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[Ray Wonder]

Got invited by some coworkers to go for a hike which was supposed to be a "set up" with a girl from work who think I'm "cute and funny".

We were supposed to go on like a night hike.

Hang out, start doing shots.
Supervisor comes by, starts doing shots.
Said girl shows up, drinking continues.

Roughly 30 minutes later everyone is making out with everyone.
No party was excluded.

Me and said girl were the only straight ones.
Too drunk, ding dong didn't work though not for lack of trying on her part.
What the fuck just happened to me gaf.

I'm currently going through the post-party mid-hangover, re-hashing/regretting with a hint of "should I be proud" and "I feel ashamed".

tl;dr
Made out with 2 lesbians and a straight girl. We were supposed to go hiking. Now whining about feelings.

So you met up at a house to go hiking, and then everyone got drunk and started making out? Hahaha, that sounds like a fun ass night. You're fine. Being drunk is a super understandable reason to why ding dongs don't work.

You going to take that girl out?

I have a bar close to my house that is pretty trendy. If a girl seems DTF. I try and plan the date there. They have board games too. After a drink or two at the most, I askif they want to meet my corgi.

Works 95% of the time.

Only bar close to me is a dive bar in the hood. I'm jealous.

 

[always crazy bacon]

tl;dr
Made out with 2 lesbians and a straight girl. We were supposed to go hiking. Now whining about feelings.

Made out with 2 Bi women more likely.

 

[saizo]

You going to take that girl out?
.

If she's down, for sure. She seems cool as hell and we got through the awkward introduction phase, so that gets a lotta the bullshit outta the way.

It's just been a while since I've done some stupid shit like that. Not really my personality, or anyone's who was there for that matter. Like some weird-ass what happens in vegas kinda shit.

Made out with 2 Bi women more likely.

That's fair/accurate.

 

[FyreWulff]

Got invited by some coworkers to go for a hike which was supposed to be a "set up" with a girl from work who think I'm "cute and funny".

We were supposed to go on like a night hike.

Hang out, start doing shots.
Supervisor comes by, starts doing shots.
Said girl shows up, drinking continues.

Roughly 30 minutes later everyone is making out with everyone.
No party was excluded.

Me and said girl were the only straight ones.
Too drunk, ding dong didn't work though not for lack of trying on her part.
What the fuck just happened to me gaf.

I'm currently going through the post-party mid-hangover, re-hashing/regretting with a hint of "should I be proud" and "I feel ashamed".

tl;dr
Made out with 2 lesbians and a straight girl. We were supposed to go hiking. Now whining about feelings.

alcohol makes your blood vessels dilate which means blood leaves penis as fast as it comes in

aka

whiskey dick

 

[Roufianos]

Just ask girls to go for a walk with you to central park or something. Money isn't as important (for some girls) as you'd think.

Yea, my first date with my gf cost something like £4. Just went for coffee and got to know each other. When I was meeting girls off Tinder, I don't think I ever took them anywhere fancy initially.

My sister met a guy off there last week and he spent £110 at a fancy restaurant for the date only for her to claim he was boring. Fuck that.

 

[vypek]

Yea, my first date with my gf cost something like £4. Just went for coffee and got to know each other. When I was meeting girls off Tinder, I don't think I ever took them anywhere fancy initially.

My sister met a guy off there last week and he spent £110 at a fancy restaurant for the date only for her to claim he was boring. Fuck that.

I wonder if he spent that much knowing he was boring and the money dropped would make up for that

 

[always crazy bacon]

I wonder if he spent that much knowing he was boring and the money dropped would make up for that

Knowing? I doubt it, many guys pay to cover thier lack of confidence.

 

[Ray Wonder]

Yea, my first date with my gf cost something like £4. Just went for coffee and got to know each other. When I was meeting girls off Tinder, I don't think I ever took them anywhere fancy initially.

My sister met a guy off there last week and he spent £110 at a fancy restaurant for the date only for her to claim he was boring. Fuck that.

Hahaha poor guy

 

[Gotdatmoney]

My sister met a guy off there last week and he spent £110 at a fancy restaurant for the date only for her to claim he was boring. Fuck that.

Guy is an idiot.

For dates "Keep It Simple Stupid."

