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[Subpar Scrub]

I don't mean to interject, but you don't pee afterwards?

People don't always pee after sex lol

It's not surprising lol.

Self-depreciating leeness is best leeness.

By the way, is there a resource people use for trendy haircuts? My hair is hard to work with (I've broken at least 4 barber's clippers in my life that I can remember. Curly and thick as fuck) and every time I type in "mens curly hair style" I get dudes with hair to their shoulders or afros that look trash haha. I asked my barber and he left the hair on top and shaved down the sides and back, but said because of how slow my hair grows, I'd need to just wait for months and months if I wanted a style like this or slightly shorter:

 

[_Nemo]

Don't click links and don't join them on Skype or whatever. You should either be talking in Tinder, in Text, or in Real Life. Do that, you'll be fine.

Thanks. And what about fake profiles & fake pics? Are there a lot of those?

 

[Subpar Scrub]

Thanks. And what about fake profiles & fake pics? Are there a lot of those?

Mileage may vary depending on location I guess. I've encountered a few gay guys who set their thing as "women" which is annoying as fuck. Only encountered 2 bots across maybe 16 matches over the last 4 days.

 

[Salamando]

Thanks. And what about fake profiles & fake pics? Are there a lot of those?

You'll be fine! Just remember to think with your head, not your dick. Don't spend too much time chatting before the first meet. Have the first meet someplace public, where you can easily bail if she's not what she presented herself as.

As long as you're not giving out your credit card, the worst that'll happen are no-shows, girls using outdated pics, and, worst of all, girls who are lukewarm on you while you fell madly for them.

 

[Big Blue]

well I fucked up last night.

cancelled plans due to a torrential downpour. like I felt it was unsafe to drive.

I feel pretty guilty about it because she was telling me that it was a hard day yesterday and she was looking forward to going out.

best ways to make it up to her?

Damn man, is it monsoon season or something?? Not gonna lie, that's kind of weak otherwise.

 

[Messofanego]

Is there like an unspoken rule on Gaf to not have yourself as your avatar? I feel like I'm always the only one on a thread with myself as my avatar haha.
(sorry for going off topic)

There's like a handful of RealPic GAFers in this thread (including me).

 

[EchoChamber]

Why people put in their bios that they want to meet people or make new friends? I mean tinder is a dating app right?

I found various friends and acquaintances on tinder and they all have boyfriends, that's why I'm asking hahaha.

 

[Messofanego]

Why people put in their bios that they want to meet people or make new friends? I mean tinder is a dating app right?

I found various friends and acquaintances on tinder and they all have boyfriends, that's why I'm asking hahaha.

Maybe they are desperate and don't know of the other avenues to find friends like meetup or work or new events because they just keep to themselves all the time.

 

[Advocatus Diaboli]

People don't always pee after sex lol

Wait. How can you not?

 

[Leeness]

Self-depreciating leeness is best leeness.

The only kind.

Maybe they are desperate and don't know of the other avenues to find friends like meetup or work or new events because they just keep to themselves all the time.

Yes.

 

[Subpar Scrub]

Why people put in their bios that they want to meet people or make new friends?

To make it easier for me to swipe left.

 

[jwk94]

Why people put in their bios that they want to meet people or make new friends? I mean tinder is a dating app right?

I found various friends and acquaintances on tinder and they all have boyfriends, that's why I'm asking hahaha.

I can answer this one! You might be in a position where it's difficult to meet new people. I live in smalltown, USA and work remotely so making new friends is practically impossible. That, and it seems like even outside of a traditional working environment, most people have already established their groups of friends.

People don't always pee after sex lol


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So then what do you do about leakage??

 

[Subpar Scrub]

So then what do you do about leakage??

About what!? I have no issue cleaning up and not "leaking" 🤢 This is the first time I've heard of someone having that issue.

 

[Megalosaro]

Had a great day with my gf.

Woke up, had breakfast that sucked but was free. Had some adult fun time, took a shower and had more adult fun time.

Went back to her place. Her mom wasn't home so we cuddled for a bit and talked for a while

Went to fashion island, went to a good pizza place in crystal cove hung out there. Hung out some more.

Went back to her place and some stuff for when I get back. Then we went and did karaoke. Then we went and had dinner. And then we went and cuddled in my car and talked for a few more hours.

It was a 10/10 day.I don't get to see her again for 8 days.

