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[Ray Wonder]

Turn of events, I have a date this weekend haha

If she's ever used a tampon in her life chances are you're not gonna know shit. Or ridden a horse. Or a ton of other random things.

Having a "cherry" intact is like the most unreliable way to know if a girl is a virgin or not.

Learning stuff today

Yep, for real. PM me and we'll set something up. Just not Saturday...doing the (Half) Marathon Sunday morning, I'll need the rest beforehand.

Ok, lemme figure out what's going on first before I commit to losing my flimsy anonymity. I told a couple buddies I'm going out, plus what I said above. lol

 

[Juke Joint Jezebel]

If she's ever used a tampon in her life chances are you're not gonna know shit. Or ridden a horse. Or a ton of other random things.

Yeah, the whole "Hymen Intact = Virgin" thing is kinda moot when it can become pretty much undetectable before even having sex! Even regular masturbation can wear it away!

 

[Earthbound64]

If she's ever used a tampon in her life chances are you're not gonna know shit. Or ridden a horse. Or a ton of other random things.

Having a "cherry" intact is like the most unreliable way to know if a girl is a virgin or not.

Yeah, the whole "Hymen Intact = Virgin" thing is kinda moot when it can become pretty much undetectable before even having sex! Even regular masturbation can wear it away!

I wasn't really being overly serious with that.

As I said, I brought it up more in a sense of wondering if she would be overly obsessed / attached if I decided the relationship wasn't right.

 

[Juke Joint Jezebel]

I wasn't really being overly serious with that.

I know, I just like to chat about biology and shit haha!

 

[Earthbound64]

I know, I just like to chat about biology and shit haha!

Fair enough. I just don't want it to come across as if this is something I'm looking for / a requirement / expectation or anything.

 

[Jhoan]

One of my worst dates was a girl constantly checking her phone and looking elsewhere. She gave me an hour to have a coffee chat, this was her work break. I also had to go to work after the date, but I didn't whip out my phone cause that's plain rude. It was a clear sign she wasn't interested in me. If you don't have the attention span to spend time on someone for a date, you're not interested in them, is my take.

I agree. But again, I'm of the opinion that if you're meeting with anyone you probably shouldn't be on your phone.

I edited one of my prompts on my CMB profile to include "doesn't check the phone constantly and gives me her undivided attention." I'll ask her out again and if she obliges and does it again, then I'll move on. I'm fine with taking pictures and using Google Maps to navigate but not to gossip/make other plans in the middle of it. I wouldn't answer my phone if my mom calls me in the middle of it because it's probably not important. I once went on a date where a girl Snapchat a picture to her brother.

 

[Earthbound64]

I edited one of my prompts on my CMB profile to include "doesn't check the phone constantly and gives me her undivided attention." I'll ask her out again and if she obliges and does it again, then I'll move on.

Why not just talk to her about it?

Also - Cosmic Microwave Background?

 

[gaiages]

I wasn't really being overly serious with that.

As I said, I brought it up more in a sense of wondering if she would be overly obsessed / attached if I decided the relationship wasn't right.

lol, true

Sex ed in the US is kinda bad though, educating people on it all is fun

Fair enough. I just don't want it to come across as if this is something I'm looking for / a requirement / expectation or anything.

I personally didn't see it that way :3

I edited one of my prompts on my CMB profile to include "doesn't check the phone constantly and gives me her undivided attention." I'll ask her out again and if she obliges and does it again, then I'll move on. I'm fine with taking pictures and using Google Maps to navigate but not to gossip/make other plans in the middle of it. I wouldn't answer my phone if my mom calls me in the middle of it because it's probably not important. I once went on a date where a girl Snapchat a picture to her brother.

I agree mostly about the phone thing, but what's wrong with a girl showing off her date on Snapchat? You should be flattered I mean, unless you weren't in it or something, that's just rude

 

[Jhoan]

I agree mostly about the phone thing, but what's wrong with a girl showing off her date on Snapchat? You should be flattered I mean, unless you weren't in it or something, that's just rude

I wasn't in it as she snapped a picture of the beer that she was drinking. I think a huge problem that our generation has these days is that we're constantly glued to our phones and not listening enough. My brother does this way too much and it drives me nuts when I try to make conversation with him but he's laughing at a dumb video on his Facebook feed.

I read an article somewhere about that very problem. If people can keep their hands off their phone for an hour or two, everyone would be a better conversationalist. Smartphones and social media apps gave people short attention spans. If my next date on Friday does this, I'm done. The only thing that I would check my phone during a date is to see the time discretely and if I'm on a bathroom break, respond to a few texts.

 

[Ray Wonder]

I wasn't in it as she snapped a picture of the beer that she was drinking. I think a huge problem that our generation has these days is that we're constantly glued to our phones and not listening enough. My brother does this way too much and it drives me nuts when I try to make conversation with him but he's laughing at a dumb video on his Facebook feed.

