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Dating Age |OT$6| Just ask her out already

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LookAtMeGo

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massoluk said:
Cuddle>sex
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For bonding purposes I would agree. But if I could choose to fuck or cuddle I would choose fuck. Unless I'm in a long term relationship.

Single: sex>cuddle
Relationship: cuddle>sex

In my experience at least.

Iys crazy when you think about it but cuddling is more powerful than sex. Cuddling takes a certain level of comfort and trust that I think goes beyond what is required for bumping uglies.
 
Mediking

Mediking

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Salamando said:
May I propose a weekend assignment? During the weekend assemble four of your best pics of yourself - take new ones if you have to - and ask us for feedback next week. Ask people to PM you for a link if you must. But you need to get started, and online dating is a good place to jump from.
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4 pictures of myself? Uhhh... just tried to take a picture. Felt like a cheeselord. I'm prolly gonna hafta ask a friend to help take the pictures.

LookAtMeGo said:
I lost my virginity to a girl I loved. I ended up being with her for a long time and we actually got engaged. Its just the act of the sex for the first time itself wasnt really that special. It was the bond between us.

That went to hell and I became kind of a slut and sex is pretty meaningless for me now outside of just having fun.


But in this day and age, if you wait for "the right one" to have sex with, you might be waiting a long ass time. Just dont be scurred. If the oppertunity arises, go for it. Its not a bad idea to at least like the person first.
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Trust me... I KNOW.
 
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Lulubop

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Mediking said:
4 pictures of myself? Uhhh... just tried to take a picture. Felt like a cheeselord. I'm prolly gonna hafta ask a friend to help take the pictures.



Trust me... I KNOW.
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You don't have any? Are you really gonna ask a friend this weekend, or are you going to brush it off?
 
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Monkeyball

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WolfeTone said:
Do write messages to women like this? I mean phrased as if you're stammering? It comes across as very strange and is likely off-putting to many people. If it's just your GAF shtick to act like an awkward anime character then carry on.
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Love the sick burn. Why do videogame nerds all love anime so much?
 
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Messofanego

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Monkeyball said:
Love the sick burn. Why do videogame nerds all love anime so much?
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Isn't Persona some anime videogame all about dating? And yet a few Persona avatar people here have the most trouble :p

Mediking, get to work on your dating profile! Pics, bio, the whole lot. Download Bumble, Tinder, whatever is out there. Get brutal but constructive feedback from here.
 
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Gotdatmoney

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Megalosaro said:
Eh, there is nothing wrong with enjoying anime.
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If you enjoy hentai keep it a secret from people though.

There is a problem with being awkward. I'm not really sure how to fix being award though
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Awkward is relative to the audience. But being less awkward is solved by interacting with lots of different people and broadening your interests and activities so its easier to relate to people. Even people with totally different personalities can bond and become friends if they can find some common ground.
 
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Angry Grimace

Two cannibals are eating a clown. One turns to the other and says "does something taste funny to you?"
gaiages said:
Sex is literally just one genital inside of another, moving around a lot, and a lot of fluids.

It's nothing special, really.
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I don't know why the technical explanation of everything makes me laugh but here we are.
 
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Subpar Scrub

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Salamando said:
May I propose a weekend assignment? During the weekend assemble four of your best pics of yourself - take new ones if you have to - and ask us for feedback next week. Ask people to PM you for a link if you must. But you need to get started, and online dating is a good place to jump from.
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I'll help out MediKing too, I'm here for you bruh.
 
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Leeness

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gaiages said:
Sex is literally just one genital inside of another, moving around a lot, and a lot of fluids.

It's nothing special, really.
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Why you gotta describe it in a way that makes me nauseous? 🤢

You could probably describe it as some beautiful something or other and it would make me nauseous anyway.
 
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smisk

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Has anyone gotten a girls number at the gym? Plenty of qts at mine, but not sure how to approach them, feels rude to bother them while they're working out/have headphones in.
 
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Salamando

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smisk said:
Has anyone gotten a girls number at the gym? Plenty of qts at mine, but not sure how to approach them, feels rude to bother them while they're working out/have headphones in.
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That's because it would be. Don't bother girls at the gym. If there were clear signs of interest on their behalf, you wouldn't be asking us about them.
 
Mediking

Mediking

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smisk said:
Has anyone gotten a girls number at the gym? Plenty of qts at mine, but not sure how to approach them, feels rude to bother them while they're working out/have headphones in.
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You know it's a bad idea when even I thinks it's a bad idea.

Wouldn't really suggest bothering a woman at a gym... AT ALL.

Saying hi is one thing but bothering somebody when they're trying to hone their body doesn't sound like a good idea.

....

But hey. I would like it if a woman flirted with me when I'm on the treadmill or something. XP
 
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gaiages

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smisk said:
Has anyone gotten a girls number at the gym? Plenty of qts at mine, but not sure how to approach them, feels rude to bother them while they're working out/have headphones in.
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why don't people listen about bothering people

ANYONE

at the gym

OR WITH HEADPHONES IN

why is this so hard for people to understand
 
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Gotdatmoney

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Mediking said:
You know it's a bad idea when even I thinks it's a bad idea.