Spoiler

how the hell do you have sex in the shower. We wanted to try but couldn't figure it out.

 

[Messofanego]

Had a great day with my gf.

Woke up, had breakfast that sucked but was free. Had some adult fun time, took a shower and had more adult fun time.

Went back to her place. Her mom wasn't home so we cuddled for a bit and talked for a while

Went to fashion island, went to a good pizza place in crystal cove hung out there. Hung out some more.

Went back to her place and some stuff for when I get back. Then we went and did karaoke. Then we went and had dinner. And then we went and cuddled in my car and talked for a few more hours.

It was a 10/10 day.I don't get to see her again for 8 days.

Spoiler

how the hell do you have sex in the shower. We wanted to try but couldn't figure it out.

Doggie.

 

[Salamando]

Spoiler

how the hell do you have sex in the shower. We wanted to try but couldn't figure it out.

Question: Do you have a non-slip tub mat and a strong core (body-wise)? Maybe some of those suction handles they sell to old people?

About what!? I have no issue cleaning up and not "leaking" 🤢 This is the first time I've heard of someone having that issue.

Leakage? It's more about the body's natural inclination to pee post-coitus. For women, pee'ing afterwards helps reduce the risk of UTI.

 

[Solo]

I don't mean to interject, but you don't pee afterwards?

Hahaha no problem at all - and yes, I do generally pee afterwards.

 

[vypek]

Wait a minute...some of you pee after sex all the time? How common is this?

Spoiler

how the hell do you have sex in the shower. We wanted to try but couldn't figure it out.

Spoiler

If it is a shower/tub combo, which I'm assuming it is, she can bend forward and place her hands on the edges of the tub near where it meets the wall/end of tub for stability while you approach from behind.

If it is a standalone shower you could press her against the wall for stability to enter.

And obviously you could just do something on the floor of the shower too if you are so inclined but personally I always feel like shower floors are dirty so I'd never want to do that one.

Also you'll obviously want to be really careful so that one or both of you doesn't slip. You really want to have some kind of grip on the floor

 

[Daedardus]

Wait a minute...some of you pee after sex all the time? How common is this?

Well, sure if you like to get infections I wouldn't pee too if I were you.

 

[vypek]

Well, sure if you like to get infections I wouldn't pee too if I were you.

I've just very rarely have ever had the sensation of needing to pee afterwards. The vast majority of the time I don't need to and its not like I can really force myself to do so.

 

[Llyranor]

What do you mean after?

 

[Raptomex]

So I was watching this terrible movie last night. Someone in the movie said "you miss out on 100% of the shots you don't take". Long story short that stuck with me. I asked a girl out this morning and she's up for it. That went well.

 

[Subpar Scrub]

First date went pretty well, neither of us were particularly into the live music at the market so we just grabbed dinner, spoke about our goals and interests and told funny stories of our friends. She didn't mind me having my arm around her when I was walking back to my bike and she hung around the whole time I was getting my helmet and gloves on and stuff. Figured she might have wanted a kiss but she sort of turned that into a hug thing lol.

She said she'd like to go ice skating or something sometime soon, so that's cool. She was messaging me when she got home.

Other girl bailed earlier in the day, deleted her. No time for that shit.

Have a date with a Dutch girl tomorrow, will see how that goes. I wanted to grab lunch but she's busy and instead grabbed my number and messaged me about doing something in the afternoon.

***

Don't mean to be all sappy or whatever, but thanks to everyone in the thread who helped me out whenever they could, it's all been super appreciated and I'm way more comfortable and confident about getting back in the game now than I ever thought I'd be.

So I was watching this terrible movie last night. Someone in the movie said "you miss out on 100% of the shots you don't take". Long story short that stuck with me. I asked a girl out this morning and she's up for it. That went well.

I engrave that into my brain whenever I meet new people now haha. It's solid advice.

 

[Raptomex]

I engrave that into my brain whenever I meet new people now haha. It's solid advice.

It really is.

I sent the first message yesterday. We a great conversation going all day so I figured I would message her first again today and ask her out. I mean the she likes Slayer and Iron Maiden, how can I pass that up? With that said I'm going to stop messaging first and see if she initiates contact this time and sets a date. She said she should have some time this coming week to do something. I'm not going to pester. I did my part. I figure if she's really interested, I'll hear from her. I'll give it the week before I deem it over.

 

[Salamando]

It really is.

