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[Krauser Kat]

I have a picture of myself dressed up as Bob Ross and its gets ALL of the fucking messages. I also have a picture of my dog and me, it also gets all the hits. My art almost never does, which is a little sad.

Has this thread ever had peoples full profiles from bumble or tinder posted?

 

[gaiages]

Well, here is an update on my situation for those who care:
I cut her off. She threatened to cut her self, kill herself etc. if i cut her off. We shared "lewd" photos before i knew her real age. She threatened to disclose this information to the police if i "upset" her. My cousin helped me research the laws, and its fine that we shared the photos. Perfectly legal.
I was convinved that prison was an option for me. I panicked a little, and took it seriously. This girl was crazyyy, but obviously not educated on the law. I deleted my snapchat, and its over.

Im a little sad, but mainly sad for her. She needs serious help. Her life has been terrible. Very pretty girl, very cool besides her mental health. I was her first "boyfriend." I was surprised because she's literally a 10/10, but now i see why.
Thanks for all your advice, it was golden!

Edit: she was in love with me (or so she thought). She will definitely be depressed, but she crossed the line.

I'm proud of you for cutting it off. Lots of people fall into the trap of "oh no, this person might hurt themselves if I leave, I guess I have to stay" and that's just emotional manipulation. You've learned a big lesson for the future.

 

[Kyne]

I have a picture of myself dressed up as Bob Ross and its gets ALL of the fucking messages. I also have a picture of my dog and me, it also gets all the hits. My art almost never does, which is a little sad.

Has this thread ever had peoples full profiles from bumble or tinder posted?

there's a separate online dating thread where people usually post their profiles to review.

i had a dream about a girl (not anyone specific, just a girl) and it almost made me want to be dating again.

then I went back to bed and had another dream about playing Zelda.

¯\_(&#12484_/¯ Zelda it is.

 

[NotTheGuyYouKill]

Let's get back at it, bitches

 

[vegohead]

What do you do if a woman catcalls you?

A young woman in Baltimore last Thursday called me cute or something while walking on the sidewalk and I said "hi" softly as I walked by. After we passed each other she turned around and yelled "what you don't like black women?".

Was kinda awkward, but went on my way.

 

[ZackieChan]

What do you do if a woman catcalls you?

A young woman in Baltimore last Thursday called me cute or something while walking on the sidewalk and I said "hi" softly as I walked by. After we passed each other she turned around and yelled "what you don't like black women?".

Was kinda awkward, but went on my way.

So, do you like black women?

Can't be cucked if I don't get with a girl more than once or twice 😯. Though I like a girl again. Let's see how long it lasts. She's pretty special

Spoiler

as you saw

Prepare for cucking

 

[NotTheGuyYouKill]

What do you do if a woman catcalls you?

A young woman in Baltimore last Thursday called me cute or something while walking on the sidewalk and I said "hi" softly as I walked by. After we passed each other she turned around and yelled "what you don't like black women?".

Was kinda awkward, but went on my way.

You ask for her number.

Unless you're uncomfortable with it.

You don't like black girls?

 

[Count Dookkake]

What do you do if a woman catcalls you?

A young woman in Baltimore last Thursday called me cute or something while walking on the sidewalk and I said "hi" softly as I walked by. After we passed each other she turned around and yelled "what you don't like black women?".

Was kinda awkward, but went on my way.

Was she attractive? This is important in determining how you should have responded.

 

[vegohead]

You ask for her number.

Unless you're uncomfortable with it.

You don't like black girls?

I wasn't really in that state of mind as I was going to group therapy and thinking about that.

I guess I could have just said thanks for the compliment or something. I yelled back at her(as we were already half a block away from each other) I've been with 3 blacks girls.

 

[Count Dookkake]

Ok. That was the best answer.

 

[NotTheGuyYouKill]

I wasn't really in that state of mind as I going to group therapy and thinking about that.

I guess I could have just said thanks for the compliment or something. I yelled back at her(as we were already half a block away from each other) I've been with 3 blacks girls.

 

[Ogodei]

Stupid question: when's the best time to interject your real name in online dating? I guess i give more weight to it than i should because, very early in my online dating adventures, i lost a girl because I asked her out before telling her my real first name and she reacted poorly.

Now, that might have been a one-off bad experience, but I always try to introduce myself in that way going forward, but it's weird to interject.

