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Dating Age |OT$6| Just ask her out already

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LookAtMeGo

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I fuckin hate night clubs now man. All about the pubs now. You can still be social and you dont have to lean in and scream in someones ear. Ive been getting matches on Tinder but not even starting any convos. We all go through rutts. Then out of nowhere the dates will line up.

I find when I'm just focusing on myself is when the girls come. When I'm actively looking shit never happens. I think women can smell the desperation or confidence.
 
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dreamcastmaster

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LookAtMeGo said:
I fuckin hate night clubs now man. All about the pubs now. You can still be social and you dont have to lean in and scream in someones ear. Ive been getting matches on Tinder but not even starting any convos. We all go through rutts. Then out of nowhere the dates will line up.

I find when I'm just focusing on myself is when the girls come. When I'm actively looking shit never happens. I think women can smell the desperation or confidence.
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It's true, when you try it doesn't happen. When you stop trying to force it you'll get more success.
 
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Gotdatmoney

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LookAtMeGo said:
Im not gona say anything. But I know she likes to hang out at their work. Its a nice bistro/lounge right on the ocean so if she says she wants to go hang out there I think I may have to mention it to avoid an awkward surprise. Or maybe I'll try to avoid going there for a bit. Lol. I think it would make me look like a dick if I said nothing knowing that the ex works there and I show up with the new girl.
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If something that should trigger it in regular conversation comes up then sure. But I wouldn't bring it up unprompted because its not really your duty to consider your ex in any decisions.

Living the Dream said:
I've finally met the one. We've been going out for a month and a half now and I asked her to be my girlfriend. She said yes! 💍😊😍

Can't wait to see what the future brings
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I'm happy for you. But never use the ring emojii again. Infact, just uninstall emojiis from your keyboard
I kid, but seriously, burn that emojiis existamce from your memory
 
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Gotdatmoney

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dreamcastmaster said:
It's true, when you try it doesn't happen. When you stop trying to force it you'll get more success.
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Forcing yourself to be more social is a good thing. You just cant force a relationship is all. You just gotta roll with vibe of the people you meet.

Blitzrules240 said:
I'll keep this in mind for my upcoming party bus venture.
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Just be social and try to have a good time. That's the major thing.
 
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LookAtMeGo

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Yup. The times I do the best are when I am just out and having a good time just being myself and being social. As soon as the prowl mode gets turned on its like a lady repellent.
 
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Prologue

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Prologue said:
Took a classmate out for dessert since she saved me a few weeks back. Suppose to be an hour thing, tops. Ended up walking around for 6 hours, just talking. Even concluded the night with getting her wet and playing in huge fountain, having her lay on my lap for a good while afterwards. Insane how chemistry can be there for some people and absent in others. Nothing can result from this and I can still say that was an awesome memory for me.


Anyone on the fence, really doesn't hurt to ask.
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Asked her out a week ago, tentatively planned for Thursday but she had to cancel cause of move and family stuff. Told her to let me know for the following week if not, we'll keep in touch. Got a message today about wanting to see each other this week. Supposedly even has a gift for me. On for Thursday. Nervous as fuck. Girl is a solid 10. Noticed her two years ago and the world stopped. Never attempted anything cause I was in a relationship. And now? a second outing?

I feel like I shouldn't be as happy about this as I am. I mean, it can go horrible but damm, one hell of a confidence booster. I rarely put myself out there after being burned in the past.
 
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Puck Beaverton

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Messofanego said:
I think you forgot about the butter.

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I should try the "not trying" approach at bars. I could always play pool badly.
 
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LookAtMeGo

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Good for you prologue. Best of luck. Thats a good feeling to have. On one hand you can get crushed but on the other you could have something special.

I actually just matched a girl on Tinder who came straight out of my dreams. I had to say something but not comment about her looks as I'm sure everyone does. Fingers crossed for a response. Its tough to know what to say when someones profile is basically perfect.

10/10, loves videogames, boxes, loves sci fi movies, likes dogs more than people.. the list goes on and it was basically a mirror of my own profile minus the 10/10
 
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Messofanego

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Subpar Scrub said:
My friend took photos of me in the suit but they're blurry and shit. I actually don't know how he managed to screw up basically every shot, including group shots where he said I looked fine, but I'm clearly talking to someone off the the side and nobody was ready 🙄 Guess I'll have to find another excuse to suit up sometime soon and take some pics. Maybe hit the casino on Tuesday, idk. This weekend I've got a friend's birthday and she's inviting all of her friends to a Japanese beer place and I've also got a chill barbecue party after work on Sunday that should be cool. Both opportunities to meet new people and get some photos. Also considering either going on a mountain ride on the motorcycle or jet skiing on Saturday, both for getting pictures and just generally having fun.

