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[Ultramantaro1]

I think I'm being ghosted and it sucks, so don't do it guys. I guess it's fair after a message or two. Not when you been dating for a month, gotten physical and have mutual friend circles. I'm probably gonna run into her again at some point, it's just weird that she's doing me like that. Things seemed to be going very well, but on to the next one I guess.

 

[Ray Wonder]

I think I'm being ghosted and it sucks, so don't do it guys. I guess it's fair after a message or two. Not when you been dating for a month, gotten physical and have mutual friend circles. I'm probably gonna run into her again at some point, it's just weird that she's doing me like that. Things seemed to be going very well, but on to the next one I guess.

Almost positive there's someone else that she's talking to now. You don't ghost after a month unless you don't want to explain something like that.

 

[Ultramantaro1]

Almost positive there's someone else that she's talking to now. You don't ghost after a month unless you don't want to explain something like that.

Yeah, seems likely. Basically, things were going good, then I left on vacation for 10 days. Now I'm back and it seems like she was quick to move on. I just feel really silly cause I brought back souvenirs for her, plus I sent some post cards (I was in 4 different countries). So I can just imagine her getting that stuff in the mail and having a laugh or something lol.

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I feel sorry for the next girl I'm with, I'm gonna be a lot less romantic early on and take a lot longer to commit.

 

[ZackieChan]

That's probably a good thing. Become the playa you were always meant to be.

 

[Ultramantaro1]

That's probably a good thing. Become the playa you were always meant to be.

I wish I could change my personality that easily lol. I'm the type of guy who loves corny, romantic shit. Like, a crown of sonnets* is my jam. I have a hard time juggling multiple girls. I go one at a time, which I know is hurting my chances.

I'm learning to hold that crap in until about a year in or so in the relationship. I'm not made for 2017. I would have been a smooth operator in the 1800s though. I think growing up with 3 sisters always complaining that guys are not romantic enough, don't like to commit, are all fuckbois etc. influenced the way I act.

* deep cut for gaf oldies

 

[Gotdatmoney]

I wish I could change my personality that easily lol. I'm the type of guy who loves corny, romantic shit. Like, a crown of sonnets* is my jam. I have a hard time juggling multiple girls. I go one at a time, which I know is hurting my chances.

You can like all that corny romantic shit and stuff and be successful. You just have to know when to break it out and when it's too much. As for talking to multiple girls. Tbh you just have to look at it as gauging interest. Online there is no real committment so you just gotta roll with it.

I'm learning to hold that crap in until about a year in or so in the relationship. I'm not made for 2017. I would have been a smooth operator in the 1800s though. I think growing up with 3 sisters always complaining that guys are not romantic enough, don't like to commit, are all fuckbois etc. influenced the way I act.

* deep cut for gaf oldies

Whenever you hear someone say "all guys are fuckbois" or "all girls are bitches", safely disregard their opinion. If you only listen to one thing I say this is probably it lol.

 

[MoFoJones99]

So I have had this happen to me twice in a few months now when I am out, but what does it mean if a girl explicitly states that she has a boyfriend but still insists that I take her number down and message her later?

 

[always crazy bacon]

Almost positive there's someone else that she's talking to now. You don't ghost after a month unless you don't want to explain something like that.

No lies detected.

 

[always crazy bacon]

So I have had this happen to me twice in a few months now when I am out, but what does it mean if a girl explicitly states that she has a boyfriend but still insists that I take her number down and message her later?

Hedge bet or in other words, you might be new dick she is interested in but does not want to get out of her comfort zone of a relationship. A monkey won't leap out of a tree until it knows there is another branch within reach. Some women have a real phobia about being single and need the validation of a relationship. Take your pick.

 

[Ray Wonder]

You can like all that corny romantic shit and stuff and be successful.

True af 💪

 

[always crazy bacon]

Whenever you hear someone say "all guys are fuckbois" or "all girls are bitches", safely disregard their opinion. If you only listen to one thing I say this is probably it lol.

For those not in the US like myself, what's the definition of a fuckboi?

 

[Miles Quaritch]

Or they are giving themselves an out in case you're clingy/crazy.

It also means you're one handsome motherfucker.

