You should read this book:
It even has a nice passage on issues you've mentioned - anxiety, OCD, personality disorder, etc. I highly recommend reading the whole book though. It certainly got my head straight.
I can't, don't want to fuck this up, this woman is legit wife material. I never think about marriage, but she is top fucking tier. But perhaps I just should relax a bit. If she didn't want a second date, we wouldn't have planned a second date.
True. She just seems to have all of her ducks in a row and I'm really impressed by this. I've met a good amount of...well effing crazy people so it's nice to meet somebody that's different.
Yup...that's one of my biggest problems. I actually told myself that it would hurt too.
Slow your roll, dude! If you jump ahead like this and get rejected later on, you're gonna have one hell of a heartbreak. Don't emotionally overinvest this early.
I guess the best way to put it is that I would not mind if it got to that point in a few years. I'm not shopping for rings yet though for example. But yeah I have to calm the fuck down a bit.
Excellent job, successful in her career not a fucking basket case, intelligent, sweet and cute. She's not perfect and I know this already. She's just got it a lot more together than a lot of women I've tried to date and got more going for her than my ex.
I have dealt with introverted and "this woman is cray cray" introverted. She doesn't seem to be the later cause she seems as of now emotionally independent from her mom, not living at home, has a job, functions very well in her job and manages people, which I'm assuming based on what I know about her job. She didn't tell me about having to pop a Xanex or something. I'll play it by ear of course and yeah I don't 100% know how she thinks about things, but she doesn't strike me as dangerous to either herself or me, which I've had to deal with, it ain't pretty. She just seems as of now Introverted in a don't drain all my energy sort of way.
Well the texting thing...I'm pretty sure is more my fault than hers, I can text a lot and I'm pretty sure that would be annoying, wasn't even mad when she said that cause she could have just ghosted me for it. I'd rather know what her hang ups are so I can try to adjust to them instead of blindly walk on land mines. Yes my ex was my first real relationship. Lasted 14 months. I don't think the last 6 weeks of that went well cause there was a lot of stuff going on putting a huge strain on the relationship.
Me too, me too. Don't worry, I'm not rushing into this decision. But there's always going to be some regret ending things. It's just the name of the game.
Actually I swiped left a lot because of the stupid music some girls listened to. But maybe that's only me *shrug*
I will admit to having attachment issues. I should do my best to tone it down a bit. It does get pretty bad.
I guess compared to some of the shit I've dealt with. I guess to put it more realistically I like her enough not to really be in the mood to try to pursue other women. I swear at this point I'm going to wind up a GAF meme or something.
Hmm, I can stand a lot of stuff. But something like this stupid Bibi (German YouTuber) song is not acceptable.
Hmm, I can stand a lot of stuff. But something like this stupid Bibi (German YouTuber) song is not acceptable.
Yes, if it is something like this. Why shouldn't I? In the end it's a part of a profile where the person in question presents their character to possible partners. You probably would pass on somebody if they wrote something in their profile you can't agree with. For me, it's just the same.
My last date was July of 2016, broke up with my ex a month before that. I hated my last date. I think the fact that I went awhile without feeling anything and enjoyed the date so much that I probably am...over feeling a bit? I reacted pretty positively to it so I guess I just can't wait for more of it. Just hope I don't tackle hug the little woman out of excitement. I'm fully aware of the fact that nobody is perfect, I guess I'm just looking for acceptably flawed and as of right now she pretty acceptable, not settling, I do have standards.I understand where you are coming from. Finding someone new is super exciting. Don't let yourself NOT feel those things , just don't let them affect how you interact with her and other people. Lock that stuff away until you know there is something mutual there
I probably should have a long time ago, I'm a bit of a mess dating wise, so I guess I came in here for hard feedback cause...whelp I guess I want a third date...unless she's throws a plate of food at me on Saturday.
other dates? Umm my last date was July of 2016 I know where I stand in the dating game. Haven't had a "second date" since probably 2015. I will agree that I should just chill the fuck out though before I give myself a heart attack or something.
I usually wait a bit to see how everything goes. I mean if she pisses me off I'll bail and figure something else out, but I really try not to date too many women at the same time. I've had enough female friends to have a decent enough read on what I don't really like. I have liked her enough to want to see her again so I'm perfectly fine with that sentiment.
I have hit meme tier confirmed lol.
I'm used to being written off cause I'm either black, too short, not rich or some other non sense. She's probably been written off for some shit too, people are fickle. I guess I'd rather just try putting work into the current woman instead of wasting my time finding other women that most likely wouldn't want anything to do with me any way. I don't think we have everything in common, but if we can make something work then that's what matters to me. I found my ex to be all kinds of ignorant and insecure, still loved her and got 14 months out of it. Granted when we broke up, well we pretty much just had to break up. Got really tired of her putting her parents before me and almost leaving me in a situation where I could have become homeless. I got patience, but that was the last straw.