I sent the first message yesterday. We a great conversation going all day so I figured I would message her first again today and ask her out. I mean the she likes Slayer and Iron Maiden, how can I pass that up? With that said I'm going to stop messaging first and see if she initiates contact this time and sets a date. She said she should have some time this coming week to do something. I'm not going to pester. I did my part. I figure if she's really interested, I'll hear from her. I'll give it the week before I deem it over.

You asked her out, and didn't specify a date in the question or follow-up with a "Great! How about Tuesday?" ?

If she said yes, she's interested. If she counters with another day, she's interested. Then you don't have to worry about if she's really interested.

 

[Raptomex]

You asked her out, and didn't specify a date in the question or follow-up with a "Great! How about Tuesday?" ?

If she said yes, she's interested. If she counters with another day, she's interested. Then you don't have to worry about if she's really interested.

Maybe I should have. We'll see what happens. I usually let them decide the date. In my experience every girl I've asked out was always choosing the dates.

 

[Stopdoor]

Where did I go wrong guys (the first sad pizza message was 24 hours after the date proposal)

Spoiler

Wasn't really feeling it anyway

 

[Messofanego]

So I was watching this terrible movie last night. Someone in the movie said "you miss out on 100% of the shots you don't take". Long story short that stuck with me. I asked a girl out this morning and she's up for it. That went well.

Wayne Gretzky is in a movie?

 

[Raptomex]

Wayne Gretzky is in a movie?

No. But Nicolas Cage is.

 

[Messofanego]

No. But Nicolas Cage is.

Google tells me this is the film?

He said a Wayne Gretzky quote 50 years ago? Haha

 

[Raptomex]

Google tells me this is the film?

He said a Wayne Gretzky quote 50 years ago? Haha

Spot on. Movie was terrible. But have good dating advice.

 

[Messofanego]

Spot on. Movie was terrible. But have good dating advice.

How were the sharks?

 

[Puck Beaverton]

Spot on. Movie was terrible. But have good dating advice.

Back of the box quote

 

[Raptomex]

How were the sharks?

They were alright. Looked like the same visual effects every time they ate someone.

 

[LookAtMeGo]

So the dinner and drinks with the the exes went well. At first it was just the 3 of us and the cousin tells me shes getting a divorce and I'm like uh oh. This could be trouble. Then my brother and my friend came to meet us and she like fell in love with my friend lol. Then a couple other friends came to meet up. Good times though. Too bad they had to leave early. The ex fiance was DD and they came from like a 2 hour drive away. Some hilarity ensued. Good times were had.

They said they want to make this a yearly thing when they visit in the summertime.

 

[brawly]

Where did I go wrong guys (the first sad pizza message was 24 hours after the date proposal)

Spoiler

Wasn't really feeling it anyway

Never ever send a sad smiley face.

 

[Advocatus Diaboli]

Where did I go wrong guys (the first sad pizza message was 24 hours after the date proposal)

Spoiler

Wasn't really feeling it anyway

What the fuck is this?

It's the most obscenely low-effort thing I've ever seen, and you didn't even try to engage her with words. Look, I get it: nothing wrong with starting off with an animated .gif or something, but you essentially spammed the same thing four times, which is probably your MO, and it's probably something you spam to everyone.

You went wrong by not being hot enough to pull this off.

 

[PancakeBurglar]

Going camping with some friends this weekend, we went hiking and I passed a girl I went out with a ffew times a few weeks ago and made out with. She ghosted me and while I got over it, seeing her again kind of put a damper on my mood. I'm not even sure she noticed me, oh well I just need to get over her again.

 

[Xun]

Paris trip tomorrow.

I'm not regretting it as much as I was before, but I'm still a tad anxious about it I guess.

That said I know I'll have fun there though*, so it'll be alright.

I'll just have to sneakily message the Romanian girl whenever the Kiwi isn't about... 🤔

*

Spoiler

Especially in Disney 😏

If the Romanian asks who I'm with (I doubt she will), is it a bad thing to lie and give her a guy name?

 

[AndersK]

What the fuck is this?

It's the most obscenely low-effort thing I've ever seen, and you didn't even try to engage her with words. Look, I get it: nothing wrong with starting off with an animated .gif or something, but you essentially spammed the same thing four times, which is probably your MO, and it's probably something you spam to everyone.

You went wrong by not being hot enough to pull this off.

Yes. Agreed. Fuck me, that's was a tough read. Unless shes, like, late for a date with you, don't be pushy about responses. She will make time for you if she wants to meet up, without fail.