Also a fancy dinner for a first date is going to amplify it if you are boring. Play to your strengths bruhs. I'm boring as fuck so I like doing activities where you can play off each other and the whole thing isn't just talking. Pick a venue that highlights your good parts.

 

[always crazy bacon]

Guy is an idiot.

For dates "Keep It Simple Stupid."

Also a fancy dinner for a first date is going to amplify it if you are boring. Play to your strengths bruhs. I'm boring as fuck so I like doing activities where you can play off each other and the whole thing isn't just talking. Pick a venue that highlights your good parts.

1st date, for people you've met online. Just checkling you are who you say you are and vice versa. Coffee shop.
2nd date, activity date. If you both enjoy that, then proceed.

 

[Gotdatmoney]

1st date, for people you've met online. Just checkling you are who you say you are and vice versa. Coffee shop.
2nd date, activity date. If you both enjoy that, then proceed.

Coffee as a first date is fine. But like I said, I am boring lol so I try to keep away from having to do solely talking on date 1 (or at least try to keep it short)

 

[Peltz]

Coffee as a first date is fine. But like I said, I am boring lol so I try to keep away from having to do solely talking on date 1 (or at least try to keep it short)

Coffee for a first date is a little lame in my opinion. It feels too much like a job interview.

 

[Count Dookkake]

Got invited by some coworkers to go for a hike which was supposed to be a "set up" with a girl from work who think I'm "cute and funny".

We were supposed to go on like a night hike.

Hang out, start doing shots.
Supervisor comes by, starts doing shots.
Said girl shows up, drinking continues.

Roughly 30 minutes later everyone is making out with everyone.
No party was excluded.

Me and said girl were the only straight ones.
Too drunk, ding dong didn't work though not for lack of trying on her part.
What the fuck just happened to me gaf.

I'm currently going through the post-party mid-hangover, re-hashing/regretting with a hint of "should I be proud" and "I feel ashamed".

tl;dr
Made out with 2 lesbians and a straight girl. We were supposed to go hiking. Now whining about feelings.

It's a shame that you went hiking, but couldn't pitch a tent.

 

[Gotdatmoney]

Coffee for a first date is a little lame in my opinion. It feels too much like a job interview.

I dunno. It's pretty classic. I just think if you suck at pushing a convo forward it can backfire. In the summer I like doing stuff outside personally.

 

[AllGamer]

It's a shame that you went hiking, but couldn't pitch a tent.

Coffee for a first date is a little lame in my opinion. It feels too much like a job interview.

I don't like it either but I also don't drink coffee. I like grabbing a drink with her on the first date, though. My first dates almost always take place in the evening so I usually go and have a beer with her. The last one was last Friday at a craft beer bar near my place and she had never drunk craft beer before and was really into it. She had like 4 or 5 of them. It was a great evening.

 

[Megalosaro]

Boba seems like a pretty good first date.

 

[Peltz]

Now that I think about it, I've had nothing but success at barcade. It turns out, saying "watch me kick ass at Ms. Pacman and drink a beer" is a turn on to every woman I've tried it with.

Those years of not getting ass in highschool and mastering videogames had to pay off eventually

 

[LucidMomentum]

Now that I think about it, I've had nothing but success at barcade. It turns out, saying "watch me kick ass at Ms. Pacman and drink a beer" is a turn on to every woman I've tried it with.

Those years of not getting ass in highschool and mastering videogames had to pay off eventually

I Can 1CC half of DoDonPachi.

That has only worked in my favor one time, at a Barcade in Texas right after a Street Fighter V tournament there.

 

[Sakura]

Supposed to go out for dinner with a girl I've been interested in for the past couple years. She never really seemed to interested in me, and would turn me down when I asked her out before, but this time she gave me the OK for some reason, which is cool I guess.

Main problem I'm having now is I seem to have come down with something a couple days ago, and have lost my voice. I'm totally fine other than I have a bit of a cough and can't talk. Hopefully it will get better in time.

Other than that, I've never been out somewhere with a girl that I like before, so I'm kind of nervous about making it work. I figure that even if she isn't that interested in me now, if she has a good time, maybe things could change in my favour. But I don't really know anything about fashion or anything like that.

Guess we will see what happens.