Wouldn't really suggest bothering a woman at a gym... AT ALL.

Saying hi is one thing but bothering somebody when they're trying to hone their body doesn't sound like a good idea.

....

But hey. I would like it if a woman flirted with me when I'm on the treadmill or something. XP
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There are lots of very attractive women at the gym I go to. Would it be great if it was socially acceptable to engage? Yes. But you know why it's not? Because it would be a bunch of guys swarming the same girls over and over bothering them trying to get a date or stir conversation to the point where they wouldn't want to come to the gym. It also infers that all these guys are watching them workout which is creepy. It just makes them feel uncomfortable.

The reason as a guy I would love if a woman flirted with me at the gym is because it's an easy in. I know I am getting the date because if the woman approaches it's fair game. Men generally have to pursue in Western culture (or North America at least) so of course when we don't it's appreaciated. But all the same, the gym is personal time and guys need to respect that.

Just jerk off and go to a bar guys. It's better for everyone. Also maybe focus on your workout lol.
 
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LookAtMeGo

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"Hey baby. Thats some good form you got there. Impressive. You need a spot? No? Ok I'll just be over there using the smith machine. Trying to set some new personal bests in today, dont want to injure myself. Ciao for now"
 
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Gotdatmoney

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LookAtMeGo said:
"Hey baby. Thats some good form you got there. Impressive. You need a spot? No? Ok I'll just be over there using the smith machine. Trying to set some new personal bests in today, dont want to injure myself. Ciao for now"
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"Hey girl I noticed you noticing me noticing you and I just wanted to say, you get your bum out on those squats like a champ. It's really impressive. If you ever need help with anything and I mean ANYTHING, lemme know. Back to curling 12.5s. Bye baby girl, I mean . . . Oh how rude of me, I didn't get your name. Well I guess we'll just have to talk again. Toodles"
 
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Advocatus Diaboli

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Hmm. Brazilian girl's not interested, so I won't push it, especially since she'll be in our friend group. Tried to confirm with the friend's friend (whom I met last night) and got nothing. And quasi-girl's been radio silent since yesterday afternoon, when she reached out to tell me that she'd be busy all weekend.

I'm obviously not concerned in the long run, but it's kinda funny how it's either feast or famine all around. I guess karma knew that I was looking again.
 
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Salamando

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Asked out a girl on OKC for drinks this weekend. She suggested next weekend, because she'd be out of town. I'll be out of town next weekend, so I countered with Dinner on Thursday. Silence.

I know dinner ain't the best first-date choice, but it was either that or wait until mid-august.
 
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Lulubop

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Advocatus Diaboli said:
Hmm. Brazilian girl's not interested, so I won't push it, especially since she'll be in our friend group. Tried to confirm with the friend's friend (whom I met last night) and got nothing. And quasi-girl's been radio silent since yesterday afternoon, when she reached out to tell me that she'd be busy all weekend.

I'm obviously not concerned in the long run, but it's kinda funny how it's either feast or famine all around. I guess karma knew that I was looking again.
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Happens. Last Summer was a pretty bad drought for me, all the girls I had been talking to got fed up with my shit or just stop being interested and I was floppin' dates left and right. That fall I was eattin' though.
 
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LookAtMeGo

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smisk said:
Haha, ok guys I get the idea. I figured it wasn't a great idea but was hoping someone would disagree.
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I wore a shirt to the gym, a black one, with white letters across the chest that said "I fucking love to cuddle" and this girl was like "you like to cuddle?" And I was like "hehehe yeah" an d we started to chat for a bit.

So its not like nothing can ever happen at the gym. Its just not a good idea to actively try to pick up there.


Oh and my ex fiance and her husband and her cousin I dated want to meet up tomorrow lol. Its been like 13 or so years since I seen them and they live like 5000 miles away. They just happen to be in my city. I'll probably meet them. Never met the husband. I dont think it will be too weird.

Both are married with children now. Its just to catch up. No funny stuff.
 
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Advocatus Diaboli

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Lulubop said:
Happens. Last Summer was a pretty bad drought for me, all the girls I had been talking to got fed up with my shit or just stop being interested and I was floppin' dates left and right. That fall I was eattin' though.
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Summer sucks, because it's so fucking humid here like, I don't want to leave my place.

Of course, complaining on GAF works, 'cause GoT girl confirmed (and Brazilian girl is sending me voice messages now). Kinda excited. At the very least, she seems cool, and she's leftist as fuck, and I could use a friend. It's one of those no-loss scenarios.

LookAtMeGo said:
Oh and my ex fiance and her husband and her cousin I dated want to meet up tomorrow lol. Its been like 13 or so years since I seen them and they live like 5000 miles away. They just happen to be in my city. I'll probably meet them. Never met the husband. I dont think it will be too weird.

Both are married with children now. Its just to catch up. No funny stuff.
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My bff is my ex-wife. I have zero interest in her romantically or sexually, and it's reciprocated. There's nothing wrong with what you're doing, and don't let anyone shame you into thinking otherwise. People come into our lives for varying reasons; romance doesn't (usually?) work out. That doesn't mean they're bad people. It just means they weren't good fits.
 
