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[Ultramantaro1]

What's the most girls you guys have been able to juggle at a time? Right now I'm talking to 6 different girls. Have been out with two of them, got a first date with one of them Saturday night, and another first date for early next week with another one. The other two I'm confident I could meet up with as well. I really should start pruning these numbers but I also want to sleep with all of them before I do. Also, for some stupid reason I'm still going on Bumble and Tinder.

Are you looking for a girlfriend or just to sleep around and have fun? If it's the latter, keep doing what you're doing as long you can fit it all in your schedule.

If it's the former, I would start cutting the non-serious ones after a date or two. I know this is 2017 modern dating in the age of Tinder and women are sleeping around too, but I can't 'date' more than a girl at once, unless it's just casual sex.

 

[Spaced Harrier]

Honestly I'm not really down with american style "dating".

It can get fucked to be honest.

 

[Ozorov]

What's the most girls you guys have been able to juggle at a time? Right now I'm talking to 6 different girls. Have been out with two of them, got a first date with one of them Saturday night, and another first date for early next week with another one. The other two I'm confident I could meet up with as well. I really should start pruning these numbers but I also want to sleep with all of them before I do. Also, for some stupid reason I'm still going on Bumble and Tinder.

I only date one at a time. I would probably go insane if I dated many at the same time.

 

[GK86]

Any count over three seems like an overkill. Even three is a lot. I start mixing up details and telling the same basic info in a short period is boring as fuck.

 

[Ray Wonder]

I'm so dumb. I'd be calling them all different names n shit, all the time.

 

[Solo]

Depends on what he and these women are looking for though. I personally had 5-6 one night stands from Tinder, and that was all both parties wanted, no feelings were hurt, and everyone was happy and went on with their lives.

And yes, to echo what what was said a day or two back, "I'm not interested in hooking up/I'm not going to sleep with you on the first date" more often than not means you're fucking.

 

[Salamando]

I top out at like two. And once sex starts happening, that drops to one quickly.

 

[artsi]

Few hours until dinner, I'm gonna make my move tonight.

Should be easymode as she's certainly interested and already agreed for the next date at my place, but I'm kind of nervously excited, lol.

 

[ZackieChan]

Honestly I'm not really down with american style "dating".

It can get fucked to be honest.

What style are you comfortable with?
America is a big place, so what does "American style dating" even mean?

 

[knavish]

What style are you comfortable with?
America is a big place, so what does "American style dating" even mean?

I think he probably means dating multiple people at the same time

 

[Ozorov]

Few hours until dinner, I'm gonna make my move tonight.

Should be easymode as she's certainly interested and already agreed for the next date at my place, but I'm kind of nervously excited, lol.

Good luck artsi.

 

[ZackieChan]

I think he probably means dating multiple people at the same time

I'm trembling in anticipation to find out.

 

[LucidMomentum]

Few hours until dinner, I'm gonna make my move tonight.

Should be easymode as she's certainly interested and already agreed for the next date at my place, but I'm kind of nervously excited, lol.

That's life, my guy.

I could have a girl wrapped around my finger and I'll still be nervous I'll mess it up.

That nervous excitement is the best part of living.

 

[Ashby]

Are you looking for a girlfriend or just to sleep around and have fun? If it's the latter, keep doing what you're doing as long you can fit it all in your schedule.

If it's the former, I would start cutting the non-serious ones after a date or two. I know this is 2017 modern dating in the age of Tinder and women are sleeping around too, but I can't 'date' more than a girl at once, unless it's just casual sex.

I don't know. If I met the right one I would be down with becoming exclusive, of those six I've only slept with one and that's been going on for about 2 months now. Going on a second date with another one and shes been flirting pretty hard so sex with likely happen friday night. Made my intentions clear with the girl I'm sleeping with now and we've been enjoying hooking up casually. Truth be told, I don't even know what would separate a girl that I want to sleep with and one I would want to make my girlfriend.

 

[dubq]

What style are you comfortable with?
America is a big place, so what does "American style dating" even mean?

probably something to do with gonorrhea

 

[Xun]

What's the most girls you guys have been able to juggle at a time? Right now I'm talking to 6 different girls. Have been out with two of them, got a first date with one of them Saturday night, and another first date for early next week with another one. The other two I'm confident I could meet up with as well. I really should start pruning these numbers but I also want to sleep with all of them before I do. Also, for some stupid reason I'm still going on Bumble and Tinder.

Are you me?

I'm chatting to the same number (they're all pretty much guaranteed dates) and I still go on Tinder/Bumble despite it being hard enough as it is!

I said I'd be relentless with dating again after recovering from Mono, but it's honestly a lot more exhaustive than I had anticipated.

I guess I'm catching up for all of those wasted years...

 

[Solo]

Truth be told, I don't even know what would separate a girl that I want to sleep with and one I would want to make my girlfriend.

You'll know. There's a different vibe or energy and you'll connect on levels beyond just sexual/physical ones.

 

[Spaced Harrier]

What style are you comfortable with?
America is a big place, so what does "American style dating" even mean?