 

[SmackDaddy]

Supposed to go out for dinner with a girl I've been interested in for the past couple years. She never really seemed to interested in me, and would turn me down when I asked her out before, but this time she gave me the OK for some reason, which is cool I guess.

Main problem I'm having now is I seem to have come down with something a couple days ago, and have lost my voice. I'm totally fine other than I have a bit of a cough and can't talk. Hopefully it will get better in time.

Other than that, I've never been out somewhere with a girl that I like before, so I'm kind of nervous about making it work. I figure that even if she isn't that interested in me now, if she has a good time, maybe things could change in my favour. But I don't really know anything about fashion or anything like that.

Guess we will see what happens.

If you aren't better by the date, cancel it. Some people might perceive you being sick on a date a lil desperate or gross.

But, glad it's happening my dude. Good luck, just have fun ! When you try to get someone to like you, you play a part, and it's usually a lesser version of you.

Now for my question... Anyone know how to temper feelings really early into a relationship ? I just met this girl a month ago and she made it clear she didn't want it to be physical . When I made it obvious I want to be around her and just hang, she flipped the script and we fucked lol. Now I'm pretty emotionally and physically into this girl, but it feels too much at this point. Ive already said a couple embarrassing things. Tips? Tricks?

 

[animax]

Now for my question... Anyone know how to temper feelings really early into a relationship ?

Is it a relationship though? Unless you've discussed it (and you probably shouldn't so soon) it probably isn't a relationship

In which case, the best way to temper feelings is to date other people to keep yourself busy/distracted and to keep your options open. Again assuming you both haven't yet agreed to be exclusive.

It's tricky though, I often find it hard to actually put that into practice myself

 

[jimmypython]

Now for my question... Anyone know how to temper feelings really early into a relationship ? I just met this girl a month ago and she made it clear she didn't want it to be physical . When I made it obvious I want to be around her and just hang, she flipped the script and we fucked lol. Now I'm pretty emotionally and physically into this girl, but it feels too much at this point. Ive already said a couple embarrassing things. Tips? Tricks?

congrats on the sex

In which case, the best way to temper feelings is to date other people to keep yourself busy/distracted and to keep your options open. Again assuming you both haven't yet agreed to be exclusive.

It's tricky though, I often find it hard to actually put that into practice myself

pretty much. and it is absolutely hard to do...i found it is exhausting to take the invested mind off someone and start focusing on another, and still have hope for the first one at the same time lol

 

[timetokill]

Meh, just full blown go in. There is no down side to swiping. It doesn't cost you anything. The way I see it from what you posted here about that girl is she seeing other guys. So you need to be fully invested in also seeing other people. Don't wait for her or on her. Pointless exercise. Roll the dice man. That's that shit that gets change.

Well, I set up a date for tonight with the original girl, but yeah, I am definitely doing this.

 

[Gotdatmoney]

Well, I set up a date for tonight with the original girl, but yeah, I am definitely doing this.

Original girl being the one that didnt really talk over the weekend? I suggest you make double time on them swipes brudda. No time like the present.

 

[Messofanego]

Got invited by some coworkers to go for a hike which was supposed to be a "set up" with a girl from work who think I'm "cute and funny".

We were supposed to go on like a night hike.

Hang out, start doing shots.
Supervisor comes by, starts doing shots.
Said girl shows up, drinking continues.

Roughly 30 minutes later everyone is making out with everyone.
No party was excluded.

Me and said girl were the only straight ones.
Too drunk, ding dong didn't work though not for lack of trying on her part.
What the fuck just happened to me gaf.

I'm currently going through the post-party mid-hangover, re-hashing/regretting with a hint of "should I be proud" and "I feel ashamed".

tl;dr
Made out with 2 lesbians and a straight girl. We were supposed to go hiking. Now whining about feelings.

This post combined with this avatar just had me laughing so hard XD

Why do people not know their alcohol limits by now, so they can drink but know what the limit is before their ding dong won't work.

 

[timetokill]

Original girl being the one that didnt really talk over the weekend? I suggest you make double time on them swipes brudda. No time like the present.

Yep.

 

[SmackDaddy]

Is it a relationship though? Unless you've discussed it (and you probably shouldn't so soon) it probably isn't a relationship

In which case, the best way to temper feelings is to date other people to keep yourself busy/distracted and to keep your options open. Again assuming you both haven't yet agreed to be exclusive.

