This is why I'm 32 and unmarried. I don't watch anime.
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This is why I'm 32 and unmarried. I don't watch anime.
Yea you really should watch it. Every time i tell someone i watch anime, it results in sex, on the spot.
Wait I thought this was your first "girlfriend." Why even bother with her if you are keeping your dick wet with all the anime conversation? Some strange trolling going on in here.
I was kidding. Im clearly joking. Do you really think me telling a random girl, "hey, i like anime" is going to result in instant sex?
Well considering you are "dating" a 15 year old that you've never met, that lives in another state, that you love her because she loves anime, that you met on Snapchat .... anything is possible!
Yep, i totally love her only because of anime. Come on dude. Clearly their is more to it than that. Im not going to list everything i like about her. I was just listing a few examples.
Count Dookkake
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So how many days has it been?
How did it start?
How did it start?
Its been about two weeks. Just typing that makes me feel dumb.
We started by just talking about our lives, interests, aspirations, typical stuff. Ive honestly never became friends with someone that smoothly and easily. It was my first time really ever talking with a girl too (sad, but its the truth). We talked quite a bit for the first few days, then she told me how she felt. Thats basically how it started.
Feel free to roast me for falling in love so quickly.
LucidMomentum
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No roasting, just truth - you aren't in love with her, you're in love with the idea of being in a relationship. You're young and owe it to yourself to make better mistakes than this. Talk to girls in real life, get rejected so much you no longer care. Find out what you really care about in relationships. Get physical with someone you can actually (and legally) get physical with.
Long distance relationships are ill-advised in the best of times. When you're young, it actively prevents you from learning some damn important lessons.
You're right, thanks for the advice bro. I really do appreciate it.
Count Dookkake
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Good job, team.
Messofanego
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Advocatus Diaboli
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When I was a teenager, I also had an Internet girlfriend. It's okay to go through this phase, but it's just a phase. You're not in a relationship, and this isn't working out. At best you'll meet up once, and it'll be awkward because she'll have to tell her parents, and you might make out underneath an Olive Garden sign and then never see each other again.
(Yes, I'm projecting.)
Go talk to people at your college.
Also: all of my friends are getting shotgun married. It's truly a Ray Wonderful time in their lives.
(Except it's for health insurance.)
velociraptor
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Here is what I find strange
If I send a message on WhatsApp and she doesn't reply back, it's because she is busy
If I don't send any messages (at all), I'm ignoring her and she gets upset?
Why must I initiate every convo lol
If I send a message on WhatsApp and she doesn't reply back, it's because she is busy
If I don't send any messages (at all), I'm ignoring her and she gets upset?
Why must I initiate every convo lol
Let her get upset. Why walk on eggshells​ to satisfy her hypocrisy?
The only reason why i even entertained this idea was because my brother had a similar situation, and it turned out well for him. But thats quite rare. You're definitely right though.
Edit: I don't think ill ever find a more perfect match for me, but their are plenty of fish in the sea i guess. Thanks to everyone for your advice.
EDIT: Whoops, didn't realize is went to the next page
I wouldn't celebrate just yet, tbh, I have a feeling this story isn't over yet
I wouldn't celebrate just yet, tbh, I have a feeling this story isn't over yet
Messofanego
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haha that's dumb. If she's upset, why doesn't she send any messages instead? You're not her message servant.
Its definitely not. Soon after i posted in here, she told me she cut herself last night. She sent me a picture, and it was bad. She told me if i ever left her, she would probably kill herself. I saw she has cuts all over her legs, so she has done this before. She literally appeared fine up until this point. I havent told her i plan to cut ties with her. I think im trapped gaf. Im very scared right now, and I feel like such an idiot.
Btw, she doesnt know i have a gaf account, so she cant see this stuff.
You need to work on getting rid of this attitude. This is a girl you've never met that has been talking to you for 2 weeks. You are 18. Your life is just starting.
And similar taste in anime and music is very very very low on the list of what makes relationships work. It's great if it happens, but there are ample things that are infinitely more important.
Er.... things just got more interesting.
Remember, first of all, that you are NOT her therapist. You can't help her through this.
If you are seriously concerned about her safety (and staying in a 'relationship' because of this type of emotional blackmail NEVER ends well), you need to get in contact with someone who knows her in real-life, whether friends or parents or whatnot, and express your concerns. And then BLOCK her, or you will sucked into this negativity.
Remember, first of all, that you are NOT her therapist. You can't help her through this.
If you are seriously concerned about her safety (and staying in a 'relationship' because of this type of emotional blackmail NEVER ends well), you need to get in contact with someone who knows her in real-life, whether friends or parents or whatnot, and express your concerns. And then BLOCK her, or you will sucked into this negativity.
Moose Biscuits
It would be extreamly painful...
Have you given her any other contact information, links other than Snapchat or means to find you?
If not, if Snapchat is the only thing you two have shared: block her. That's all. Delete her contact info so you aren't tempted to get back in touch with her.
If you want to be double certain, change your Snapchat info so she can't find you with a new account. Can you do this? I've never used Snapchat before.
Loudbill just above
Her parents fuel this behavior. Could i send you a message real quick? Ill be short and sweet.
ZackieChan
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Cut off contact. You don't need this. Others may disagree.
Same deal. Took a 10 bus ride to meet, and she had a boyfriend that I knew about. Didn't even make out.