 

[names2hard4you]

For those not in the US like myself, what's the definition of a fuckboi?

A sweet talker that goes around sticking it in everything that has a hole or moves. Also typically found living in fraternities, but not necessarily so. The fuccboi is also generally good looking, and wears trendy/hipster clothes in order to attract his victims.

 

[Miles Quaritch]

Known her for a year and some more, but started to take interest in each other in August. Come the beginning of fall, that's when I really started to get to know her.

So...How long have you actually been dating? As in going on dates and calling them dates?

And you should take her feelings into consideration before you burden her with your own issues.

 

[Ultramantaro1]

For those not in the US like myself, what's the definition of a fuckboi?

I guess it's the modern equivalent to player/douchebag. Stereotypically, the guy girls say they dont want but somehow are always dating.

 

[Ray Wonder]

For those not in the US like myself, what's the definition of a fuckboi?

A dude who will say whatever to get into a girls pants, and then ghost afterwards (not always immediately) for his next prey.

 

[KUON.0101]

A sweet talker that goes around sticking it in everything that has a hole or moves. Also typically found living in fraternities, but not necessarily so. The fuccboi is also generally good looking, and wears trendy/hipster clothes in order to attract his victims.

"hipster clothes"

That could range from skinny jeans to full bearded guys who look like bikers.

 

[always crazy bacon]

A sweet talker that goes around sticking it in everything that has a hole or moves. Also typically found living in fraternities, but not necessarily so. The fuccboi is also generally good looking, and wears trendy/hipster clothes in order to attract his victims.

A pretentious wanker that loves himself then. Got it.

 

[Miles Quaritch]

I hope Count/Zackie don't see how y'all are describing them...

 

[Count Dookkake]

Ha!

 

[Johnny Cage In The Shower]

Ghost early and ghost often, that's my motto

Thanks but no thanks, block and delete. Ghosting takes too long.

I hope to God you guys are not posting these because you're serious and you're only doing it to get a rise out of me. This is a human being who enjoyed your company, your pleasantries, the conversations and whatever you guys did together.

More importantly, this person thinks you're both on the same page as far as how you feel about each other, why the fuck would you be an asshole and just ignore them and vanish from the face of the earth? How hard is it to tell them you are not on board, on the same page and move on?

 

[Ultramantaro1]

You're only a fuckboi if you're not upfront about it. If you clearly tell the girls you're only in it for fun casual hook ups, then you're a gentleman IMO.

 

[Gotdatmoney]

So I have had this happen to me twice in a few months now when I am out, but what does it mean if a girl explicitly states that she has a boyfriend but still insists that I take her number down and message her later?

Put it in your back pocket, send a message but other than that dont read too much into it. She may have friends though and that is where you wanna post up.

True af 💪

Lmao. Well if it works it works.

I'm not an particularly romantic or corny person (not at all really) but displays of affection don't bother me. Just a time and a place.

For those not in the US like myself, what's the definition of a fuckboi?

It's mostly just a manipulative guy not interested in anything but getting kills. Not interested in a relationship or anything serious but not honest or upfront. Basically just a dick. But to be frank the people most afraid of fuckbois are basically the most drama filled people you are going to meet.

Aint none of these people with "no fuckbois" in there profile actually worth taking seriously. Anyone actually good at the fuckboi game aint even gon get caught to begin with. If I wanted to use a girl(s) for sex, she(they) wouldn't even be aware she was being used. It makes the whole complaint rather dumb to me.

 

[Llyranor]

You are all fuckbois

 

[Leeness]

This conversation right now lol. Y'all 😂

 

[Count Dookkake]

Aint none of these people with "no fuckbois" in there profile actually worth taking seriously. Anyone actually good at the fuckboi game aint even gon get caught to begin with. If I wanted to use a girl(s) for sex, she(they) wouldn't even be aware she was being used. It makes the whole complaint rather dumb to me.

Also, I've noticed that they tend be less attractive than the average profile, which isn't a very high bar to begin with.

Not sure why that is.

 

[Ray Wonder]

I fall in love I ain't a fuckboi

 

[Miles Quaritch]

You are all fuckbois

Fuck you, I'm a fuckman soon to be I'm too tired, can't you take yourself man.