That's really odd you don't know.

It's basically the concept of "dating" multiple people at the same time and the concept of going on "dates" themself.

Pre-planned activities, and the numbered "this is date #4 excited!" Ness of it all.

 

[artsi]

Good luck artsi.

Thanks man, I'm bringing my A game tonight.

That's life, my guy.

I could have a girl wrapped around my finger and I'll still be nervous I'll mess it up.

That nervous excitement is the best part of living.

Yeah true, lol.
And one additional nervous factor is that she's older, as I've usually dated younger women.

 

[Ozorov]

Thanks man, I'm bringing my A game tonight.



Yeah true, lol.
And one additional nervous factor is that she's older, as I've usually dated younger women.

Are you making the dinner or going out?

 

[Salamando]

That's really odd you don't know.

It's basically the concept of "dating" multiple people at the same time and the concept of going on "dates" themself.

Pre-planned activities, and the numbered "this is date #4 excited!" Ness of it all.

Only Americans go on "dates"? What's odd about getting a girls number and asking her out to drinks Saturday night? We do unplanned stuff as well, once we get a feel for each others schedules and likes and such.

 

[Ray Wonder]

Shooting range, burgers, and fucking to the National Anthem.

 

[Scotch]

That's really odd you don't know.

It's basically the concept of "dating" multiple people at the same time and the concept of going on "dates" themself.

Pre-planned activities, and the numbered "this is date #4 excited!" Ness of it all.

Where are you from? As a European my experience online dating was exactly like your description.

 

[TangerineCloud]

Shooting range, burgers, and fucking to the National Anthem.

And clapping after you cum.

 

[artsi]

Are you making the dinner or going out?

Going out tonight, and a movie night at my place tomorrow.

 

[vern]

That's really odd you don't know.

It's basically the concept of "dating" multiple people at the same time and the concept of going on "dates" themself.

Pre-planned activities, and the numbered "this is date #4 excited!" Ness of it all.

I'm an American and I've never counted which date I'm on as far as I know. I mean, I am aware of the number of it's like the first few I guess, but I've never really known anyone in real to talk about dates like that. Only on GAF and I think it's more to add context a lot of the time when people are asking for advice.

Also I've lived in a number of countries on 3 continents and in each of them the concept of going on "dates" existed.

 

[always crazy bacon]

That's really odd you don't know.

It's basically the concept of "dating" multiple people at the same time and the concept of going on "dates" themself.

Pre-planned activities, and the numbered "this is date #4 excited!" Ness of it all.

As an British man I get where he's coming from before you all get defensive.

 

[Kyne]

this isn't a cultural/regional thing, it's a personal thing (which is why people seem to be getting defensive).

I personally only like to date one girl at a time. It's not a big deal.

Let's not get our panties in a bunch over this.

 

[KazenY2J]

What's the most girls you guys have been able to juggle at a time? Right now I'm talking to 6 different girls. Have been out with two of them, got a first date with one of them Saturday night, and another first date for early next week with another one. The other two I'm confident I could meet up with as well. I really should start pruning these numbers but I also want to sleep with all of them before I do. Also, for some stupid reason I'm still going on Bumble and Tinder.

Jesus, 6?
Right now I'm currently talking to only 2.

 

[Salamando]

As an British man I get where he's coming from before you all get defensive.

I get the not dating multiple people thing, but I'm genuinely curious about not getting the concept of dates. Do British people never schedule activities with potential mates?

 

[Xun]

As an British man I get where he's coming from before you all get defensive.

Indeed.

The concept of dating multiple people is new to me as well, but most people seem to do it so I may as well join in.

I’m chatting to 5 girls and will likely meet up with all of them, but I doubt I'd date more than 2/3 at a time in the early stages.

It's already proving difficult to keep up, let alone further down the line.

 

[Megalosaro]

Is it too forward to ask someone if they have any single friends?

 

[always crazy bacon]

Is it too forward to ask someone if they have any single friends?

That's never worked for me, hoping a girl will recommend you to one of her friends for an easy in.

 

[ZackieChan]

That's really odd you don't know.

It's basically the concept of "dating" multiple people at the same time and the concept of going on "dates" themself.

Pre-planned activities, and the numbered "this is date #4 excited!" Ness of it all.

Where are you from?
What is the dating alternative to going on dates?

 

[NotTheGuyYouKill]

Huhhhh when it rains it pours, I guess. Talking to another really cute girl on POF.

 

[always crazy bacon]

Where are you from?
What is the dating alternative to going on dates?

He's talking about the formality of it all. For me back in the day I'd hang out with girls that liked me, is going to a girls house and watching videos a "date"? It's an American thing like tipping in that there are so many rules so to say. I'm confident that's what he's trying to express.

 

[Ultramantaro1]

I grew up in France, the concept of a 'rendez-vous' is obviously prevalent. Maybe this is just a British thing? But I do agree that the ideas of having to have a 'talk' about exclusivity is fairly American in my experience.