Fudgepuppy
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Anyone with any experience with being fuck buddies? Just met this girl, thought I was falling for her as we are like 100% alike when it comes to hobbies, passions, opinions, humor, but then we went out for beers, then fucked twice at my place, and after I didn't really feel in love with her.
We met again after that, two days later, and had awesome sex again. I asked her afterwards what she's looking for, and she said nothing serious because she's terrible at relationships, and that we can be fuck buddies. It was a great relief for me, because I do like spending time with her, sleeping with and next to her, but I just don't see myself being with her. We're just not clicking on that level.
We met again after that, two days later, and had awesome sex again. I asked her afterwards what she's looking for, and she said nothing serious because she's terrible at relationships, and that we can be fuck buddies. It was a great relief for me, because I do like spending time with her, sleeping with and next to her, but I just don't see myself being with her. We're just not clicking on that level.
velociraptor
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Which is precisely what I have just told her. If she wants to speak, then speak. Don't wait around for me to say something.
artsi
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I went on a date with the (older) single mom, I had fun and we had plenty to talk about but it was one of those dates where I didn't have any damn clue if it went actually well or not.
But she messaged me her phone number a few hours later on Tinder and asked to continue on Whatsapp, so the game is still on.
I'm also still talking with the (younger) single mom with the baby. Honestly (on paper) she might be more better choice for a serious relationship as we're the same age and have more things alike, but let's see after I get to date her.
But she messaged me her phone number a few hours later on Tinder and asked to continue on Whatsapp, so the game is still on.
I'm also still talking with the (younger) single mom with the baby. Honestly (on paper) she might be more better choice for a serious relationship as we're the same age and have more things alike, but let's see after I get to date her.
The girl I'm dating won't tell me her age. She refuses to. Or what she does for a living for that matter. She says it doesn't matter. That when we're out she's there with me in the moment. It's really weird. I don't know if it's a cultural thing or something. She was born and raised in the Philippines and has only been here like 3 years. I think. She might be weird.
artsi
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lol actually I would
I dunno where these moms suddenly came from as I've never dated one before, but they're both fine af and I like doing stuff with kids, so I don't mind at all.
About the younger one, the baby's father took off right before she gave birth and doesn't give a fuck so he's not going to be around. Makes things simpler but I feel sorry for the kid not having a caring dad.
2 red flags.
Haven't you seen that girl for a while?
Three weeks now and four dates. She says she's not necessarily looking for a relationship and is having fun. I am too so I guess this stuff isn't that much of a deal breaker. It's definitely odd though. She's so secretive about shit.
EDIT: Two weeks actually.
Messofanego
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She could be unemployed and not the age you expect? Her not being honest doesn't sound good.
So I want to know if I should bother ask this girl out in person if she hasn't replied to my mail I sent her on Facebook messenger a year ago and before New Year's Eve ?
My childhood friend thought it would be a good idea to ask her out again before New Year's Eve and I was a bit reluctant to do it.
I'm not good at all talking to women but I managed to talk to her about Zelda and the Nintendo switch at her work (grocery store). Otherwise it's always been that we have said hi to each other and nothing more.
So should I just let he be or talk a bit more to her before asking her out in person?
My childhood friend thought it would be a good idea to ask her out again before New Year's Eve and I was a bit reluctant to do it.
I'm not good at all talking to women but I managed to talk to her about Zelda and the Nintendo switch at her work (grocery store). Otherwise it's always been that we have said hi to each other and nothing more.
So should I just let he be or talk a bit more to her before asking her out in person?
Huge red flags. Age shouldn't be important in any respect unless she's underage, and it's not like she has to tell you what company she works for and its physical location. If you can't even get "oh, i'm a cashier at a bookstore" out of her, something's up.
She's not underage so thank fucking god for that. She's shown her idea at a bar. She tells me she's older than me. That's all I get out of her. I just don't wanna find out she's 10 years older than me. The job thing is suspicious. She has told me she was 3 jobs. One is online, another is a teacher that teaches something somewhere, and a mystery one. Or it could've just been those two. I believe she recently quit the teacher one and got a new job where she has to wear a handkerchief on her head as part of the uniform I think. But yeah she could be a 50 year old prostitute for all I know.
Gnome Scat
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Ever since I've started watching anime, I've noticed myself doing better with women.
ZackieChan
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You planning your wedding or something? Keep looking for other women to date, and if you enjoy hanging out with this shady chick, keep doing so. Just don't leave her alone at your place or anything.
I'd say don't focus so much energy on one woman. You're putting all your hopes and dreams into this person, it seems, when you should be spreading that around.
Do people really use talking about Nintendo Switch as a pick up line? I can't imagine why she's not into you romantically...
Baron von Loathsome
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Hey, aren't you the horse from My Little Horse Can't Possibly Be This Cute?
Valkerionseven
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Went to a birthday and there were a lot of people I kinda casually know/remember. There was a really cute girl there who I felt like I met before but could not place it. Apparently she went abroad for a few months and came back this week. She kept saying how sad she was cause no one remembers her...
I did my best in pretending I knew who she was but she called me out on it quick lol. Just trying to be nice and we talked a bit but honestly.... no fucking idea who she was :/
I did my best in pretending I knew who she was but she called me out on it quick lol. Just trying to be nice and we talked a bit but honestly.... no fucking idea who she was :/
always crazy bacon
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Definetly a prostitute. #jokingnotjoking
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