Like, i just asked someone out after exchanging 3-4 messages over about 5 days, and sort of lamely added my name to the end of the ask-out message.

So is that something y'all have run into in significant amounts, or is it better to trade names along with cell numbers after she agrees to the date?

 

[Ray Wonder]

aw shit we cuckin boys in here now

I wasn't really in that state of mind as I going to group therapy and thinking about that.

I guess I could have just said thanks for the compliment or something. I yelled back at her(as we were already half a block away from each other) I've been with 3 blacks girls.

That's not quite what I expected after you whispered hi to her lol

 

[NotTheGuyYouKill]

Stupid question: when's the best time to interject your real name in online dating? I guess i give more weight to it than i should because, very early in my online dating adventures, i lost a girl because I asked her out before telling her my real first name and she reacted poorly.

Now, that might have been a one-off bad experience, but I always try to introduce myself in that way going forward, but it's weird to interject.

Like, i just asked someone out after exchanging 3-4 messages over about 5 days, and sort of lamely added my name to the end of the ask-out message.

So is that something y'all have run into in significant amounts, or is it better to trade names along with cell numbers after she agrees to the date?

I do:

Opener

If she replies, I tell her my first name and keep the conversation going. If it's going well, and you ask her out a couple more messages after that, give her your cell number if she agrees.

 

[LucidMomentum]

Catcalls are awkward. I mean, sure I like a compliment now and again but like, it kind of starts things off on an odd foot just being assessed for my looks.

I've only ever been catcalled once and I was seeing someone at the time so I said thanks but I'm taken.

Which is why if I think someone's attractive I at least introduce myself before saying so.

Anyways, been busy with life so haven't done a lot of dating really. One or two first dates that haven't really led to anything as the gals and I had a lot of differing opinions.

That "friends but maybe more later" friend of mine sent me an event link for a sushi and wine tasting event in a couple weeks. Now that I've tempered my expectations I can do stuff with her without desperately trying to consider it a date so I figured what the hell, could be fun.

We'll see if she gets mad if I flirt with other people when we go, though.

 

[Solo]

Stupid question: when's the best time to interject your real name in online dating? I guess i give more weight to it than i should because, very early in my online dating adventures, i lost a girl because I asked her out before telling her my real first name and she reacted poorly.

Now, that might have been a one-off bad experience, but I always try to introduce myself in that way going forward, but it's weird to interject.

Like, i just asked someone out after exchanging 3-4 messages over about 5 days, and sort of lamely added my name to the end of the ask-out message.

So is that something y'all have run into in significant amounts, or is it better to trade names along with cell numbers after she agrees to the date?

Granted, the only online dating app I ever used was Tinder, but that app displays your real first name right out if the gate (as it is linked to your Facebook account). But if I'd ever used an app that didn't include your name, I'm sure I would say it in my first it second message.

 

[Ray Wonder]

Catcalls are awkward. I mean, sure I like a compliment now and again but like, it kind of starts things off on an odd foot just being assessed for my looks.

I've only ever been catcalled once and I was seeing someone at the time so I said thanks but I'm taken.

Which is why if I think someone's attractive I at least introduce myself before saying so.

Anyways, been busy with life so haven't done a lot of dating really. One or two first dates that haven't really led to anything as the gals and I had a lot of differing opinions.

That "friends but maybe more later" friend of mine sent me an event link for a sushi and wine tasting event in a couple weeks. Now that I've tempered my expectations I can do stuff with her without desperately trying to consider it a date so I figured what the hell, could be fun.

We'll see if she gets mad if I flirt with other people when we go, though.

til she flirts with other people in response

 

[Solo]

I mean, sure I like a compliment now and again but like, it kind of starts things off on an odd foot just being assessed for my looks.

Well that's what's happening whenever you meet someone, whether or not catcalling occurred.

 

[Ogodei]

I do:

Opener

If she replies, I tell her my first name and keep the conversation going. If it's going well, and you ask her out a couple more messages after that, give her your cell number if she agrees.

Second message sounds right. Like the first one is just an icebreaker like you'd do at a party and then say "Hi, I'm Ogodei."

 

[LucidMomentum]

til she flirts with other people in response

Eh, I think it would do her some good to get out of her shell and actually do something like that. She has self esteem issues and I think since I asked her out she wants to keep me around but doesn't actually want to "date" so every so often she'll invite me to something.

