Ray Wonder
Founder of the Wounded Tagless Children
True, I've been there too.
I mean, breaking up jokes aren't really funny and can strike a nerve. So If everything is cool between yall besides that I'd just move past it.
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True, I've been there too.
I mean, breaking up jokes aren't really funny and can strike a nerve. So If everything is cool between yall besides that I'd just move past it.
She overreacted but she realized that and apologized. You should just have accepted the apology. Why wouldn't you talk to her for 13 hours after she apologized?
always crazy bacon
Banned
You're an idiot. Girl you were talking to was asking if you were interested in her by framing it as a "joke". You then told your girlfriend this??
You're girlfriend has every right to be upset and now you've sown the seeds in her mind you might not want to be with her or are a potential cheater in the future.
Good luck with that one.
artsi
Member
Yeah that's just weird.
Gotdatmoney
Member
Maybe don't share those types of jokes with your gf in the future if she doesn't have the sense of humour for it .
Otherwise I disagree with the rest here. Someone flips out on you they aren't entitled to imnediate forgiveness and response just because they said sorry. I'm not a grudge holder generally speaking but being fucking stupid and then saying "I'm sorry" doesn't excuse being fucking stupid in my eyes.
I might let it go but it's not just cause she apologized. 13 hours to respond to a text after someone freaks out on you is not a big deal. Depending on the extent of the over reaction (this is important here since we really have no idea) what you need to evaluate is if you think this is a one off situation or if this is or will be a pattern everytime you do something that bugs her.
Otherwise I disagree with the rest here. Someone flips out on you they aren't entitled to imnediate forgiveness and response just because they said sorry. I'm not a grudge holder generally speaking but being fucking stupid and then saying "I'm sorry" doesn't excuse being fucking stupid in my eyes.
I might let it go but it's not just cause she apologized. 13 hours to respond to a text after someone freaks out on you is not a big deal. Depending on the extent of the over reaction (this is important here since we really have no idea) what you need to evaluate is if you think this is a one off situation or if this is or will be a pattern everytime you do something that bugs her.
That's not necessary, chill.
always crazy bacon
Banned
Schoolboy errors need to be called out, tough love and all that.
To be fair it was an idiotic thing to say. Why would anyone think that joke would fly well
Gotdatmoney
Member
There is no implication that the girl he is talking to was probing him for a relationship. We don't know their relationship (friends, past lovers, it could be his fucking sister for all we know) nor do we don't know what the joke actually was. We do know his gf thinks she overeacted so whatever is going on it's pretty obvious it did not require that level of escalation.
I don't really think we know enough to say dude is definitively an idiot.
We don't even know what the joke was :/
"Gotdatmoney, you may need to dump your girl if she tries to take you to a T Swift concert"
^^^ That is a break up joke that I would call pretty harmless.
Without actually knowing what was said at best all we know is dude should learn his gfs sense of humour better.
"huh? what'd I do today? just joke with my female coworker about breaking up with you lololol"
c'mon guys.
the situation was handled poorly by all parties involved.
Anyways, I was supposed to start putting myself out there this week. Instead I started playing Persona 5 and now I have too many digital waifus for this real life shit.
c'mon guys.
the situation was handled poorly by all parties involved.
Anyways, I was supposed to start putting myself out there this week. Instead I started playing Persona 5 and now I have too many digital waifus for this real life shit.
ZackieChan
Member
He didn't go far enough, imo. Should have put the brakes on everything with that craziness, but yet he's texting all day with her still.
always crazy bacon
Banned
Sharing the "joke" is a dumb move that's for sure. I thought idiot was pretty tame myself, ironically I'd have probably got away with "you're a bit of a fuckwit".
Ray Wonder
Founder of the Wounded Tagless Children
I'd probably respond to that joke somewhere along the lines of:
"That's really funny, thanks for sharing that. -_-"
I wouldn't flip out, but idk the tension between them. Could have been a long time coming or something.
"That's really funny, thanks for sharing that. -_-"
I wouldn't flip out, but idk the tension between them. Could have been a long time coming or something.
But his girlfriend asked him what they were talking about. It was either lying/not telling her or telling her the truth.
Ray Wonder
Founder of the Wounded Tagless Children
"She told me some stupid joke"
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95% chance of a follow up "So.. what was the joke?"
i think that there are some cases where white lies are okay. this might have been one of them.
@girls in this thread: would have rather heard the joke or not?
always crazy bacon
Banned
Do you really think they were having a long long conversation about him breaking up with his girlfriend? Like that was the only topic they discussed for a "joke"and what caused the girlfriend to even ask?
Dude should have kept a pokerface.
Gotdatmoney
Member
Really depends on what the joke was. Its possible dude has no social awareness. It's also possible it was just a harmless joke taken to the extreme. All that really matters imo is dude evaluates whether this is a one off due to stupidity from all sides or if this is a trend.
