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[timetokill]

This girl is really hard for me to read. She cooked dinner for me last night and we talked a lot, but it's like her body language and words aren't matching... like she seems not to really be that into initiating physical contact, but she is totally open when talking about her sexual interests... like way more than the vast majority of girls I've dated. Her reactions to compliments are hard to read, like either she hears it all the time or doesn't know how to take them. She has social anxiety, but is dating two other people besides me. Anyway, a ton of contradictions and it's really confusing, but also I guess... absorbing in a way, for lack of a better word right now.

 

[Advocatus Diaboli]

This girl is really hard for me to read. She cooked dinner for me last night and we talked a lot, but it's like her body language and words aren't matching... like she seems not to really be that into initiating physical contact, but she is totally open when talking about her sexual interests... like way more than the vast majority of girls I've dated. Her reactions to compliments are hard to read, like either she hears it all the time or doesn't know how to take them. She has social anxiety, but is dating two other people besides me. Anyway, a ton of contradictions and it's really confusing, but also I guess... absorbing in a way, for lack of a better word right now.

The weirdest part of this is that you know how many other people she's dating. Considering you've shared that, do you know if she's physical with her other dates?

Honestly, it sounds to me like there's no chemistry but you're comfortable with each other. Looks like you're sliding right into a friendship, which is completely okay. If this proto-relationship isn't meeting your needs (and it isn't), then find one that does.

 

[always crazy bacon]

This girl is really hard for me to read. She cooked dinner for me last night and we talked a lot, but it's like her body language and words aren't matching... like she seems not to really be that into initiating physical contact, but she is totally open when talking about her sexual interests... like way more than the vast majority of girls I've dated. Her reactions to compliments are hard to read, like either she hears it all the time or doesn't know how to take them. She has social anxiety, but is dating two other people besides me. Anyway, a ton of contradictions and it's really confusing, but also I guess... absorbing in a way, for lack of a better word right now.

Could just be the social anxiety manifesting itself. Cut to the chase and ask her if shes interested in perusing a relationship with you.

 

[Jzero]

Anybody only seem to attract women with boyfriends? Or maybe polyamory has gotten really popular? I may be at a concert/party/social situation and I may meet a girl and get physical with her and when I look them up on Facebook or Instagram with their phone number they end up having a damn boyfriend 🤔

 

[always crazy bacon]

Anybody only seem to attract women with boyfriends? Or maybe polyamory has gotten really popular? I may be at a concert/party/social situation and I may meet a girl and get physical with her and when I look them up on Facebook or Instagram with their phone number they end up having a damn boyfriend 🤔

Try looking for a relationship rather than casual hookups? The fact that you have to look them up after the fact rather than having their social media shared with you probably means they are trying to be discrete.

 

[vern]

leeness-

Did we ever get a review of your date with zackie? If so I missed it. Curious to know which of us is a better lover 😏 Or at least which of us could put up with you for longer 😜

 

[M52B28]

I hate when someone I'm not really interested in starts to hit on me. A woman that I know strictly from working in her vicinity started to hit on me after a critiquing(and potluck) of my work. She came up to me while I was studying my painting and started talking about how bright and warm of a person I am and how I always make her smile, then she mentions how I'm probably a nice person to be with.

I responded to her with real indifference and made a joke about my painting and how her perception of me wasn't translated into the painting and she quietly left to pack up. I just hope I didn't make her feel bad because I find her attractive in some ways.

____
Other than that, I initially had a question about something that has lingered in my head. I was having a conversation with a woman that I've been seeing for a few months; I told her that I don't like asking people too many questions after us talking about a co-worker back at her home country that has been constantly bothering her and texting her question after question and she responds:

"That's what I love about you."

Am I reading into this too much?

 

[ZackieChan]

leeness-

Did we ever get a review of your date with zackie? If so I missed it. Curious to know which of us is a better lover 😏 Or at least which of us could put up with you for longer 😜

😮

 

[always crazy bacon]

I hate when someone I'm not really interested in starts to hit on me. A woman that I know strictly from working in her vicinity started to hit on me after a critiquing(and potluck) of my work. She came up to me while I was studying my painting and started talking about how bright and warm of a person I am and how I always make her smile, then she mentions how I'm probably a nice person to be with.

I responded to her with real indifference and made a joke about my painting and how her perception of me wasn't translated into the painting and she quietly left to pack up. I just hope I didn't make her feel bad because I find her attractive in some ways.