Which is fine by me but for a while I took it as her being interested in dating. Which she's not. But she still gets oddly jealous if I talk to other people when she's around. Which is when I remind her that I did ask her out and she's the one who gave me the maybe.

I think at the moment she's kind of like Leeness where she wants friends and someone to talk to / pay attention to her, but she doesn't feel up to the physical or social aspects of a relationship. So, we keep it at arms length with some occasional flirting when she's feeling bold.

Well that's what's happening whenever you meet someone, whether or not catcalling occurred.

I guess that's true, but I prefer a "Hey I'm Felicity and I think you're cute, so I wanted to introduce myself" instead of a "Yo cutie! Want some chocolate?"

Either would work on me depending on my mood though.

 

[Lulubop]

PM the video buddy. PM the video.

For her hubby's eyes only, not that I cared to see it. If they ever go through a messy divorce, I'll send you the Xhamster link.

 

[Ray Wonder]

Eh, I think it would do her some good to get out of her shell and actually do something like that. She has self esteem issues and I think since I asked her out she wants to keep me around but doesn't actually want to "date" so every so often she'll invite me to something.

Which is fine by me but for a while I took it as her being interested in dating. Which she's not. But she still gets oddly jealous if I talk to other people when she's around. Which is when I remind her that I did ask her out and she's the one who gave me the maybe.

I think at the moment she's kind of like Leeness where she wants friends and someone to talk to / pay attention to her, but she doesn't feel up to the physical or social aspects of a relationship. So, we keep it at arms length with some occasional flirting when she's feeling bold.

That sounds kinda mean then hahaha

"Hey, you had your chance. "

 

[animax]

Upon starting the app, bumble took me straight to an empty text box so I could write a message, but I pressed the little left arrow next to the girl's name, which I thought would take me to her profile. It didn't, and now there's no sign of our match anywhere. Did I accidently kick the match?

That happens every now and then on Bumble, it's not that you kicked the match it's usually either she did or a technical glitch. There was one time where a girl let my match expire, but then resurrected it, then sent me a message and when I went to read it the match was gone!

Don't Facebook stalk people before you meet them. It's just a waste of time, and it's triggering your bout of irrational anxiety.

This. Everyone should read this well.

Why must I initiate every convo lol

You shouldn't - if she's interested enough she will initiate her fair share. Otherwise move on

I'm wondering if adding a dog to my profile pics would improve my chances of getting responses.

Yes. Cynical, but yes

 

[Ultramantaro1]

EMERGENCY GAF I need you.

This is it. The lady I've been seeing since Valentine's day is coming to my place for the 1st time tomorrow evening. I will wining and dining her with delicious creamy mushroom pasta and a fine white wine. This will be our 5th date technically. We've been moving at a slow pace, so nothing physical has happened yet. The stars are aligned, the time is right for shit to go down.

My only question is: is it ok to have D'Angelo playing in the background or is that too on the nose? Maybe a more neutral playlist is in order. I mean, D'Angelo isn't Marvin Gaye, but maybe more subtlety is i order.

 

[Ashby]

I don't get how some of you dudes end a first date without at least kissing the girl, let alone go a whole month. But hey, whatever works.

 

[Ultramantaro1]

I don't get how some of you dudes end a first date without at least kissing the girl, let alone go a whole month. But hey, whatever works.

No, we've kissed. I mean physical as in anything beyond that. Usually on my Tinder dates or bar escapades, sex happens a lot faster (1st or 2nd date). This girl is more shy and reserved than I'm used to.

 

[Count Dookkake]

I think your musical choice is less on the nose than is creamy mushroom.

 

[Ashby]

No, we've kissed. I mean physical as in anything beyond that. Usually on my Tinder dates or bar escapades, sex happens a lot faster (1st or 2nd date). This girl is more shy and reserved than I'm used to.

Oh, good job then. Yeah, sex can wait but in my experience you gotta at least be as intimate as a kiss as early on as you can manage.

 

[Seirith]

EMERGENCY GAF I need you.

This is it. The lady I've been seeing since Valentine's day is coming to my place for the 1st time tomorrow evening. I will wining and dining her with delicious creamy mushroom pasta and a fine white wine. This will be our 5th date technically. We've been moving at a slow pace, so nothing physical has happened yet. The stars are aligned, the time is right for shit to go down.

My only question is: is it ok to have D'Angelo playing in the background or is that too on the nose? Maybe a more neutral playlist is in order. I mean, D'Angelo isn't Marvin Gaye, but maybe more subtlety is i order.