I read an article somewhere about that very problem. If people can keep their hands off their phone for an hour or two, everyone would be a better conversationalist. Smartphones and social media apps gave people short attention spans. I my next date on Friday does this, I'm done. The only thing that I would check my phone during a date is to see the time discretely and if I'm on a bathroom break, respond to a few texts.

I went on a date where I ended up on a girls snap story like 4 times. First date. Shit was annoying

 

[Krauser Kat]

if my date takes out their phone more then once to show me something rather then describing in the conversation. It hasnt been a great date.

Dates longer then 4 hours are exempt

 

[velociraptor]

How do I handle someone who is being irritable and frankly all out weird due to 'Premenstrual Syndrome'.

I told her 'let's be honest, you're in control of your mind, thoughts and actions. Your body does not control you'.

She claims I don't know anything.

I personally hate it when people blame their behaviour on psychological issues which have been souped up. Frankly, if you THINK you have a problem, then you WILL have a problem.

 

[timetokill]

if my date takes out their phone more then once to show me something rather then describing in the conversation. It hasnt been a great date.

Dates longer then 4 hours are exempt

On dates I only bring out my phone for the following reasons:
- Getting directions to our next destination
- To show dog pics to her

 

[Kyne]

How do I handle someone who is being irritable and frankly all out weird due to 'Premenstrual Syndrome'.

I told her 'let's be honest, you're in control of your mind, thoughts and actions. Your body does not control you'.

She claims I don't know anything.

I personally hate it when people blame their behaviour on psychological issues which have been souped up. Frankly, if you THINK you have a problem, then you WILL have a problem.

it would be the same as blaming a grouchy attitude on malnourishment or having a really bad headache.

can you really call bullshit?

edit: maybe malnourishment wasn't the right word. Let's just call it being hangry?

 

[gaiages]

How do I handle someone who is being irritable and frankly all out weird due to 'Premenstrual Syndrome'.

I told her 'let's be honest, you're in control of your mind, thoughts and actions. Your body does not control you'.

She claims I don't know anything.

I personally hate it when people blame their behaviour on psychological issues which have been souped up. Frankly, if you THINK you have a problem, then you WILL have a problem.

Dude, fucking PMS does shit to you, and it's different for everyone. I'm an emotional mess during PMS (get can get bloated as fuck), others have cramps, general malaise, pretty much anything that can happen during a period sans the bleeding itself can happen during PMS time. Like come on, this shit is pretty well documented.

Also, if you can really say "your body doesn't control you", you truly live a blessed life where a physical disability, hormone issues, or chronic pain has never once entered into your life and affected you. Or even mental issues like depression manifesting in physical ways (fatigue).

I mean shit, I have a hella headache right now and it's making me grumpier than usual because I have to deal with people.

So, like, yeah, I think you might wanna think on that comment a bit more.

 

[Ray Wonder]

How do I handle someone who is being irritable and frankly all out weird due to 'Premenstrual Syndrome'.

I told her 'let's be honest, you're in control of your mind, thoughts and actions. Your body does not control you'.

She claims I don't know anything.

I personally hate it when people blame their behaviour on psychological issues which have been souped up. Frankly, if you THINK you have a problem, then you WILL have a problem.

Show up with chocolates, flowers, and a back massage

 

[ZackieChan]

How do I handle someone who is being irritable and frankly all out weird due to 'Premenstrual Syndrome'.

I told her 'let's be honest, you're in control of your mind, thoughts and actions. Your body does not control you'.

She claims I don't know anything.

I personally hate it when people blame their behaviour on psychological issues which have been souped up. Frankly, if you THINK you have a problem, then you WILL have a problem.

I'm sure she'll be hankering for a second date with you, sir.
You may not THINK you're acting like a dick, but you ARE

Why not just talk to her about it?

Also - Cosmic Microwave Background?

Coffee Meets Bagel - you get one or a handful of potential matches daily. Download it.
Also,
Tinder
Bumble
OkCupid

Spoiler

TanTan if you're in an area with Chinese people (Vern's favorite)

Go forth and get some dates, man. Get some good photos, too.

 

[Advocatus Diaboli]

Show up with chocolates, flowers, and a back massage

And a song.

 

[Gotdatmoney]

How do I handle someone who is being irritable and frankly all out weird due to 'Premenstrual Syndrome'.

I told her 'let's be honest, you're in control of your mind, thoughts and actions. Your body does not control you'.

She claims I don't know anything.

I personally hate it when people blame their behaviour on psychological issues which have been souped up. Frankly, if you THINK you have a problem, then you WILL have a problem.