Yeah this happens sometimes to men but I think it's a daily think for a lot of women. Just start mentions you're girlfriend in conversations with her (whether you have one or not) and she'll take the hint.

 

[Leeness]

leeness-

Did we ever get a review of your date with zackie? If so I missed it. Curious to know which of us is a better lover 😏 Or at least which of us could put up with you for longer 😜

😮

Lol it was nice meeting both of you. And you were both kind enough to humour me for a bit so thanks.

 

[vern]

Lol it was nice meeting both of you. And you were both kind enough to humour me for a bit so thanks.

Does he look more like Jason statham or vin diesel though?

 

[ErrorMacro]

So, guys, a little bit of advice.

I'm 27 years old, and currently a pHD in Computer Science. This semester, I'v been taking care of some lab classes of basic algorithms/programming for undergraduate students. It is basically a teacher's assistant thing, were I help the students with the practical activities of the course.

A few classes ago, I was staying a little late in class helping some of my students, while the students for the next class (same basic algorithm classes, but another professor) were arriving. I got to chat for a bit with a girl student that arrived for the next class (she was friends with some of my students). After that, she added me on facebook.

A few days ago, we started chatting through facebook (that is, she started talking to me), and we talked quite a bit. I've been pondering if I should ask her on a date, even though she is quite young (18 years old). Would that be creepy? For reference, I asked a girl friend of mine, and she thought it was no way creepy, specially because at no point I was the one to approach the girl, it was all her. What do you guys think?

 

[Advocatus Diaboli]

leeness-

Did we ever get a review of your date with zackie? If so I missed it. Curious to know which of us is a better lover 😏 Or at least which of us could put up with you for longer 😜

😮

I'm on a work trip to Seattle in June and planning on visiting Vancouver too. We can compare notes, guys!

 

[vern]

I'm on a work trip to Seattle in June and planning on visiting Vancouver too. We can compare notes, guys!

Give it up. She doesn't wanna meet you bro. She's ours. 😡

 

[Jzero]

I've been pondering if I should ask her on a date, even though she is quite young (18 years old). Would that be creepy?

Kinda? I feel like a pedo when 19 year olds flirt with me and i'm two years younger than you. Keep in mind that women under 25 are usually not very mature, even if they say they are.

 

[always crazy bacon]

So, guys, a little bit of advice.

I'm 27 years old, and currently a pHD in Computer Science. This semester, I'v been taking care of some lab classes of basic algorithms/programming for undergraduate students. It is basically a teacher's assistant thing, were I help the students with the practical activities of the course.

A few classes ago, I was staying a little late in class helping some of my students, while the students for the next class (same basic algorithm classes, but another professor) were arriving. I got to chat for a bit with a girl student that arrived for the next class (she was friends with some of my students). After that, she added me on facebook.

A few days ago, we started chatting through facebook (that is, she started talking to me), and we talked quite a bit. I've been pondering if I should ask her on a date, even though she is quite young (18 years old). Would that be creepy? For reference, I asked a girl friend of mine, and she thought it was no way creepy, specially because at no point I was the one to approach the girl, it was all her. What do you guys think?

Go for it, don't expect it to last though. Go out and have some fun and remember it's not creepy unless you make it creepy.

 

[always crazy bacon]

Kinda? I feel like a pedo when 19 year olds flirt with me

You're just insecure. 19YO are not someone young enough for anybody to be a pedo. All street legal at that point.

 

[AdanVC]

Girl I meet on tinder last week. We talk nice, she says she wants to meet me in person and suddenly on tuesday she say we should go out today. She is hyped, I'm hyped. Today comes and she continues being hyped, I do too.

Less than one hour before the meeting time she cancels saying she just remembered she had to take her mom to the doc at the same hour. Doesn't say nothing but "sorry" I said: "it ok " she answered "thank "..... siiiiiiiiiiiighhhh. You know, maybe it was truee and she had to take her mom to the doc for an appointment but still, this sucks. We're chatting very slightly and empty right now and she still hasn't said "let's hang out tomorrow!" or something like that...

 

[vern]

Kinda? I feel like a pedo when 19 year olds flirt with me and i'm two years younger than you. Keep in mind that women under 25 are usually not very mature, even if they say they are.

Lol what. I'm 32 and date 18-20 year olds all the time. They are women, not children.