Pretty much. Who knows.
Lying is not necessarily a bad thing. If my friend is texting me some personal shit and my gf asks what we are talking about I may lie. The truth matters when it's of importance. If its just some shit that is only gonna make everyone mad for no purpose I suggest not telling it.
Example: "Where did you go last night" tell the truth
Example: "John has been acting weird lately, have any idea why? (He failed a course and is stressing but doesnt want people to ) - lie
always crazy bacon
Banned
Take a stab in the dark with this one and a girl making a joke to a guy in a relationship about breaking up with his girlfriend is harmless with no intention? I'm 99% sure the girl was probing with an "its just a prank bro" defense if he reacted negatively to her.
Gotdatmoney
Member
Without knowing the joke I really have no idea. There isn't enough to go on. I'm adament about that fact.
always crazy bacon
Banned
well instead of defending the unknown, why don't you ask the poster? I'm extrapolating based on the information posted and if more information is made available my position could be updated.
Gotdatmoney
Member
I'm actually expecting him to come back at sone point yes
I got you. It's totally possible you are correct for reference. I just am not "sure" yet.
Miles Quaritch
Member
I told a joke once...my wife and her friends were talking about summer coming up last year and finally being able to get some much needed sun...I happened to hear and said to my wife that you got some vitamin D last night...
I thought it was hilarious and it still is so fuck anyone who says it isn't, they didn't think so though and it took me a few seconds to realise no-one else was laughing or even smiling. Went a couple of days without sex after that one.
I thought it was hilarious and it still is so fuck anyone who says it isn't, they didn't think so though and it took me a few seconds to realise no-one else was laughing or even smiling. Went a couple of days without sex after that one.
Megalosaro
Banned
Date 3 confirmed.
I have no idea what I'm doing lol. It's been five years since the last time I did anything. I am bumbling through this lol
I have no idea what I'm doing lol. It's been five years since the last time I did anything. I am bumbling through this lol
always crazy bacon
Banned
well, that's her vitamin deficiency loss.
Okay I fully admit I was completely oblivious when I told my girlfriend what happened.
It was like
Me: Oh x just messaged me randomly
Her: What did she say?
Me: (joke here) - No thanks!
Then she got upset. She told me she keeps thinking that I'll find someone's better than her and when I told her that joke it kinda made her anxiety go into overdrive.
The girl that said the joke about breaking up has been a friend for a long time; I know for sure she wasn't serious. My girlfriend doesn't know her so I can see why things happened like they did. Even if I wish she just talked to me about the issue instead of cutting contact.
New to this dating thing. Can you tell >.>
It was like
Me: Oh x just messaged me randomly
Her: What did she say?
Me: (joke here) - No thanks!
Then she got upset. She told me she keeps thinking that I'll find someone's better than her and when I told her that joke it kinda made her anxiety go into overdrive.
The girl that said the joke about breaking up has been a friend for a long time; I know for sure she wasn't serious. My girlfriend doesn't know her so I can see why things happened like they did. Even if I wish she just talked to me about the issue instead of cutting contact.
New to this dating thing. Can you tell >.>
Count Dookkake
Member
After a few seconds of silence, you should have followed up with "We're talking megadose, ladies."
It sounds cliche, but as long as you're being yourself and just enjoying the other person's company, you can't really go wrong. Just relax and enjoy it.
Megalosaro
Banned
Usually I'm pretty nervous during these things, and I'm pretty anxious leading up to seeing her. But the moment she shows up, I go zen aND focus on being as upbeat and fun as possible.
Jesus, a lot happened lol
Holy plot twist Batman
That's what my animes tell me, so it's definitely gonna happen
Congrats on the good date
I mean are you okay in being in an open relationship? It's not really an objective question, it has more to with your comfort levels. Since you're asking, I'm going to guess you have reservations about it (which isn't a problem), so you probably shouldn't unless you truly feel you can handle what an open relationship implies.
Break up jokes generally aren't very funny for the receiving SO...
I mean, maybe you had the golden break up joke of the year, but somehow I doubt it.
Sure why not, but both my SO and I have terrible senses of humor so it was probably like "my coworker told me to break up with you before I ruin your mind with poop jokes" or something equally dumb
Pretty sure in a normal world it'd just be best to keep a joke like that to yourself. Probably doesn't help that a female coworker made that joke, it can easily be eschewed as them wanting to get that D if they don't know each other and their sense of humor
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You told us everything but the important part (aka the actual joke)
Holy plot twist Batman
That's what my animes tell me, so it's definitely gonna happen
I am joking, please no one kill me
Congrats on the good date
I mean are you okay in being in an open relationship? It's not really an objective question, it has more to with your comfort levels. Since you're asking, I'm going to guess you have reservations about it (which isn't a problem), so you probably shouldn't unless you truly feel you can handle what an open relationship implies.