She is right. You don't know anything. I honestly suggest you go do some reading. Even if you were right (you aren't) you're acting like an asshole. If you cant handle PMS as a real thing go date someone whose doesn't bug you.

 

[Earthbound64]

Coffee Meets Bagel - you get one or a handful of potential matches daily. Download it.
Also,
Tinder
Bumble
OkCupid

Spoiler

TanTan if you're in an area with Chinese people (Vern's favorite)

Go forth and get some dates, man. Get some good photos, too.

Ah, never heard of it. I'll check it out, thanks.

I have Tinder (only had a few people even respond - who aren't bots anyway), Bumble (never had anyone message at all) and OKCupid (to be fair, the two people I've dated since my divorce have been from there). Also POF. Never heard of TanTan, don't know if there are many Chinese people in this area.

She claims I don't know anything.

It's not that you "don't know anything."
It's that you think that you know some stuff, and it's making you be a colossal twat. Knock it off.

 

[Ogodei]

Aye, Bumble's been a complete strikeout for me. Setting aside my abysmal response rates for reasons i've yet to derive (Visually unremarkable, neither hot nor ugly, though i am only 5' 8"), the girls themselves seem to be not my type at all for the most part, while i consistently find more interesting people on OKCupid (and get actual responses there, not that i've had a single date yet since i moved 4 months ago)

I've heard CMB is basically useless unless you pay, like Plenty Of Fish. Not a full paysite like Match, but more of a hassle to work than Tinder/OKC.

 

[ZackieChan]

I've had dates from CMB, but they're few and far between due to the low frequency of possible matches.

 

[Megalosaro]

I'm seeing a girl from CMB tonight. Unless she cancels lol.

It is actually the match date I've had from an app. It's our second meet up

 

[Earthbound64]

I've heard CMB is basically useless unless you pay, like Plenty Of Fish. Not a full paysite like Match, but more of a hassle to work than Tinder/OKC.

I have no issue paying for stuff, if they actually do anything.
Paying for PoF, OKCupid, and Tinder at the moment.

 

[Leeness]

How do I handle someone who is being irritable and frankly all out weird due to 'Premenstrual Syndrome'.

I told her 'let's be honest, you're in control of your mind, thoughts and actions. Your body does not control you'.

She claims I don't know anything.

I personally hate it when people blame their behaviour on psychological issues which have been souped up. Frankly, if you THINK you have a problem, then you WILL have a problem.

Lmao, yeah no. PMS can FUCK YOU UP.

I don't anymore, but when I was younger, I got so sick every month I had to stay home from school because I couldn't WALK, I was in so much pain.

Now, I get pain (though not as bad as when I was young), my stomach hurts, my back hurts, I get very weepy, I eat chocolate, my mood can swing back and forth like crazy. It's not just "mind over matter", it's physical pain and your hormones going nuts.

Sorry, but you know nothing, Jon Snow.

 

[Bread]

How do I handle someone who is being irritable and frankly all out weird due to 'Premenstrual Syndrome'.

I told her 'let's be honest, you're in control of your mind, thoughts and actions. Your body does not control you'.

She claims I don't know anything.

I personally hate it when people blame their behaviour on psychological issues which have been souped up. Frankly, if you THINK you have a problem, then you WILL have a problem.

Oh my god man. Have some compassion.

 

[Starlightmuse]

How do I handle someone who is being irritable and frankly all out weird due to 'Premenstrual Syndrome'.

I told her 'let's be honest, you're in control of your mind, thoughts and actions. Your body does not control you'.

She claims I don't know anything.

I personally hate it when people blame their behaviour on psychological issues which have been souped up. Frankly, if you THINK you have a problem, then you WILL have a problem.

Just think about something, haven't you ever been grumpy as fuck when you haven't sleep well and just woke up? Have you ever had one of those days when you feel kind of sad for no actual reason? I bet yo have. It'd be something like that, more or less. Try to be comprehensive with her, at least to some extent, if she's being a total dick then tell her, if she's just a bit grumpy then yeah, try to understand it.

About the virginity discussion, I can't understand how anyone can see that as a good think or get horny about it, like, the first time is shit for any girl because it is usually rather painful and all that shit, it basically mean that you're not gonna enjoy sex with her in quite some time.

 

[Megalosaro]

It's probably some sort of weird "purity" fantasy.

 

[Peltz]

How do I handle someone who is being irritable and frankly all out weird due to 'Premenstrual Syndrome'.

I told her 'let's be honest, you're in control of your mind, thoughts and actions. Your body does not control you'.

She claims I don't know anything.

I personally hate it when people blame their behaviour on psychological issues which have been souped up. Frankly, if you THINK you have a problem, then you WILL have a problem.

Handle it with empathy.... same way as you'd handle nearly any relationship situation.

 

[gaiages]

It's probably some sort of weird "purity" fantasy.

Yeah, most likely.