 

[always crazy bacon]

Girl I meet on tinder last week. We talk nice, she says she wants to meet me in person and suddenly on tuesday she say we should go out today. She is hyped, I'm hyped. Today comes and she continues being hyped, I do too.

Less than one hour before the meeting time she cancels saying she just remembered she had to take her mom to the doc at the same hour. Doesn't say nothing but "sorry" I said: "it ok " she answered "thank "..... siiiiiiiiiiiighhhh. You know, maybe it was truee and she had to take her mom to the doc for an appointment but still, this sucks. We're chatting very slightly and empty right now and she still hasn't said "let's hang out tomorrow!" or something like that...

Just ask her when she would like to hang out.

 

[Leeness]

Does he look more like Jason statham or vin diesel though?

They look different?

 

[ZackieChan]

Lol it was nice meeting both of you. And you were both kind enough to humour me for a bit so thanks.

Right back at you! Dat steam clock

Does he look more like Jason statham or vin diesel though?

Vic Mackey

Spoiler

More like Duff the cake making guy from The Food Network

 

[vern]

They look different?

I'm jealous of zackie 😔


Edit: Vic Zackie. 😮

 

[Salamando]

Lol it was nice meeting both of you. And you were both kind enough to humour me for a bit so thanks.

Did you let Zackie taste your special cookies? The non-innuendo ones?

 

[artsi]

Yesterday's dinner date with the 11 years older woman went uh... pretty well, not counting the huge sleep deprivation I'm having lol.

I picked her up, went to the restaurant, had plenty to talk about as we both like to do art and have similiar interests.
She had this kind of trashy look, very high heels and fishnet stockings, tattoos all over etc. but she's highly educated and quite smart.

After dinner she asked if I wanted to see a movie at her place, oh yeaah sure.

Spoiler

We never opened up the TV.

I drove home at 4am, work started 7am. Thank fuck it's friday.

 

[Megalosaro]

Lol what. I'm 32 and date 18-20 year olds all the time. They are women, not children.

You can relate with them? I am not judging, just curious.

What do you guys talk about?

 

[AdanVC]

Just ask her when she would like to hang out.

I just found strange she didn't said when whe should hang out for real this time after she cancelled on me. Oh well, I will ask her to go out depending on her mood tomorrow

 

[Leeness]

Did you let Zackie taste your special cookies? The non-innuendo ones?

No.

 

[timetokill]

The weirdest part of this is that you know how many other people she's dating. Considering you've shared that, do you know if she's physical with her other dates?

Honestly, it sounds to me like there's no chemistry but you're comfortable with each other. Looks like you're sliding right into a friendship, which is completely okay. If this proto-relationship isn't meeting your needs (and it isn't), then find one that does.

I don't know that about her other dates. She mentioned possibly looking into polyamory in passing, so I think she's sort of figuring it out for herself.

I drove her home from class today and I took her hand from her lap so I could hold it, and she seemed to like that. My initial instinct was to give her space so she would be comfortable, but I think she responds best when I'm more assertive, so I'm going to just keep that up.

Could just be the social anxiety manifesting itself. Cut to the chase and ask her if shes interested in perusing a relationship with you.

Yeah I'll probably broach that more directly the next time we go out.

 

[always crazy bacon]

You can relate with them? I am not judging, just curious.

What do you guys talk about?

You just talk about yourself, what you're doing and what's happening in the world. Just normal conversations. It's not like younger people only talk about the latest bands/college and older people only talk about mortgages/careers.

There's a lot of Gaf members that are much older than you think. If they are enjoying something as much as you do in a topic, you have no idea.

 

[Miles Quaritch]

well, that's her vitamin deficiency loss.

Right? I'm only trying to help...

After a few seconds of silence, you should have followed up with "We're talking megadose, ladies."

See, my witty follow up would have been 'it was only 5mg, so you need a nightly dose'.

 

[Miles Quaritch]

Girl I meet on tinder last week. We talk nice, she says she wants to meet me in person and suddenly on tuesday she say we should go out today. She is hyped, I'm hyped. Today comes and she continues being hyped, I do too.

Less than one hour before the meeting time she cancels saying she just remembered she had to take her mom to the doc at the same hour. Doesn't say nothing but "sorry" I said: "it ok " she answered "thank "..... siiiiiiiiiiiighhhh. You know, maybe it was truee and she had to take her mom to the doc for an appointment but still, this sucks. We're chatting very slightly and empty right now and she still hasn't said "let's hang out tomorrow!" or something like that...