Break up jokes generally aren't very funny for the receiving SO...
I mean, maybe you had the golden break up joke of the year, but somehow I doubt it.
Sure why not, but both my SO and I have terrible senses of humor so it was probably like "my coworker told me to break up with you before I ruin your mind with poop jokes" or something equally dumb
Pretty sure in a normal world it'd just be best to keep a joke like that to yourself. Probably doesn't help that a female coworker made that joke, it can easily be eschewed as them wanting to get that D if they don't know each other and their sense of humor
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You told us everything but the important part (aka the actual joke)
Ray Wonder
Founder of the Wounded Tagless Children
I got money on it being
"No seriously, break up with your girlfriend and we can try dating. I really like you, and I want you so bad."
If you're only interested in sex and are ok with her getting it elsewhere too, then sure. Wear protection though
Everyone will let themselves go a little in a relationship, it's a side effect of the comfort and routine that goes with it. As long as you don't go too far
Yeah it was a bit of a faux pas on your part. Just the very fact that another girl was texting you is itself enough for some girls to get a little concerned. Then the "joke" about you breaking up was an additional blow. You should apologise, tell her it was insensitive of you and you know better now.
I followed up with Tuesday's girl and I'm pretty sure that I've been ghosted. I'm not mad because she did me a solid. I already deleted her number/texts.
I got a 6'4'' 43 year old woman to visit my OKC profile but then I saw that her age range is set to 32-49 so I'm wondering if I should bother trying to message her considering that I'm out of her age range (28). Also her standards for messaging her are very specific/a bit ridiculous (I clear a few of them). I've gotten a few visits from older women lately and would be open to messaging them.
I got a 6'4'' 43 year old woman to visit my OKC profile but then I saw that her age range is set to 32-49 so I'm wondering if I should bother trying to message her considering that I'm out of her age range (28). Also her standards for messaging her are very specific/a bit ridiculous (I clear a few of them). I've gotten a few visits from older women lately and would be open to messaging them.
Personally, I wouldn't date someone who I couldn't be physically active with. We do yoga together, hike, run, etc. It's a regular part of the relationship like having sex or grabbing dinner. It's an easy and healthy way to bond.
Plus afterwards, you're all sweaty and get to shower together. It's the best.
Earthbound64
Banned
For what it's worth, I told her I wasn't interested in a relationship. And, no, we didn't (and aren't going to) have sex. Sorry to bother you all.
Megalosaro
Banned
Are you in to older women? They seem more mellow. I think I am too. At the very least I have a track record lol
I started dating older women last year after getting over a dumb irrational fear that older women were intimidating. It turned out that the opposite is true and they're more intense/intellectual but I like it. My personal track record has been hit or miss over the last several months. I find that they have a better head on their shoulders than younger women and don't like beating around the bush. I suppose it's worth a shot to shoot a message to them.
Starlightmuse
Member
You're not bothering anyone, mate. If you think that was for the best, that's the important thing. There are thounsand of women out there and you don't seem to have much of a problem finding them, so it's just a matter of time until you find someone who really is for you.
Cheer up!
Fuck I really laughed. Maybe I'm an idiot.
Megalosaro
Banned
Girl just texted me.
3rd date for Saturday. She had it all planned already lol.
3rd date for Saturday. She had it all planned already lol.
LucidMomentum
Member
It's so rare that I've had someone tell me I'm going out with them on a date.
It's amazing when it happens, but most of the girls I've dated have had me handle date plans.
Megalosaro
Banned
She's been really cool helping plan stuff so far. To the point that I feel a little guilty.
I suggested date 1. Date 2 was collaborative. Date 3 is apparently going to be all her.
I'm going to have to step up my game for date 4 (assuming there will be a date 4)
I suggested date 1. Date 2 was collaborative. Date 3 is apparently going to be all her.
I'm going to have to step up my game for date 4 (assuming there will be a date 4)
She sounds cool. And you seem to have a great outlook. Enjoy Saturday, but don't put too much pressure on yourself when planning Date 4. Just look for something you think you'd both enjoy.
Megalosaro
Banned
I guess I should ask...
I met her through a dating app last thursday. We had date 1 on saturday. Date 2 last night. Date 3 this saturday.
Is this too much too soon? I've enjoyed the time i've spent alot. But I don't want to seem clingy
I met her through a dating app last thursday. We had date 1 on saturday. Date 2 last night. Date 3 this saturday.
Is this too much too soon? I've enjoyed the time i've spent alot. But I don't want to seem clingy
Advocatus Diaboli
Member
You're overthinking it. She asked you out for date 3. It's not clingy to accept an invitation.
Agreed you're totally overthinking it. That's a normal schedule for people who are into each other.
Gotdatmoney
Member
Too many questions. Too many words. Go have fun.
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