, but its not like I'm immediately drained or anything like after an 'enthusiastic' bout of sex or something.
Exactly. That's why I said I'm probably a small percentage of those that suffer more of a psychological effect than what others might experience. I'm not praising or boasting about what works for me. But I suffer from a few psychological issues that have improved.
And again. I'm not saying it makes everyone feel the same way like I do. I agree what you have said. But this is my experience. I'm not preaching or anything.