So put the ball in her court?

Ask her if she'd like to hang out, if she says she can't/etc, then you end the conversation by saying to let you know when she can. Don't waste time continuing to talk to someone if they show no interest in meeting up.

 

[Messofanego]

Okay I fully admit I was completely oblivious when I told my girlfriend what happened.

It was like

Me: Oh x just messaged me randomly
Her: What did she say?
Me: (joke here) - No thanks!

Then she got upset. She told me she keeps thinking that I'll find someone's better than her and when I told her that joke it kinda made her anxiety go into overdrive.

The girl that said the joke about breaking up has been a friend for a long time; I know for sure she wasn't serious. My girlfriend doesn't know her so I can see why things happened like they did. Even if I wish she just talked to me about the issue instead of cutting contact.

New to this dating thing. Can you tell >.>

Just tell us the joke, verbatim.

 

[Miles Quaritch]

Five internet bucks on it being something so ridiculous that it's going to raise some flags about her response more than any criticism of the joke itself.

 

[artsi]

I said I need to stop booking dates but another girl asked me if she could come over tonight aaaand of course she can because I seem to have a date hoarding problem and FOMO.

Could be she just wants sex tho.

You just talk about yourself, what you're doing and what's happening in the world. Just normal conversations. It's not like younger people only talk about the latest bands/college and older people only talk about mortgages/careers.

There's a lot of Gaf members that are much older than you think. If they are enjoying something as much as you do in a topic, you have no idea.

Yeah, just talk about whatever, 20 year olds are mature enough to have conversations.
If nothing else I talk about cats. I have this funny picture with my furry wingman and I match with a ton of cat adoring girls.

 

[Messofanego]

I said I need to stop booking dates but another girl asked me if she could come over tonight aaaand of course she can because I seem to have a date hoarding problem and FOMO.

Could be she just wants sex tho.

Going from all your previous posts about hookups, most likely XD

 

[artsi]

Going from all your previous posts about hookups, most likely XD

I don't even chase them, they just happen somehow lol.

I'm too easy

 

[always crazy bacon]

Just tell us the joke, verbatim.

He's never telling us "the joke".

 

[Messofanego]

I don't even chase them, they just happen somehow lol.

I'm too easy

 

[vern]

You can relate with them? I am not judging, just curious.

What do you guys talk about?

Well it's mostly about language and culture type shit considering my situation living in china, but yea even when I'm in the states or Australia I go out with younger women. Maybe we don't have a lot to relate with each other but it's fine

Spoiler

dont talk about that much while banging tbh

I'm personally not looking for any long term commitments when I'm dating. I travel and enjoy life too much to settle on one woman.

 

[Peltz]

Lol what. I'm 32 and date 18-20 year olds all the time. They are women, not children.

Eh... no they're not.

 

[vern]

Eh... no they're not.

At what magical age does a woman reach adulthood? 47?

 

[Peltz]

At what magical age does a woman reach adulthood? 47?

Like 25

 

[vern]

Like 25

Very scientific. How about men?

 

[Messofanego]

Very scientific. How about men?

50.

 

[Salamando]

Very scientific. How about men?

We never become adults. We just become bigger and balder boys.

 

[vern]

We never become adults. We just become bigger and balder boys.

Speak for yourself. I still have hair.

 

[Peltz]

Very scientific. How about men?

Around the same age. It varies person to person for both sexes. But I'd say that's the average age when a person's career trajectory, habits, lifestyle, and life-goals start to take shape and become observable to others.

At 18-20, you have no idea what the person will become. At 25, you still don't completely know, but you have a better idea and more of an established track record.

The chance a person will undergo major behavioral changes once they reach 18-20 is like 90%. By 25, it's like 10%-15%.

 

[peanutbutterlatte]

I'm 24 and been dating a 20 year old for 5 months, she's more mature than most women my age (and goodness knows more mature than I was at 20).

It's whatever suits you really. I can see why people would be hesitant to date younger.

 

[Peltz]

I'm 24 and been dating a 20 year old for 5 months, she's more mature than most women my age (and goodness knows more mature than I was at 20).

It's whatever suits you really. I can see why people would be hesitant to date younger.

I believe it. It varies person to person.