I was chatting up a girl I hadn't met before at the races for a little while and told her I'd catch her later, but I left with some mates for like an hour to grab some drinks and make some bets and by the time I got back, she was passed out and being helped out of the venue by her slightly less drunk friends. Free beer, wine and spirits made that a pretty common site, unfortunately. My mate's GF is newish friends with her, so I'll undoubtedly run into her again within a few weeks.
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Jet skiing is so much fun, have only done it once in Malaysia but what a thrill going at such a high speed that the wind dries all the water on you and you're just gliding!
 
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PancakeBurglar

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So dating gaf what is your take on calling vs texting when it comes to communicating with someone in the early stages of dating. I'm 25 and it seems everyone around my age pretty much only texts but I always hear advice to call her instead of text her, would like to hear your guys input on the subject.
 
Raptomex

Raptomex

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PancakeBurglar said:
So dating gaf what is your take on calling vs texting when it comes to communicating with someone in the early stages of dating. I'm 25 and it seems everyone around my age pretty much only texts but I always hear advice to call her instead of text her, would like to hear your guys input on the subject.
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I prefer texting, myself. In my experience, some girls like to call and I do it but I'm not a fan of talking on the phone in general. Usually because I'm doing something and now I have to stop to take a phone call. I guess it boils down to the situation and what you prefer.
 
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Subpar Scrub

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Messofanego said:
Jet skiing is so much fun, have only done it once in Malaysia but what a thrill going at such a high speed that the wind dries all the water on you and you're just gliding!
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I have a 4 stroke supercharged one sitting on the pontoon out the back of my house (water-front) but I don't ride it as much as I should have because I've taken it for granted. Like, most people would kill for that but because it's there I can rationalize "eh, I'll take it out next week". Imma go for a run on it this weekend. I'll sandwich it between 2 parties I have this weekend lol

Anyway was talking to a girl in class today who sat next to me and I think is pretty damn cool. Grabbed lunch and drinks, cracking jokes etc, was pretty fun. Unfortunately, I added her to facebook to add her to the group discussion page we have for assignments and she has a boyfriend. Oh well, she'll be cool to have as a friend. Similar fitness/career/study goals, so I need positive motivators like that lmao... and who knows, she might have some single friends ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
 
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Krauser Kat

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Keep on texting. Maybe call once, to tell a longer story you dont want to text.

Friends... i might be out of the game.

Im starting to really like this women i met. I have seen her 4 times (we met at a bar). Every date has been fantastic. Was expecting a long busy date on friday but we ended up just getting a beer outside and then going back to her place and smoking weed and talking for like 4 hours. I went over to her place to go see GoT last night and it was just as much fun.
 
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Living the Dream

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Krauser Kat said:
Keep on texting. Maybe call once, to tell a longer story you dont want to text.

Friends... i might be out of the game.

Im starting to really like this women i met. I have seen her 4 times (we met at a bar). Every date has been fantastic. Was expecting a long busy date on friday but we ended up just getting a beer outside and then going back to her place and smoking weed and talking for like 4 hours. I went over to her place to go see GoT last night and it was just as much fun.
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Nothing better than an amazing date. Good for you!
 
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Peltz

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PancakeBurglar said:
So dating gaf what is your take on calling vs texting when it comes to communicating with someone in the early stages of dating. I'm 25 and it seems everyone around my age pretty much only texts but I always hear advice to call her instead of text her, would like to hear your guys input on the subject.
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How sexy is your voice? To me, calling will always be preferred, but most girls just want to text.

Krauser Kat said:
Keep on texting. Maybe call once, to tell a longer story you dont want to text.

Friends... i might be out of the game.

Im starting to really like this women i met. I have seen her 4 times (we met at a bar). Every date has been fantastic. Was expecting a long busy date on friday but we ended up just getting a beer outside and then going back to her place and smoking weed and talking for like 4 hours. I went over to her place to go see GoT last night and it was just as much fun.
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Man, we're dropping like flies.
 
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Megalosaro

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Peltz said:
How sexy is your voice? To me, calling will always be preferred, but most girls just want to text.
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For me, I hate talking on the phone. I spend all day at work on the phone. The last thing I want to do is talk to my girl. I've only ever texted her.