It's tricky though, I often find it hard to actually put that into practice myself

Yeah, good stuff. I meant relationship as in 2 people who interact, not "relationship", but I feel you.

The thought of getting back out there and meeting more people makes me feel like shit. That window of 12-14 hours I had with her makes me not want anything else. I just need some perspective and a cold shower lol

I know she wants to take it slow, and I know I want to slowly ramp up to something awesome over time. It's just finding that calmness while it's happening that is hard for me. I'm always wondering, should i text her this thing i know would make her laugh? Do I hit her up about our next date? Sheeeeit partner.

 

[brawly]

Supposed to go out for dinner with a girl I've been interested in for the past couple years. She never really seemed to interested in me, and would turn me down when I asked her out before, but this time she gave me the OK for some reason, which is cool I guess.

Main problem I'm having now is I seem to have come down with something a couple days ago, and have lost my voice. I'm totally fine other than I have a bit of a cough and can't talk. Hopefully it will get better in time.

Other than that, I've never been out somewhere with a girl that I like before, so I'm kind of nervous about making it work. I figure that even if she isn't that interested in me now, if she has a good time, maybe things could change in my favour. But I don't really know anything about fashion or anything like that.

Guess we will see what happens.

Do you have any idea why she said yes now? Have you asked her? Just seems weird to turn someone down multiple times but then all of a sudden say yes.

 

[Miles Quaritch]

She's either bored, lonely, recently broke up with someone, or she's hoping going out with the poster will finally stop him from her harassing her.

 

[saizo]

Okay so I totally worded my post wrong. Like I'm totally aware of why my willy was wally. That didn't surprise me. I was more in disbelief of the situation.

Also by the time she'd gotten all up on my business I could barely keep my fucking head up.

I had zeroooooo intention of getting all like this with anybody.
WE WERE SUPPOSED TO GO HIKING!

 

[Starlightmuse]

I am thinking about doing some ice cream/ park dates now that it's getting warmer, but sober park dates aren't my strong suit. Things work better for me when we're vibing and there's alcohol involved. I should probably find a coffee spot I really like in my area too.

Beer is cheap.

 

[Miles Quaritch]

Okay so I totally worded my post wrong. Like I'm totally aware of why my willy was wally. That didn't surprise me. I was more in disbelief of the situation.

Also by the time she'd gotten all up on my business I could barely keep my fucking head up.

I had zeroooooo intention of getting all like this with anybody.
WE WERE SUPPOSED TO GO HIKING!

She wanted you to climb her peaks and explore her crevices...

 

[brawly]

She's either bored, lonely, recently broke up with someone, or she's hoping going out with the poster will finally stop him from her harassing her.

Yeah, probably one of those. I'd ask before even ordering. Might save some time, money and heartache.

 

[Lulubop]

Beer is cheap.

That poor, and I live in NYC things can rack up if I'm paying for both.

 

[Starlightmuse]

The best thing about the story is all those penis' euphemisms.

My favourite is love's joystic.

Spoiler

Be careful from now though, if suddenly some girl ask you to go and fuck her you'll probably end up hiking

That poor, and I live in NYC things can rack up if I'm paying for both.

oh hell, I can see your problem now. NYC has to be expensive as fuck. Here I could buy beer for me and my fiancee in a pub for all night and it wouldn't even cost me 10€

 

[SmackDaddy]

Okay so I totally worded my post wrong. Like I'm totally aware of why my willy was wally. That didn't surprise me. I was more in disbelief of the situation.

Also by the time she'd gotten all up on my business I could barely keep my fucking head up.

I had zeroooooo intention of getting all like this with anybody.
WE WERE SUPPOSED TO GO HIKING!

lol well, now you know your limit for partying if you wanna get laid

 

[Kevtones]

Get drinks. If you each drink one drink that's pretty cheap (even in LA or NY). If you drink more than that you're probably having a good date.


PS as a dating-GAF alum I've been with my current GF for almost 7 months 😀 Going very well

 

[Peltz]

I am thinking about doing some ice cream/ park dates now that it's getting warmer, but sober park dates aren't my strong suit. Things work better for me when we're vibing and there's alcohol involved. I should probably find a coffee spot I really like in my area too.

