ZackieChan
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I'm gonna guess "good looking
Slayer"
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Messofanego
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Going by red pill sources, good looking slayer?
Another code word from redpill is "incel". Involuntary celibate. These are men who identify as the inability to have sex with women. They say they're ugly or women are stuck up or whatever self-pitying and often misogynist reason. Redpill men live by the belief that women are inconsistent and irrational and Machiavellian by nature.
btw Elliot Rodger is considered an incel hero. Elliot wasn't the first redpill incel to kill women, in fact, his murders were called "going Sodini" named after a former redpill incel guy George Sodini who killed 3 women and injured 9 others before killing himself.
https://www.theguardian.com/world/2014/may/30/elliot-rodger-puahate-forever-alone-reddit-forums
It's important to understand the ideology and beliefs behind this kind of toxic masculinity, when it stops becoming a joke.
JadedWriter
Member
What the fuck is red pill and why does it just look like narcissistic word salad bullshit to me?
Not yet. We spoke today over the phone and she asked that before I make any decisions that I reflect on things for a few days to really think about what want and why I'm so worried. It sounded like a good idea and we are taking some space during this time.
She wasn't trying to push me in any direction and she was very calm about things. I wasn't as composed and was sort of talking in circles which was when she stopped me and told me to slow my thought process down in a very calming way.
I am going to relax and do some meditation exercises and talk to loved ones who know me well to try and gain some perspective. It's a big decision and I realize that there may not be a "correct" answer here. But I still want to really think things through just to understand whether or not I am being completely honest with myself.
You may be right. I may have some serious issues with commitment that I need to recognize. And possibly unresolved family issues too. So I'm going to finally open up to my family and talk about the situation, too.
JadedWriter
Member
Just the fact alone that she's this patient with you means she actually cares about you.
I never doubted that for a second.
Gotdatmoney
Member
Cause it is narcissistic word salad bullshit. And only bitter ass lonely losers subscribe to it.
JadedWriter
Member
Good. I can't really offer you any advice on this one cause I'm pretty mixed up about this stuff myself, but discuss this with her and get her perspective. Too much of your own logic isn't always a good thing.
Damn, even I can't subscribe to that crap, hopefully as confused and distorted as I am at times hopefully I don't come off as one of these people.
Puck Beaverton
Banned
Being a red piller is depressing. It's a super shitty, cynical way to look at the world and people. Still not sure how I got out of that mindset, but I'm glad I did.
Ah, yeah, I wanted to make sure I didn't offend lol
And I've done that self-pity shit a few times too. I've been relatively good about hiding it though, other than my Twitter rants. But it's Twitter so meh
Wow, you totally missed the point
Do you not understand that text can easily be misconstrued because you can't hear the tone behind it? This is practically digital communication 101 at this point. It's really not a big deal, shit happens, and getting all uppity about it really doesn't mean anything. Just take the lesson to heart and remember it for next time.
And people are allowed to cut contact with others for whatever reason they desire, regardless if it's dating or not. Try to remember that too.
Look, don't make me report you, I'm getting sick of your shit. We're not here to pity you.
It sounds so tiring and demoralizing at the end of the day
Because it is.
redpillers basically view people as a collection of stats you can buff or debuff and that women are all a mindhive cabal that work together to deny you the touching you totally deserve and whine on about how you need to be perfect looks and so on to even get a chance, meanwhile i have a fivehead the size of texas and a nose you could sail the seven seas with and do just fine lmao
I use Paco Rabanne. I have no idea what specific scent. I think it's just the one.
I can't describe its smell, but I quite like it. My now-girlfriend seems to love it, at any rate, though I'm not sure how good of an indicator that is because she would probably love the smell of my sweaty armpits if I let her sniff them.
EchoChamber
Member
What apps outside of tinder are good? I live in a small town and I would like to try another apps to increase my chances.
OKCupid is pretty much the next best one.
There's also Bumble, Coffee Meets Bagel, and Plenty of Fish, but considering the small town thing I don't know how popular they'll be.
always crazy bacon
Banned
So you mean they follow all this stuff without proof from within the community of success stories, that it even works? That's insane.
Gotdatmoney
Member
They are just hateful losers. No need to entertain it past that. You def dont reflect that man.
they believe it because there's guys that go "look at all this success i have" and write books and make DVDs and shit to sell to these peeps and half the women you see them with are hired for the video/photo shoot.
and if it doesn't work for you well you weren't extreme enough, do it even MORE. JUST BUY THIS NEW BOOK THAT REPLACES MY OLD ONE!!11
it's a hate group
JadedWriter
Member
Thank god.
I haven't met anything off of Bumble, OKC just seems like a bunch of hipster chicks half the time, haven't met a woman there in years, my ex was off of POF, my last date and the current woman I'm talking to are from CMB. I don't like POF. People tend to just drop me for random reasons. Some of it's my fault, but at times I just get blocked for simply saying hello and trying to make conversation.
EchoChamber
Member
I downloaded bumble but it seems it only has like 10 people close to me hahaha, I will try ok cupid it has more downloads than bumble.