 

[Makonero]

It's probably some sort of weird "purity" fantasy.

or they're a vampire

 

[Kyne]

About the virginity discussion, I can't understand how anyone can see that as a good think or get horny about it, like, the first time is shit for any girl because it is usually rather painful and all that shit, it basically mean that you're not gonna enjoy sex with her in quite some time.

true that.

couple of years ago I had a girl who was new to the game straight up starfish on me.

 

[Earthbound64]

She skipped one of her college classes today to be able to have more time talking with me...
I scolded her for doing that...

Yeah, more flags.

 

[Juke Joint Jezebel]

She skipped one of her college classes today to be able to have more time talking with me...
I scolded her for doing that...

Yeah, more flags.

AROOOOGA! AROOOOGA! BAIL!

 

[Ralemont]

Yeah CMB is kinda bunk unless you pay. On the plus side, at least in Philly, you'll actually see women on there that you don't on Tinder/OKC/Bumble. For some reason it draws a slightly different userbase.

 

[jimmypython]

Hey Gaf,

Report: I went on an AMAZING first date yesterday. We talked for 7 hours, moving from city hiking to dinner to bar. It was so much fun and she said the same too.

But things seem to fall flat today. I couldn't feel any excitement from her text at all when I attempted to set up the next meeting. Maybe it's just me or maybe she suddenly lost interest lol.....but i will try again before moving on. ..

 

[The Power Of Snap]

Hey Gaf,

Report: I went on an AMAZING first date yesterday. We talked for 7 hours, moving from city hiking to dinner to bar. It was so much fun and she said the same too.

But things seem to fall flat today. I couldn't feel any excitement from her text at all when I attempted to set up the next meeting. Maybe it's just me or maybe she suddenly lost interest lol.....but i will try again before moving on. ..

You should have waited 3-4 days before texting her. Don't show too much interest.

 

[Earthbound64]

Cute pupper.
Doing the doggo paddle.

 

[jimmypython]

You should have waited 3-4 days before texting her. Don't show too much interest.

yeah. oh well, I'll just be silent for awhile now and see what happens.

funny that we were just talking about how outdated the 3days rule is yesterday lol.

 

[bluethree]

Waiting is generally a good idea but it's not such a big deal if they really like you. Think about it - if she was really that interested would another 48 hours make a difference?

If you're sensing some hesitance on her part though, just back off a bit and maybe try again later.

 

[jimmypython]

Waiting is generally a good idea but it's not such a big deal if they really like you. Think about it - if she was really that interested would another 48 hours make a difference?

If you're sensing some hesitance on her part though, just back off a bit and maybe try again later.

Yep. this makes sense

 

[Starlightmuse]

She skipped one of her college classes today to be able to have more time talking with me...
I scolded her for doing that...

Yeah, more flags.

Maybe it isn't that much to worry about, I mean, some people just look for any excuse to not go to class. I say it as a current college student.

 

[Megalosaro]

Oh boy. I'm off to a great start. Put her in a bad mood because I didnt want pick her up from her work.

Instead I told her to meet up there. She said she get there late. I told her that was fine, I'll get a table.

"I hope you don't find a cute waitress to keep you company"

Can I recover from this lol

 

[Earthbound64]

Maybe it isn't that much to worry about, I mean, some people just look for any excuse to not go to class. I say it as a current college student.

This is true.
(I don't think it's the case, but nonetheless)

 

[Ray Wonder]

Oh boy. I'm off to a great start. Put her in a bad mood because I didnt want pick her up from her work.

Instead I told her to meet up there. She said she get there late. I told her that was fine, I'll get a table.

"I hope you don't find a cute waitress to keep you company"

Can I recover from this lol

Does that mean you're showing up in a waitress costume? 😍

 

[Megalosaro]

Nah, blue button up from AE

 

[Count Dookkake]

She skipped one of her college classes today to be able to have more time talking with me...
I scolded her for doing that...

Yeah, more flags.

Good move. She'll be calling you daddy in no time.

Welcome back to the world of dating.

Oh boy. I'm off to a great start. Put her in a bad mood because I didnt want pick her up from her work.

Instead I told her to meet up there. She said she get there late. I told her that was fine, I'll get a table.

"I hope you don't find a cute waitress to keep you company"

Can I recover from this lol

"They are all horribly disfigured and smelly. Great personalities, though."

 

[Megalosaro]

Lol I just shrugged it off and moved on. Decided not to play that game.

 

[Earthbound64]

Good move. She'll be calling you daddy in no time.

Welcome back to the world of dating.

Sending her to bed early.
Maybe I should just embrace this.

(Not serious)

 

[always crazy bacon]

She skipped one of her college classes today to be able to have more time talking with me...
I scolded her for doing that...

Yeah, more flags.

Embrace your replacement father figure role.