You say that but you could be lessening your options by being forthright.
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You say that but you could be lessening your options by being forthright.
TangerineCloud
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Yeah, this is pretty much what I'm worried about.
always crazy bacon
Banned
Tits or face?
If you need to lie to the people you're dating, then you're not doing it right.
If they have an issue with you dating multiple people in the early stages then that to me would be a sign that they are possessive and controlling and I'd be quite happy to limit myself to other folks.
In practical terms, if they ask what you're up to, just be vague. Say you're busy with friends/you have plans. Don't say: "had a great first date with a 10/10, best sex ever, you'll have to work hard to do better".
If they have an issue with you dating multiple people in the early stages then that to me would be a sign that they are possessive and controlling and I'd be quite happy to limit myself to other folks.
In practical terms, if they ask what you're up to, just be vague. Say you're busy with friends/you have plans. Don't say: "had a great first date with a 10/10, best sex ever, you'll have to work hard to do better".
Advocatus Diaboli
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You have "plans with a friend."
She does too.
This is part of the unwritten rules of dating.
NotTheGuyYouKill
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always crazy bacon
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Delete delete delete, takes away the chance of lonely or drunk texts/calls. You don't need those numbers as failure trophies, the women have your number if they want to contact.
TangerineCloud
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Hm. If any of them explicitly ask if I'm dating other people, I'll answer honestly. Otherwise, I suppose I'll keep my bidness to myself. Haven't felt great about the lying, so I'll take the suggestions about being vague.
I don't delete or block, unless shit went sideways and that's why we split. Recently a girl hit me up that I hadnt seen or even thought about in a year. She asked me what I was doing that night.
Answer: her
But always keep the nudes.
I literally cannot separate you from your username and that makes that statement EXTRA creepy
But always keep the nudes.
don't
Ray Wonder
Founder of the Wounded Tagless Children
I think I delete the nudes until 6 months later I'm in my onedrive and realize it auto backed up like every picture I've ever saved
This is precisely what I'll be doing if I'm asked.
Ultramantaro1
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The date went very well over all. We cooked, had some wine etc. But I didn't quite earn my congrats.gif
After dinner, we were making out and feeling each other up for like 2 hours, but she kept moving my hands back up every time I ventured south of the border.
Compared to usual tinder 1st night hookups, felt very 'old-fashioned' somehow. I've been seeing this girl for over a month. Like I'm not used to being so patient lol.
But I like this girl and I see some long term potential, so I'm fine waiting till she's ready.
always crazy bacon
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Im not deleting those happy memories.
Ultramantaro1
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People like you make women less likely to want to send nudes in the 1st place. You're hurting all of us!
always crazy bacon
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Please define "Like me".
Moose Biscuits
It would be extreamly painful...
Nudes seem like the dumbest idea anyway and I don't get why people do it.
Ultramantaro1
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From personal experience and female friends, girls worry about nudes they send being shown around and shared by the guy, or are bit creeped out when they imagine old hook ups/exes still jerking it to their pics. Some have asked a guy to delete their stuff and been harassed/taunted over it.
Of course, I don't know you past a forum post, sorry if I sounded harsh. I would advise deleting if requested or after a breakup but that's up to your judgment.
always crazy bacon
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Low hanging fruit attention grabber. I'm pretty confident there are women and guys out there that have nudes they give to any person they are interested in. A folder full of perfectly curated dick pics.
always crazy bacon
Banned
Solution, don't send nudes*. With the infinity of porn available I seriously doubt any guy can get off on a grainy phone cam shot of some boobs anyway. You seem to think that might be why you don't get sent many/any? Did sound a bit harsh, I assumed you were projecting, so no worries.
*with your face or identifiable location.
ZackieChan
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I go on the dating site I use, and see a couple girls I'm currently dating have been on there recently. We both know what's up. It's all in the game.
I've never been sent nudes 😥
Then again, I've never asked.
I'm kind of weird about nudes, terrified that the girl I send them to will use them in some kind of malicious way if things ever go south.
Ironically I have been sent many by almost all my ex-girlfriends and I personally would never do such a thing for the same reason I wouldn't want it done to me.