Juke Joint Jezebel
Member
So, up in the air about potentially deciding to jump into the dating scene again, and considering I haven't changed my look over the last couple of years at all which of these two pics would make a better profile pic?
Normal curly hair...
...Or straightened hair with an "ow the edge" black and white filter and an animal skull?
Normal curly hair...
...Or straightened hair with an "ow the edge" black and white filter and an animal skull?
ZackieChan
Member
Why not one showing your full face smiling?
JadedWriter
Member
First pic would be great if your hand wasn't covering your face.So, up in the air about potentially deciding to jump into the dating scene again, and considering I haven't changed my look over the last couple of years at all which of these two pics would make a better profile pic?
Normal curly hair...
...Or straightened hair with an "ow the edge" black and white filter and an animal skull?
Juke Joint Jezebel
Member
Because my smile's more of a smirk and I start to look like one of those promotional pictures of a dreamworks character! That second picture is when I plucked up the courage to show my mug for once! Hate taking photos of myself and I try to do it as little as possible.
I hear that. I make faces too in most pictures.
JadedWriter
Member
I know this is something all/most/a lot of women deal with, but you look fine. Even the models I have photographed tend to be stupidly self conscious and you're more attractive than a few of them.
Advocatus Diaboli
Member
Use both. Make the B&W one your main picture, though. And also include a full-body shot (it can be any variation you want, and you don't need to show your face).
Frankly, that would be a fantastic trio of pictures; they'd really demonstrate your personality.
A Dreamworks character? So, better animated than anything Disney has put out?
No one likes photos of themselves. We see ourselves most frequently through mirrors, so our sense of self-image is derived from a reflection. The photo shows us as we always look, as everyone else sees us, but to us it looks off...it's not the reverse we're used to.
I have no scientific basis for that statement, but it makes sense to me, dammit
Dating-app "goodness" varies from town to town. Earlier someone ragged on OKC for tumblr sapiosexual BS, but in my city it's the way to go if you want to meet a grad student. Compare that to POF, which is populated by overweight countryfied single moms.
LookAtMeGo
Member
No
Different strokes for different folks tho. Some people do well on Tinder and some do well on POF. I had much better luck with Tinder.
I like the fact that you at least both have to agree to speak to each other before that door opens. At least then you arent bombarded with messages from people you have no interest in and feel dickish for ignoring them.
timetokill
Banned
So, up in the air about potentially deciding to jump into the dating scene again, and considering I haven't changed my look over the last couple of years at all which of these two pics would make a better profile pic?
Normal curly hair...
...Or straightened hair with an "ow the edge" black and white filter and an animal skull?
I like the first one because you're looking at the camera, but they're both great
Gotdatmoney
Member
So, up in the air about potentially deciding to jump into the dating scene again, and considering I haven't changed my look over the last couple of years at all which of these two pics would make a better profile pic?
Normal curly hair...
...Or straightened hair with an "ow the edge" black and white filter and an animal skull?
The second one is better. But agree with others, need one with a smile.
JadedWriter
Member
It's a trash heap.
So, up in the air about potentially deciding to jump into the dating scene again, and considering I haven't changed my look over the last couple of years at all which of these two pics would make a better profile pic?
Normal curly hair...
...Or straightened hair with an "ow the edge" black and white filter and an animal skull?
Second pic, easily. A visible face pic as your first is a must.
LookAtMeGo
Member
I second the second pic. I'd swipe right.
timetokill
Banned
Eventually you'll run out of matches for the day
JadedWriter
Member
No, but I swear half the women on there are bots. Granted you can't communicate with them unless they first swipe back and then message you.
If you close the App and restart it you'll have more matches.
Been using Bumble again, getting a shit ton of matches. I feel like the Algorithm has gotten more forgiving
Puck Beaverton
Banned
Juke Joint Jezebel
Member
Looks like picture 2 seems like the favourite! Although that idea about having the other picture as a second picture on the profile is a good suggestion!
I know right? As soon as a camera is shoved in front of my face all the muscles in my face do this crazy dance to form an amalgamation of an un-natural looking expression if I try to smile!
More attractive than a model? That's pushing it a bit, haha! Thanks for the compliment though I guess!
Second one. Says a lot more about you than the first.
I'd second it. Have some confidence!
Guy asked if bio matters. Just trying to show him it doesn't.
good looking....
LookAtMeGo
Member
I didnt actually notice a difference in my match success rate when I had a bio written up and when I didnt, but I do think depending on what you are looking for, a bio is pretty key.
JadedWriter
Member
This is more of you being needlessly hard on yourself. You have no idea how much retouch work some models actually need to look attractive. Unless that's you after a retoucher has spent 2 hours in PhotoShop you have nothing to be down on yourself for. With that purple hair I actually wouldn't mind photographing you.
LookAtMeGo
Member
What if I had purple hair?
Yeeeep. Either a non-smile, or a smirky eyebrow lifted look! Haha.
My smile is super unnatural looking.
JadedWriter
Member
But I don't know what you look like so I can't say much of anything.
I can relate. I don't feel comfortable smiling and I think I look stupid when I do. Getting a confident smile down is pretty tough.
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