To be honest with you, if sober dates aren't your thing then you should probably change that. You really don't need money or alcohol to connect with a girl. Just be yourself (it's corny but true).

 

[Chiaroscuro]

Do you go hiking completely drunk???

 

[Lulubop]

It's not really that, it's just a preference. Things flow better, easier to read the vibe, more likely to turn romantic, etc. I'll be honest, I like to move fast. Park date for later. I talk to few girls, and one of which we usually do a park thing in central. She wants to walk the BK bridge tomorrow, and that's dope. We actually went the Bronx Zoo this pass weekend with her year pass thing.

 

[artsi]

Movie night is over, I don't remember much about the movie tho.
We just cuddled and kissed and talked while time flew by, she's pretty young (22) but very sweet and smart.

Maybe silly to say, but she very much reminds me of my previous long-term girlfriend and I have a good feeling about this.

She also bakes cakes as her profession. I fucking love cake.

 

[Ray Wonder]

Do you think they wanted to go hiking at all? Or just tricked you? lol

Do you go hiking completely drunk???

If I'm in a house, and we're planning on going hiking. And three hot women wanna take shots and make out with me. I'm not hiking anymore.

 

[Lulubop]

Okay so I totally worded my post wrong. Like I'm totally aware of why my willy was wally. That didn't surprise me. I was more in disbelief of the situation.

Also by the time she'd gotten all up on my business I could barely keep my fucking head up.

I had zeroooooo intention of getting all like this with anybody.
WE WERE SUPPOSED TO GO HIKING!

Where do you work where hiking trips turn into orgies? I want to apply.

 

[timetokill]

Goddamn that is the kind of hiking I want to do

 

[Gotdatmoney]

That poor, and I live in NYC things can rack up if I'm paying for both.

I am not hyped for my visit. The CAD to USD conversion is going to destroy me.

 

[PersonAndStuff]

Okay so I totally worded my post wrong. Like I'm totally aware of why my willy was wally. That didn't surprise me. I was more in disbelief of the situation.

Also by the time she'd gotten all up on my business I could barely keep my fucking head up.

I had zeroooooo intention of getting all like this with anybody.
WE WERE SUPPOSED TO GO HIKING!

Your idea of night hiking begins with shots? I don't know where you live but that seems like a good way to die. Best to stay inside and enjoy the orgy.

 

[2Smashed4U]

So, something I wanted to throw out there that I've been struggling with...

The last girl I was in a relationship with was to me, probably the most gorgeous woman I've ever met in my life. I don't really know how to put it more simply than that, I just could not have pictured someone more beautiful to my eyes.

And now, I'm honestly kind of struggling to find myself attracted to anyone else I'm not really sure what to do about it. Everyone else I've talked to or sort of dated since, I've felt like I'm settling and the attraction isn't really there.

What do you do in you're in my shoes?

 

[always crazy bacon]

So, something I wanted to throw out there that I've been struggling with...

The last girl I was in a relationship with was to me, probably the most gorgeous woman I've ever met in my life. I don't really know how to put it more simply than that, I just could not have pictured someone more beautiful to my eyes.

And now, I'm honestly kind of struggling to find myself attracted to anyone else I'm not really sure what to do about it. Everyone else I've talked to or sort of dated since, I've felt like I'm settling and the attraction isn't really there.

What do you do in you're in my shoes?

Don't settle.

 

[brawly]

So, something I wanted to throw out there that I've been struggling with...

The last girl I was in a relationship with was to me, probably the most gorgeous woman I've ever met in my life. I don't really know how to put it more simply than that, I just could not have pictured someone more beautiful to my eyes.

And now, I'm honestly kind of struggling to find myself attracted to anyone else I'm not really sure what to do about it. Everyone else I've talked to or sort of dated since, I've felt like I'm settling and the attraction isn't really there.

What do you do in you're in my shoes?

 

[Megalosaro]

After date 1.. we knew we wanted to see each other again, but didn't know what to do. We worked together to throw something together.

Now I'm having the opposite problem. There is so much I want to do with her. But I don't want to overwhelm her.

Is 2 dates a week a good pace?