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[Barrel Cannon]

It was more of a hanging out, I guess. But suggested some things to do.

How long of a project is it? Try to suggest a place/day a day or two after that project is done to take her out too. If she doesn't give an alternate day or flakes with an excuse close to that day just cut her off. Texting is fun and all but you won't build any chemistry or get a feel for her actual vibe from just texting.

 

[Messofanego]

It was more of a hanging out, I guess. But suggested some things to do.

Maybe she's lonely and just wants to spend time outside doing something after her project. If she doesn't flirt or you don't feel any romantic vibes on the day, she just wants to be friends and chill. If you want something more, might have to move on.

 

[Kneck]

You're good. Set a date and make it happen.

Ok gonna ask her again.

How long of a project is it? Try to suggest a place/day a day or two after that project is done to take her out too. If she doesn't give an alternate day or flakes with an excuse close to that day just cut her off. Texting is fun and all but you won't build any chemistry or get a feel for her actual vibe from just texting.

Her project ends in begin July. I'm gonna ask her again.

Maybe she's lonely and just wants to spend time outside doing something after her project. If she doesn't flirt or you don't feel any romantic vibes on the day, she just wants to be friends and chill. If you want something more, might have to move on.

Yea could be. If she's gonnan flake on me on my next suggestion then I'll move on and cut everything off.


Thanks for the input guys, I'll keep you posted.

 

[gaiages]

Friendzoned. I don't want to be Facebook "friends" with someone I've trying to get with.

Adding someone on Facebook doesn't automatically mean friendzoned lol, everyone has different views on who to add on their pages. Going "oh she added my on Facebook guess she doesn't like me like that" is just limiting yourself.

Granted I don't want people on my Facebook I was just dating either, but still. Different strokes for different folks.

 

[FLAguy954]

Oh, yeah, filters on the profile pics aren't really the best thing, at least not for your main pic if it is. If you have a clear pic of your face before the filtered one it should be fine.

I was just challenging the guy being like "flower crowns aren't for guys"

We'll I'm not a fan of the flower crown filter on women and it extends to guys as well.

Especially on the profiles of women who exclusively use filtered pics :/.

 

[Miles Quaritch]

Norwoodism = going bald.

Balding or Norwoodism is a disease that makes the afflicted person lose hair, and therefore look sub-human, causing involuntary celibacy.

Jesus Christ. The forum that's from is something else. Goddamn.

Is it gayer to be a heterosexual than a homosexual?

Guys: Do you like women beyond the sexual aspect?

Ugliest female sub-race combination

Would you marry your girlfriend if you found out she had sex with a undesired ethnicity?

Would you be ok if your sister or daughter married a black guy?

How you gonna protect your women from LOVE JIHAD?

Wives are obligated by the Church to have sex on demand,and obey their husbands

You try to tell yourself that no-one is truly a lost cause, but it's hard when people are doing this kind of pathetic shit.

 

[LichtenbergFigures]

Adding someone on Facebook doesn't automatically mean friendzoned lol, everyone has different views on who to add on their pages. Going "oh she added my on Facebook guess she doesn't like me like that" is just limiting yourself.

Granted I don't want people on my Facebook I was just dating either, but still. Different strokes for different folks.

No, but I don't feel like its an especially beneficial path to go down. I'd argue it for all social media, honestly. My point really is, if all the information about a person is right there on their profile and constantly updated, what motivation is there to get to know them? Or indeed, what's left to get to know? All you're left with is whether or not they're down to fuck.

 

[Kneck]

No, but I don't feel like its an especially beneficial path to go down. I'd argue it for all social media, honestly. My point really is, if all the information about a person is right there on their profile and constantly updated, what motivation is there to get to know them? Or indeed, what's left to get to know? All you're left with is whether or not they're down to fuck.

It depends on how much the person posts on social media about his/her life. If they throw every fart in their life on it. Then you are right. if not I don't see a problem.

 

[LichtenbergFigures]

It depends on how much the person posts on social media about his/her life. If they throw every fart in their life on it. Then you are right. if not I don't see a problem.

I agree, but the problem is if their profile is private, you won't know that until after you've added them. Best to avoid it I reckon.

Unless its Snapchat and you're exchanging sexy pics (its original purpose).

 

[Barrel Cannon]

I totally forgot to mention that for my last date we ended up at a bar that had a pinball machine and a bunch of arcade machines set to free-play. We ended up playing Pinball, Pac-man, Double Dragon and Super Mario Bros. I felt a bit old because I was playing these games already having played them all before and for her they were all brand new experiences. It was at the point where I blew through the roof on the second level of Mario and ran to warp pipes where she was like "woaahhh". First time I've blown away a woman with gaming skill LOL

I agree, but the problem is if their profile is private, you won't know that until after you've added them. Best to avoid it I reckon.

Unless its Snapchat and you're exchanging sexy pics (its original purpose).

I don't post much on social media other than snapchat so my facebook like most young people doesn't reflect my life much at all.... and I still use snapchat for it's original purpose which is sending pics/vids I would never otherwise send to people/friends. It's so much more convenient. My snapstory is just a censored snapshot of what my life actually is.

 

[ZackieChan]

I agree, but the problem is if their profile is private, you won't know that until after you've added them. Best to avoid it I reckon.