From my background, the bf-gf relationship is pretty muche assumed once you've gone on a handful of 'real' dates (not Netlfix and chill, but movies, nice restaurant, museum, pic nic etc) ans seeing other people at that stage is a bit of a dealbreaker. Unless the relationship is explicitly casual for sex from the start (like a ONS), having a 'so ... what are we? ' kind of talk is unusual.

I am a litle older than some posters here, so perhaps this is a generational rather than geographical difference.

 

[Jhoan]

I think 3-4 dates spaced out in one week is fine but I ideally like to keep it to 2-3 dates. Back to back dates per day has been overwhelming for me in the past in addition to talking to numerous women since many women have similar common names. It got to the point where I had to juggle different facts about each person. The more uncommon the name is, the easier it is to remember facts. For me, having 2 dates this week is fine and each person has a different name.

For instance, I once mistakenly sent a text meant for another woman to one I was meeting up with that day. She told me that better not expect me to be disappointed. The date ended up going pretty well but I ghosted her in the end.

 

[LucidMomentum]

Is it too forward to ask someone if they have any single friends?

I do it all the time, and...

That's never worked for me, hoping a girl will recommend you to one of her friends for an easy in.

This. I think it's worked for me like twice and both of those were meh dates.

I'm always down to take a lady out for a good time, but for some reason asking friends to set me up has had middling results.

 

[Krauser Kat]

reddit likes the way my dick looks... thats about all ill add to this page.

The two girls im dating now are both great... im in a good spot. Now i wait for the exclusive talk.

 

[animax]

Alright opinion! Girl is about an inch and a half to two inches taller than me. Do you think that's a significant height difference?

Doesn't matter what we think, it matters what the girl thinks. If she doesn't like it move on. There's plenty of girls who don't mind

What's the most girls you guys have been able to juggle at a time? Right now I'm talking to 6 different girls

I went as high as that recently but once you meet them all in person the list will go down quickly. You'll find one or two worth seeing again and the rest you'll struggle to find the time for.

As an British man I get where he's coming from before you all get defensive.

As an Irish man I agree. It's not that we don't take girls out on dates, it's just that we don't build it up as (or call it) a "date" in the same way as it is in the US.

 

[Count Dookkake]

You also call trucks "lorries," but they're still trucks.

 

[Ogodei]

I tried something bold and a little stupid last night on Bumble, we'll see how it goes.

One of the few good photos of me is me holding this giant cucumber that i grew in my garden, sort of pondering its length and girth.

So i made that my lead photo and made the first sentence of my profile "it's not an allegory, it's just something i grew."

 

[Spaced Harrier]

As an Irish man I agree. It's not that we don't take girls out on dates, it's just that we don't build it up as (or call it) a "date" in the same way as it is in the US.

Terry?

 

[Count Dookkake]

I tried something bold and a little stupid last night on Bumble, we'll see how it goes.

One of the few good photos of me is me holding this giant cucumber that i grew in my garden, sort of pondering its length and girth.

So i made that my lead photo and made the first sentence of my profile "it's not an allegory, it's just something i grew."

Nothing wrong with a dick joke, but that's just awful.

Is this just some translation error or what?

 

[LucidMomentum]

reddit likes the way my dick looks... thats about all ill add to this page.

The two girls im dating now are both great... im in a good spot. Now i wait for the exclusive talk.

Congrats! Best of luck making the decision if it ever comes up.

 

[Ultramantaro1]

What kind of contact to keep with girl I've been seeing for just slightly over 1 month while I'm leaving the country for 10 days? Since it's a fresh relationship, I don't want things to grow cold. I thought about sending a post card from my destination but I'm sure this thread will tell me that this is way too corny. Just no contact for 10 days and hit her up when I'm back? Txt and calling are not an option and she's not on any messenging app.

Also do I bring back a little cheapo souvenir or is that even too much after 1 month?

 

[gaiages]

I think you mean hypocrisy, but that still isn't an accurate description of my behavior in that situation.

What did I refuse to do?

The word he was looking for is 'petty', but it's not really petty anyway. You like what you like.

Honestly I'm not really down with american style "dating".

It can get fucked to be honest.

I don't even know what you mean.

That's really odd you don't know.

It's basically the concept of "dating" multiple people at the same time and the concept of going on "dates" themself.

Pre-planned activities, and the numbered "this is date #4 excited!" Ness of it all.

That's not 'American' style dating, that's most dating now. I mean, you have to find the person you like somehow, right? That ain't going to happen with arranged marriages or whatever.

 

[Ogodei]

Nothing wrong with a dick joke, but that's just awful.

Is this just some translation error or what?

Nah, American english.

I'm starting to think i don't get bumble. Girls they keep showing me are all model-gorgeous but Basic to the core, two lines that don't jive with me.

That and i'm back to the problem of having no good photos for this sort of thing.

 

[Mr Solo Dolo]

Saw my ex and her new boyfriend (guy i was told not to worry about) out in public for the first time today. It stirred up some feelings but at the same same time it was still very much a 'meh' moment.

I walked past her with my head held high, with no guilt. Can't say she did the same.