Ever.

Prologue said:
Asked her out a week ago, tentatively planned for Thursday but she had to cancel cause of move and family stuff. Told her to let me know for the following week if not, we'll keep in touch. Got a message today about wanting to see each other this week. Supposedly even has a gift for me. On for Thursday. Nervous as fuck. Girl is a solid 10. Noticed her two years ago and the world stopped. Never attempted anything cause I was in a relationship. And now? a second outing?

I feel like I shouldn't be as happy about this as I am. I mean, it can go horrible but damm, one hell of a confidence booster. I rarely put myself out there after being burned in the past.
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Good luck my man.
 
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gaiages

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lol everyone chill, Living the Dream is just excited. :p At least, I take him for the more reasonable sort and it was obvious that ring emoji was a joke
 
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Mediking

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Advocatus Diaboli said:
And all at once too. This is unparalleled. Who do we turn this thread over to? What longtime regulars are still single and looking? Lulubop? Jason's Ultimatum?
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Pretty sure there's a 23 year old college graduate named Mediking whose been around this thread since day one and is single and still looking...

But don't tell him I said that!!!
 
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Leeness

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So, I'll always be around to provide laughs :D

I should start replying to these people and see how dumb I can make the conversation lol
 
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Advocatus Diaboli

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Mediking said:
Pretty sure there's a 23 year old college graduate named Mediking whose been around this thread since day one and is single and still looking...

But don't tell him I said that!!!
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Okay, cool. I vaguely remember you. But, you're now crowned: this thread is about you now.

How can we elder statesmen help you?
 
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Leeness

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Baron von Loathsome said:
"I bet you give good head."

"Oh, you're into shrunken heads, too?"
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"Got a good head on my shoulders, yes".

Miles Quaritch said:
Ask how much cash that one guy is willing to pay.

I mean, how lonely do you have to be to pay someone to hang out.
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I've deleted them all already, but next time I get something similar, I'll ask.

Advocatus Diaboli said:
Let's be honest.

You give good parent.
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That would be true. I would make a really good daughter in law. That's the only part I'd be good at.

Gotdatmoney said:
I can only hope those guys are just fucking around. Worst openers ever.
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They definitely aren't lol.
 
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Gotdatmoney

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LordKasual said:
The highest response rate I get is when i'm trolling my ass off.

In fact most of my actual dates come from trolling

they aren't fucking around lol
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Eeeek. Tbh all I had to do was work on my profile and try out a variety of types of responses and when one worked consistently it just gets stashed in the box of usables. I imagine "you must give good head" leads to many convos
 
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Lulubop

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Advocatus Diaboli said:
And all at once too. This is unparalleled. Who do we turn this thread over to? What longtime regulars are still single and looking? Lulubop? Jason's Ultimatum?
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Still can't really date due to finical reasons, but I have been on dates and they have went well for the most part. I'm taking to a few girls who know what's up, and are cool about it. Still I have to be pretty passive about things, and 1 girl I can tell is kinda done with it but that's fine. Fortunately things are looking up for me, so that's good. Been itching to really get back out there
 
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LookAtMeGo

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I hate that I'm not witty or clever. My first responses are always weak. I usually comment about something they said in their profile because that seems like what you should be doing but I dont get many responses. I never get a witty first reply. Girls are almost always just like "hi" and that seems totally reasonable to me.
 
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Pattycakes

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LookAtMeGo said:
I hate that I'm not witty or clever. My first responses are always weak. I usually comment about something they said in their profile because that seems like what you should be doing but I dont get many responses. I never get a witty first reply. Girls are almost always just like "hi" and that seems totally reasonable to me.
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Don't put a lot of effort into first replies imo. Honestly, a simple hi or hey suffices with maybe a question. "Hey, I saw X do you like Y?" gets my interest in like 95% of opening messages.
 
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Messofanego

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Krauser Kat said:
Keep on texting. Maybe call once, to tell a longer story you dont want to text.

Friends... i might be out of the game.

Im starting to really like this women i met. I have seen her 4 times (we met at a bar). Every date has been fantastic. Was expecting a long busy date on friday but we ended up just getting a beer outside and then going back to her place and smoking weed and talking for like 4 hours. I went over to her place to go see GoT last night and it was just as much fun.
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WTF is going on, is it cuffing season for GAF bachelors?! Zackie, artsi, and now you?

vern, you will never settle down, right?
 
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