Good on you for being direct a about wanting a date, tho.

 

[Stopdoor]

Never ever send a sad smiley face.

What the fuck is this?

It's the most obscenely low-effort thing I've ever seen, and you didn't even try to engage her with words. Look, I get it: nothing wrong with starting off with an animated .gif or something, but you essentially spammed the same thing four times, which is probably your MO, and it's probably something you spam to everyone.

You went wrong by not being hot enough to pull this off.

Yes. Agreed. Fuck me, that's was a tough read. Unless shes, like, late for a date with you, don't be pushy about responses. She will make time for you if she wants to meet up, without fail.

Good on you for being direct a about wanting a date, tho.

Woah, wasn't expecting this sudden blowback. Some of these are sarcasm right? I was joking about asking what was wrong.

There was a conversation before it, and honestly, it was pretty dull from her end. Not sure why she was replying at all to be honest, so I was having some innocent fun with it. You can essentially map those responses to "Hey, still interested in pizza?", "Want to do Pizza now then?" and "What time works for you for pizza?" - like yeah, it's a bit goofy, but hey, some girls would be into it. If she's not, then she can ghost me, which she did. Whatever.

It's true I'm a bit spoiled by a recent girl I was texting who was just extremely fun to joke with over text.

 

[brawly]

Woah, wasn't expecting this sudden blowback. Some of these are sarcasm right?

Mine wasn't. The sad smile is code word for I'm desperate and/or overinvested.

 

[Stopdoor]

Mine wasn't. The sad smile is code word for I'm desperate and/or overinvested.

Well, I was pretty much the opposite of overinvested, lol.

 

[jwk94]

You asked her out, and didn't specify a date in the question or follow-up with a "Great! How about Tuesday?" ?

If she said yes, she's interested. If she counters with another day, she's interested. Then you don't have to worry about if she's really interested.

Eh, sometimes you gotta be careful about that. This girl I was trying to date would say yes, but rarely ever followed through. We had maybe two dates, and that was it. Afterwards, it was constant cancels at the last possible second.

Hahaha no problem at all - and yes, I do generally pee afterwards.

Phew, so it's not just me.

 

[Jzero]

Where did I go wrong guys (the first sad pizza message was 24 hours after the date proposal)

Spoiler

Wasn't really feeling it anyway

plz stop
😢🍕

 

[Stopdoor]

plz stop
😢🍕

🍕😬

 

[Subpar Scrub]

It really is.

I sent the first message yesterday. We a great conversation going all day so I figured I would message her first again today and ask her out. I mean the she likes Slayer and Iron Maiden, how can I pass that up? With that said I'm going to stop messaging first and see if she initiates contact this time and sets a date. She said she should have some time this coming week to do something. I'm not going to pester. I did my part. I figure if she's really interested, I'll hear from her. I'll give it the week before I deem it over.

Don't. Take the initiative and set something up. You'll know she's interested if she says yes.

Woke up to texts from the dutch girl (We're grabbing lunch at a park by the beach today), girl I met last night (I'll call sa girl) and someone else who was messaging me about her favourite Skyrim builds.

Also had 8 new matches. I get what people mean when they say tinder can get addictive, the ego stroke on every new genuine match is real and scary.

 

[steven85]

Where did I go wrong guys (the first sad pizza message was 24 hours after the date proposal)

Spoiler

Wasn't really feeling it anyway

I wouldn't have persisted on the pizza. If anything you should have responded with a simple "alright no worries", or which ever words you choose and hit her up in a couple days asking her out again for food. I think 48hours would be a better bet for another proposal, but def keep talking about normal stuff with her in the meantime to show you are still interested. If it doesn't work out the second time you ask I think you got your answer.

 

[Stopdoor]

I wouldn't have persisted on the pizza. If anything you should have responded with a simple "alright no worries", or which ever words you choose and hit her up in a couple days asking her out again for food. I think 48hours would be a better bet for another proposal, but def keep talking about normal stuff with her in the meantime to show you are still interested. If it doesn't work out the second time you ask I think you got your answer.

Good tips, but yeah I was already checked out of the conversation.

 

[LookAtMeGo]

Ask her why the fuck she is ignoring you. Then remind her how nice of a guy you are and how nice guys always get ignored and how its such bullshit. Then maybe threaten to hurt yourself if she doesnt respond.

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