Mediking

Mediking

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Gotdatmoney said:
There are lots of very attractive women at the gym I go to. Would it be great if it was socially acceptable to engage? Yes. But you know why it's not? Because it would be a bunch of guys swarming the same girls over and over bothering them trying to get a date or stir conversation to the point where they wouldn't want to come to the gym. It also infers that all these guys are watching them workout which is creepy. It just makes them feel uncomfortable.

The reason as a guy I would love if a woman flirted with me at the gym is because it's an easy in. I know I am getting the date because if the woman approaches it's fair game. Men generally have to pursue in Western culture (or North America at least) so of course when we don't it's appreaciated. But all the same, the gym is personal time and guys need to respect that.

Just jerk off and go to a bar guys. It's better for everyone. Also maybe focus on your workout lol.
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The more I think about it... the more I gotta say again that bothering a woman at a gym sounds like suicide. Just leave her alone. When I go to the gym, I turn on my music and jump on the treadmill. Gyms are for focusing on your body and making yourself healthier. Now like I said, if a woman wanna say hey to me that's totally fine. I don't bite.
 
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LookAtMeGo

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Advocatus Diaboli said:
My bff is my ex-wife. I have zero interest in her romantically or sexually, and it's reciprocated. There's nothing wrong with what you're doing, and don't let anyone shame you into thinking otherwise. People come into our lives for varying reasons; romance doesn't (usually?) work out. That doesn't mean they're bad people. It just means they weren't good fits.
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Oh for sure. And not that it matters to me anymore, the past is the past. But the ex fiance did cheat on me with one of my best friends. Although it was because he was a sneaky fuck and had convinced her I was cheating on her. But whatever. We were kids then.

There is a funny history with the 3 of us including a threesome which was a mistake lol.
eww I know.. grosss.. they are cousins lol idgaf
But we went through a lot together. She lost her mom, I lost my sister. And we got through that together so... anyway. Should be cool to see them. A lot has happened over the years. They both got married and have kids and I've been on quite a few adventures travelling across the country. I look forward to it.

I think certain details of old stories will be left out of conversation lol.
 
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Gotdatmoney

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Mediking said:
The more I think about it... the more I gotta say again that bothering a woman at a gym sounds like suicide. Just leave her alone. When I go to the gym, I turn on my music and jump on the treadmill. Gyms are for focusing on your body and making yourself healthier. Now like I said, if a woman wanna say hey to me that's totally fine. I don't bite.
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It's just not something to be done. Shrug. No real reason the discussion should go past "no it's rude"
 
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Megalosaro

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She is currently super spoiling me for my birthday

Put me up in a hotel tonight
Took me out to cheesecake factory
Got me a bunch of cool stuff for my birthday for my trip to japan.

I wish she was coming. If only I had met her sooner.

She's amazing.
 
Mediking

Mediking

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Megalosaro said:
She is currently super spoiling me for my birthday

Put me up in a hotel tonight
Took me out to cheesecake factory
Got me a bunch of cool stuff for my birthday for my trip to japan.

I wish she was coming. If only I had met her sooner.

She's amazing.
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Man, she sounds like a great girlfriend. I'm happy for you.
 
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Peltz

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smisk said:
Has anyone gotten a girls number at the gym? Plenty of qts at mine, but not sure how to approach them, feels rude to bother them while they're working out/have headphones in.
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If a girl approached me during my workout to try and flirt and get a date I'd be pissed. You don't fuck with someone's workout.
 
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LookAtMeGo

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Peltz said:
If a girl approached me during my workout to try and flirt and get a date I'd be pissed.
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Subpar Scrub

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KUON.0101 said:
Don't get me started.. hahaha

So do you choose girl C or K?
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C by a fucking mile. There's no contest.

Anyways, have organised to see a jazz/groove band and grab dinner at a cool modern market place with a second girl for tomorrow night after lunch with girl 1. Might have a third on Sunday, but girl 3 hasn't gotten back to me with her timetable yet. These plus three assignments to complete means I'll be dead by Monday, but whatevs, gotta keep the ball rolling I guess.

Edit: looks like girl 3 flaked and I had a really funny convo for a while tonight with someone that has gone silent after I asked if they were free over the weekend. Oh well, here's hoping for the best tomorrow anyway.

Megalosaro said:
She's amazing.
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Good stuff dude. We need more positive stories in here to keep the despair from creeping in haha
 
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Pattycakes

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Megalosaro said:
She is currently super spoiling me for my birthday

Put me up in a hotel tonight
Took me out to cheesecake factory
Got me a bunch of cool stuff for my birthday for my trip to japan.

I wish she was coming. If only I had met her sooner.

She's amazing.
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This is the stuff that keeps me sane.
 
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FloatOn

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well I fucked up last night.

cancelled plans due to a torrential downpour. like I felt it was unsafe to drive.

I feel pretty guilty about it because she was telling me that it was a hard day yesterday and she was looking forward to going out.

best ways to make it up to her?
 
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