Just curious, are you sure she likes mushrooms?

 

[NotTheGuyYouKill]

EMERGENCY GAF I need you.

This is it. The lady I've been seeing since Valentine's day is coming to my place for the 1st time tomorrow evening. I will wining and dining her with delicious creamy mushroom pasta and a fine white wine. This will be our 5th date technically. We've been moving at a slow pace, so nothing physical has happened yet. The stars are aligned, the time is right for shit to go down.

My only question is: is it ok to have D'Angelo playing in the background or is that too on the nose? Maybe a more neutral playlist is in order. I mean, D'Angelo isn't Marvin Gaye, but maybe more subtlety is i order.

Terrible music and food choice.

The pasta will make her feel bloated and the music will make you look cheesy.

You're already off the rails.

 

[Krauser Kat]

EMERGENCY GAF I need you.

This is it. The lady I've been seeing since Valentine's day is coming to my place for the 1st time tomorrow evening. I will wining and dining her with delicious creamy mushroom pasta and a fine white wine. This will be our 5th date technically. We've been moving at a slow pace, so nothing physical has happened yet. The stars are aligned, the time is right for shit to go down.

My only question is: is it ok to have D'Angelo playing in the background or is that too on the nose? Maybe a more neutral playlist is in order. I mean, D'Angelo isn't Marvin Gaye, but maybe more subtlety is i order.

Dont try so hard...
Make an effort but this over the top stuff, I dont know. you might as well have 2 dozen roses waiting for her. Have a clean well kept living space. Have your bed made. Make sure the food is good and the alcohol is plentiful. Dont act nervous.

Let her pick the music.

 

[Ultramantaro1]

Terrible music and food choice.

The pasta will make her feel bloated and the music will make you look cheesy.

You're already off the rails.

GAF is always there in my time of need. See, this is why I'm asking today and not tomorrow.

Man, It's so easier to fuck 'unexpectedly' on the 1st date. Now it feels like a huge build up to something, so I'm trying too hard. I could tell from our conversation we both know it's going down. I'll dial it down a tad.

 

[NotTheGuyYouKill]

GAF is always there in my time of need. See, this is why I'm asking today and not tomorrow.

Man, It's so easier to fuck 'unexpectedly' on the 1st date. Now it feels like a huge build up to something, so I'm trying too hard. I could tell from our conversation we both know it's going down. I'll dial it down a tad.

Have a good, eclectic pool of music on your phone for her to choose from. Cover the spectrum from the Weeknd to The Cure. Don't pick the music for her. Just "hey, you wanna put some music on?"

Have fun. Don't get too smashed and don't let her get too smashed. As for food, pick something light but filling. Avoid bloating food at all costs.

Consider also cooking together as the date?

 

[Ultramantaro1]

Have a good, eclectic pool of music on your phone for her to choose from. Cover the spectrum from the Weeknd to The Cure. Don't pick the music for her. Just "hey, you wanna put some music on?"

Have fun. Don't get too smashed and don't let her get too smashed. As for food, pick something light but filling. Avoid bloating food at all costs.

Consider also cooking together as the date?

Yeah, I'm getting the ingredients and we're cooking together while getting our drink on. Thanks for the sanity check, I'm way too in my head. I will be posting back Wednesday to brag or to hand in my man-card.

 

[NotTheGuyYouKill]

Yeah, I'm getting the ingredients and we're cooking together while getting our drink on. Thanks for the sanity check, I'm way too in my head. I will be posting back Wednesday to brag or to hand in my man-card.

There is no such thing as a man-card lol. If it happens, it happens. If it doesn't, it doesn't. Don't make my mistake and fall down the rabbit hole. Have fun, let things go somewhere naturally.

 

[LucidMomentum]

There is no such thing as a man-card lol. If it happens, it happens. If it doesn't, it doesn't. Don't make my mistake and fall down the rabbit hole. Have fun, let things go somewhere naturally.

This. Sex is not an end goal here, a healthy relationship is.

Sex is just a part of the whole.

Fucking or not fucking does not make you any more or less of a man.

Just go with the flow.

 

[NotTheGuyYouKill]

But still, if y'all bang, we have the congrats.gif at the ready.

 

[loudbill]

I'm proud of you for cutting it off. Lots of people fall into the trap of "oh no, this person might hurt themselves if I leave, I guess I have to stay" and that's just emotional manipulation. You've learned a big lesson for the future.