I guess I'm searching for a girl that I would feel good about sending nudes to..
Yeah... that's what love must be..
Ironically I have been sent many by almost all my ex-girlfriends and I personally would never do such a thing for the same reason I wouldn't want it done to me.
I guess I'm searching for a girl that I would feel good about sending nudes to..
Yeah... that's what love must be..
ZackieChan
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Rule of thumb is that your dick and your face should never be in the same photo.
Ray Wonder
Founder of the Wounded Tagless Children
Idk how you managed this
EchoChamber
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There's something magical about nudes that shit turns me on more than anything.
ZackieChan
Member
I'm like that with memes. But dudes send them. 😞
Who needs nudes when you can see it irl
always crazy bacon
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I've never asked, but I've received occasionally. Seems to be generational where it's more common to send though. Over 30, never send in my experience.
always crazy bacon
Banned
Difficult to take a good dick pick selfie.
While in person is definitely so much better to me, I also like when I receive nudes.
ZackieChan
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maquiladora
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I'm more of a non-nude guy myself.
MosquitoSmasher
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Ok so here's the deal.
For about a month now i've been going to the veterinarian for my dog, not every day of the week in that month but several days. A really nice looking and friendly assistent caught my eye and well....she has been stuck in my head since. We haven't been able to speak a whole though, just a few things last week when my dog accidentally peed on the ground there and we just joked a little about it.
Today i had to go there as well and our chat mostly consisted of talking about my dog and i asked her if she had dogs of her own. She told me she has a lot of animals because she lives with her parents on a farm. Due to her work and where it is busy quite a lot, i can't really talk for very long with her. My initial impression was that the interest may be mutual but i really am not sure. We did laugh today during our little chat...but chances are that she's just being friendly to a customer. I could have definitely asked her for a drink but it felt too out of the blue for me. What would you guys do? Do something with this, maybe ask her next time i go there or just leave it at this?
For about a month now i've been going to the veterinarian for my dog, not every day of the week in that month but several days. A really nice looking and friendly assistent caught my eye and well....she has been stuck in my head since. We haven't been able to speak a whole though, just a few things last week when my dog accidentally peed on the ground there and we just joked a little about it.
Today i had to go there as well and our chat mostly consisted of talking about my dog and i asked her if she had dogs of her own. She told me she has a lot of animals because she lives with her parents on a farm. Due to her work and where it is busy quite a lot, i can't really talk for very long with her. My initial impression was that the interest may be mutual but i really am not sure. We did laugh today during our little chat...but chances are that she's just being friendly to a customer. I could have definitely asked her for a drink but it felt too out of the blue for me. What would you guys do? Do something with this, maybe ask her next time i go there or just leave it at this?
EchoChamber
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Of course in person is better, but I was saying compared to porn.
MosquitoSmasher
Member
Oh snap, you got a good point there.
Yeah true, if she says no, it really isn't the end of the world. I'll just say that's ok and have a nice day.
A never-nude, if you will.
Just don't make it weird. Accept the rejection gracefully if it happens.Oh snap, you got a good point there.
Yeah true, if she says no, it really isn't the end of the world. I'll just say that's ok and have a nice day.
MosquitoSmasher
Member
Absolutely.
Ray Wonder
Founder of the Wounded Tagless Children
Idk, sometimes I would just be talking/texting, get a snap notification and there would be a nude.. I have never asked for them. I've woken up in the morning, opened my phone, and boom nudes.
They feel unavoidable sometimes haha
I dunno, I would always delete and block immediately but I'd always feel really disgusting. :/
I think feeling disgusting is a normal reaction to unwanted exhibitionism
yeah..
to be fair, I don't think penises are photogenic extremities.
like, mine's obviously amazing, but dicks are weird man. I almost sent nudes once and in trying to get a good angle on my downstairs business my reactions to my own pictures kept coming back as
LucidMomentum
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Like, were they unsolicited?
Unsolicited nudes are awkward as fuck but when there's some flirting and then a bit of nudes back and forth it can be nice.
Either way, in person is the best time for nudes.
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