 

[Ray Wonder]

Although I have a perfect K/D ratio once I get to sing to em

 

[Miles Quaritch]

Although I have a perfect K/D ratio once I get to sing to em

Fuckboi alert!

 

[Ozorov]

 

[Gotdatmoney]

Also, I've noticed that they tend be less attractive than the average profile, which isn't a very high bar to begin with.

Not sure why that is.

Eh, hot people have more leverage to not be used. It's hard to score 10/10, I'm not trying to discard that. Most people aren't. So-so people are the ones who get used since it's easy to take advantage of someone who aint always getting attention.

It's not the instafamous girls that need to postulate they want something serious. They have about 1008384 people who want that chance.

 

[Ultramantaro1]

Eh, hot people have more leverage to not be used. It's hard to score 10/10, I'm not trying to discard that. Most people aren't. So-so people are the ones who get used since it's easy to take advantage of someone who aint always getting attention.

It's not the instafamous girls that need to postulate they want something serious. They have about 1008384 people who want that chance.

I think it works at any level. The kind of guy who can get with an Instafamous girl is probably the kind of guy who himself has 1008384 girls he could easily get with. Even instababes get their heart broken every now and then.

 

[Ray Wonder]

Fuckboi alert!

Help i think i turned into a fuck boy

Happened not that long ago

 

[Count Dookkake]

Eh, hot people have more leverage to not be used. It's hard to score 10/10, I'm not trying to discard that. Most people aren't. So-so people are the ones who get used since it's easy to take advantage of someone who aint always getting attention.

It's not the instafamous girls that need to postulate they want something serious. They have about 1008384 people who want that chance.

This makes sense.

It is unfortunate that they don't learn from their experiences. Echoing catchphrases won't do anything.

 

[always crazy bacon]

You are all fuckbois

Everybody wants be a fuckboi but nobody wants to be a fuckboi. Where are the fuckgals at?

 

[Gotdatmoney]

This makes sense.

It is unfortunate that they don't learn from their experiences. Echoing catchphrases won't do anything.

To me it isn't even that. I don't really care whether they learn or not. That isn't my problem.

However if I was a fuckboi that caption would not make me reconsider my life. However as someone who is pretty upfront reading that just makes me swipe left. Like just the fsct you put that in your profile already makes you too questionable for me.

 

[always crazy bacon]

To me it isn't even that. I don't really care whether they learn or not. That isn't my problem.

However if I was a fuckboi that caption would not make me reconsider my life. However as someone who is pretty upfront reading that just makes me swipe left. Like just the fsct you put that in your profile already makes you too questionable for me.

In that situation "No fuckbois" is probably in the same category as "I don't normally do this" or "I'm too good for fuckbois". Probably not that great to begin with.

 

[Johnny Cage In The Shower]

I ran into this girl on Tinder and the only thing that read on her profile was "If you're only here for sex, you can just FUCK OFF!"

Whether a dude is only on Tinder for s x or not...Thought it was a bit too harsh and stupid to have only that as something describes you on your profile. Like that says a lot about yourself than a "fuckboi"

I wonder if she connects with anyone.

Spoiler

she wasn't that attractive.

 

[Gotdatmoney]

In that situation "No fuckbois" is probably in the same category as "I don't normally do this" or "I'm too good for fuckbois". Probably not that great to begin with.

It's just drama signalimg to me. I aint ever met someone use that term seriously and not come with a bag full of problems.

Everybody wants be a fuckboi but nobody wants to be a fuckboi. Where are the fuckgals at?

Oh they are around. Tbh, me personally, if I got played at least I had fun and got some sex outta it lol. I'm not on dating apps to wife anyone after a month so this stuff doesn't bug me.

 

[Peltz]

I'm seeing two girls right now. One is really great with communicating, always texts back right away and is super responsive.

The other sometimes takes hours to respond. Like, I could text her at 10 am, and won't hear back until 7pm, but it's always a "yes" to hanging out and wanting to make plans. I'm just not very accustomed to the silence and I guess the contrast is kind of jarring.

Any advice to get her to talk more? Or should I just accept that texting isn't her thing?