Thanks. It was tough, but it had to be done.

 

[efyu_lemonardo]

Well, I finally did it. Been beating around the bush for too long so it had to happen at least once.





I sent the heydog.gif to a 30+ woman. Said she liked funny looking dogs on her profile, figured that was as good a sign as any. Now we wait.

 

[Ray Wonder]

If you're corny you gotta own it. I'm corny af.

 

[LucidMomentum]

If you're corny you gotta own it. I'm corny af.

Get those dad jokes ready

 

[ZackieChan]

Stupid question: when's the best time to interject your real name in online dating? I guess i give more weight to it than i should because, very early in my online dating adventures, i lost a girl because I asked her out before telling her my real first name and she reacted poorly.

Now, that might have been a one-off bad experience, but I always try to introduce myself in that way going forward, but it's weird to interject.

Like, i just asked someone out after exchanging 3-4 messages over about 5 days, and sort of lamely added my name to the end of the ask-out message.

So is that something y'all have run into in significant amounts, or is it better to trade names along with cell numbers after she agrees to the date?

First or second message.

EMERGENCY GAF I need you.

This is it. The lady I've been seeing since Valentine's day is coming to my place for the 1st time tomorrow evening. I will wining and dining her with delicious creamy mushroom pasta and a fine white wine. This will be our 5th date technically. We've been moving at a slow pace, so nothing physical has happened yet. The stars are aligned, the time is right for shit to go down.

My only question is: is it ok to have D'Angelo playing in the background or is that too on the nose? Maybe a more neutral playlist is in order. I mean, D'Angelo isn't Marvin Gaye, but maybe more subtlety is i order.

I've been rocking the lo fi hip hop playlists after being inspired by that YouTube video stream. Cool stuff. Or some low-key jazz.

I don't get how some of you dudes end a first date without at least kissing the girl, let alone go a whole month. But hey, whatever works.

We've got a badass over here.
A month is ridiculous, though.

 

[GK86]

What do you do if a woman catcalls you?

A young woman in Baltimore last Thursday called me cute or something while walking on the sidewalk and I said "hi" softly as I walked by. After we passed each other she turned around and yelled "what you don't like black women?".

Was kinda awkward, but went on my way.

The mating dance begins:

Spoiler

Never been catcalled and I don't know wtf I would do if it did happen.

Stupid question: when's the best time to interject your real name in online dating? I guess i give more weight to it than i should because, very early in my online dating adventures, i lost a girl because I asked her out before telling her my real first name and she reacted poorly.

I tell them my name when I get their number and send them a text. "Hey, this is GK86 from Okcupid."

 

[Kopite]

Went out with this girl I met on Tinder on Saturday. Had a fun date and then we had the best make out session ever before fooling around and cuddling for a full 3 hours in her car.
Now she hasn't texted me once, despite texting me every day leading up to the date. FeelsBadMan

 

[Ray Wonder]

Went out with this girl I met on Tinder on Saturday. Had a fun date and then we had the best make out session ever before fooling around and cuddling for a full 3 hours in her car.
Now she hasn't texted me once, despite texting me every day leading up to the date. FeelsBadMan

Sounds like she wanted to hook up tbh

 

[NotTheGuyYouKill]

Went out with this girl I met on Tinder on Saturday. Had a fun date and then we had the best make out session ever before fooling around and cuddling for a full 3 hours in her car.
Now she hasn't texted me once, despite texting me every day leading up to the date. FeelsBadMan

Go kiss someone else

 

[always crazy bacon]

Sounds like she wanted to hook up tbh

Yup.

 

[Kopite]

Sounds like she wanted to hook up tbh

Yeah but she told me when we first matched on Tinder she wasn't looking for a hookup.
To be honest, I felt it was going too fast and I guess she probably felt the same way too. One of the reasons why I'm not super bummed about this.

 

[ZackieChan]

Yeah but she told me when we first matched on Tinder she wasn't looking for a hookup.
To be honest, I felt it was going too fast and I guess she probably felt the same way too. One of the reasons why I'm not super bummed about this.

Everyone says that. When they're making out with you in the car on the first date, that's a signal that they were bullshitting.

 

[DJwest]

Another day, another heartbreak. A girl I was dating let me know that she was still "exploring her options" when I asked her about our relationship. Taking a break from the dating game. I'm mentally exhausted and need to work on myself (ie. Lose some damn weight).