And yes, these girls are cool with me dating multiple people for now.

 

[Gotdatmoney]

Any advice to get her to talk more? Or should I just accept that texting isn't her thing?

Like I said to someone else. You already got the W. She says yes to hanging. The actual only relevant thing. Don't fish for more.

 

[Peltz]

Like I said to someone else. You already got the W. She says yes to hanging. The actual only relevant thing. Don't fish for more.

Yea, I think that's good advice. I just needed to hear it from someone else. Thanks!

 

[Ultramantaro1]

Like I said to someone else. You already got the W. She says yes to hanging. The actual only relevant thing. Don't fish for more.

Yes, I'm that someone else and you were right. Except that she's ghosting now, but at least it was a fun month.

 

[Gotdatmoney]

Yea, I think that's good advice. I just needed to hear it from someone else. Thanks!

Good luck

Yes, I'm that someone else and you were right. Except that she's ghosting now, but at least it was a fun month.

Well that's good at minimum. Yeah ghosting sucks but it's part of the game. At least you had fun with it.

 

[efyu_lemonardo]

Am I wrong to believe that when scheduling a blind date a couple days in advance a confirmation on the day of the date is standard practice?

This girl got all furious at me when I contacted her the next morning to say I was exhausted from work and fell asleep (which is the truth - she wanted to meet around 23:00).

According to her I stood her up and she set aside time etc. Yet there were no missed calls or messages from her when I woke up in the morning, which makes me feel like she prefers being angry than just letting it slide and rescheduling at an earlier hour.

 

[animax]

I'm seeing two girls right now. One is really great with communicating, always texts back right away and is super responsive.

The other sometimes takes hours to respond. Like, I could text her at 10 am, and won't hear back until 7pm, but it's always a "yes" to hanging out and wanting to make plans. I'm just not very accustomed to the silence and I guess the contrast is kind of jarring.

Any advice to get her to talk more? Or should I just accept that texting isn't her thing?

And yes, these girls are cool with me dating multiple people for now.

It's not on you to get her to talk more, some people just don't text as much. It's not a bad thing, just part of their character. Sometimes it's best not to text too much anyway as it leaves more to talk about on dates. Also, it's likely she's texting a few people.

But more importantly, did you tell the girls that you're dating other people?? Don't do that! That's not a good approach imo, you can certainly date more than one but don't explicitly tell them you're doing it.

 

[vern]

I'm seeing two girls right now. One is really great with communicating, always texts back right away and is super responsive.

The other sometimes takes hours to respond. Like, I could text her at 10 am, and won't hear back until 7pm, but it's always a "yes" to hanging out and wanting to make plans. I'm just not very accustomed to the silence and I guess the contrast is kind of jarring.

Any advice to get her to talk more? Or should I just accept that texting isn't her thing?

And yes, these girls are cool with me dating multiple people for now.

Why would you want a girl who wants to talk more often via text? The best girls are the ones that know how to respect your space and your time. See her when you both are free and talk in real life. You found yourself a good girl.

 

[animax]

Am I wrong to believe that when scheduling a blind date a couple days in advance a confirmation on the day of the date is standard practice?

This girl got all furious at me when I contacted her the next morning to say I was exhausted from work and fell asleep (which is the truth - she wanted to meet around 23:00).

According to her I stood her up and she set aside time etc. Yet there were no missed calls or messages from her when I woke up in the morning, which makes me feel like she prefers being angry than just letting it slide and rescheduling at an earlier hour.

Wait, you no-show'd?? You're 100% in the wrong man, that's clear as day. If anything you're the one who should have confirmed!

 

[Gotdatmoney]

Am I wrong to believe that when scheduling a blind date a couple days in advance a confirmation on the day of the date is standard practice?

This girl got all furious at me when I contacted her the next morning to say I was exhausted from work and fell asleep (which is the truth - she wanted to meet around 23:00).

According to her I stood her up and she set aside time etc. Yet there were no missed calls or messages from her when I woke up in the morning, which makes me feel like she prefers being angry than just letting it slide and rescheduling at an earlier hour.

This makes no sense. What are you actually saying? She wanted to meet at 11 and you said yes and didnt go?