Unless its Snapchat and you're exchanging sexy pics (its original purpose).

You sound like someone who has an idea of what social media is, but doesn't actually use it, but thinks they know everything about it. You really think that if you are friends with someone on Facebook you'll know everything about them and have nothing to talk with them about?

 

[gaiages]

I totally forgot to mention that for my last date we ended up at a bar that had a pinball machine and a bunch of arcade machines set to free-play. We ended up playing Pinball, Pac-man, Double Dragon and Super Mario Bros. I felt a bit old because I was playing these games already having played them all before and for her they were all brand new experiences. It was at the point where I blew through the roof on the second level of Mario and ran to warp pipes where she was like "woaahhh". First time I've blown away a woman with gaming skill LOL

Holy shit now I feel old as fuck, knowing that people don't know that

inb4 "not everyone's a gamer, god"

 

[LichtenbergFigures]

You sound like someone who has an idea of what social media is, but doesn't actually use it, but thinks they know everything about it. You really think that if you are friends with someone on Facebook you'll know everything about them and have nothing to talk with them about?

Social media is part of my day job. I know a fair bit. I only really use Instagram personally though (anything else is business). I do have a personal Facebook, but don't post much.

I'm not suggesting its always true, that you'll always know everything about a person, its simply that in my experience, people tend to overshare and I wouldn't want that with someone I was wanting to date. But you won't know what their social media habits are until after you've added them. As I said, I'd personally avoid it.

If you want to get deep, as a society we've kinda lost the art of conversation. Texting, email and social media does it all for us now. We need to learn to communicate in person again

Its just my opinion though, and I respect yours. We're all cool bud

 

[Gotdatmoney]

Holy shit now I feel old as fuck, knowing that people don't know that

inb4 "not everyone's a gamer, god"

If she dies on the first goomba of 1-1 she isn't the one. Srynotsry

 

[Joni]

Wondering if I should ask out a coworker. She is been here a couple of months, she laughs at the stupid things I say. But I didn't want to because of potential work business trips which would be extra awkward because it would just be the two of us. The first one has fallen through which does mean there is no reason to follow this up with others so I'm wondering if I should just stop worrying about work and just ask her out.

 

[Peltz]

Wondering if I should ask out a coworker. She is been here a couple of months, she laughs at the stupid things I say. But I didn't want to because of potential work business trips which would be extra awkward because it would just be the two of us. The first one has fallen through which does mean there is no reason to follow this up with others so I'm wondering if I should just stop worrying about work and just ask her out.

Just say, "do you want to get out of here and grab a drink?" in the afternoon sometime.

If she doesn't say yes, then don't make a big deal about it and never bring it up again.

 

[JadedWriter]

Jesus Christ. The forum that's from is something else. Goddamn.

Is it gayer to be a heterosexual than a homosexual?

Guys: Do you like women beyond the sexual aspect?

Ugliest female sub-race combination

Would you marry your girlfriend if you found out she had sex with a undesired ethnicity?

Would you be ok if your sister or daughter married a black guy?

How you gonna protect your women from LOVE JIHAD?

Wives are obligated by the Church to have sex on demand,and obey their husbands

You try to tell yourself that no-one is truly a lost cause, but it's hard when people are doing this kind of pathetic shit.

What the fuck is this shit?

 

[Attack You]

What the fuck is this shit?

 

[Puck Beaverton]

"Is it gayer to be a heterosexual than a homosexual?" might be the greatest question ever asked by human beings.

 

[Count Dookkake]

We were gay all along!

 

[Miles Quaritch]

I feel pretty gay when I'm squeezing my wife's boobs.

 

[Miles Quaritch]

What the fuck is this shit?

It's a hive of rampant misogyny and hatred of anything that isn't like them, but some, I assume, are good people.

 

[JadedWriter]

It's a hive of rampant misogyny and hatred of anything that isn't like them, but some, I assume, are good people.

Gross.

 

[Salamando]

I feel pretty gay when I'm squeezing my wife's boobs.

Ewww. You know who has plenty of boobs? Men.

 

[timetokill]

I feel pretty gay when I'm squeezing my wife's boobs.

Me too, but mostly because I'm thinking, "mmm, Miles Quaritch's hands were here"

 

[Starlightmuse]

Ewww. You know who has plenty of boobs? Men.

 

[loudbill]

Its been a while since ive been here, so howdy.
The girl i met on the internet that i was talking to for 3-5 months finally blocked me on all platforms about a month ago (i think she just got bored of me). We were planning on meeting up and stuff too, so its a bit disappointing. She was the first female i ever talked to, but we never met so idk if it really counts. Ive still been sad about it, but i need to realize that i pretty much only liked her for her looks, her personality was boring and she never initiated conversations. The only thing i got out of this fiasco is i realized that i'm decently attractive. I used to have incredibly low self confidence/worth before this.

Ive been working on myself mentally and physically a lot the past year, so its taking my mind off it. Ive never dated anyone, and im not sure if i ever want to. Ive learned to not let my inexerpience with sex and dating not define me. If i ever decide to date, it wont be until im chiseled, have my own house, a car, and when im more intelligent/mature. So probably not for 5+ years.
Sorry for the long post, just wanted to report back.

Edit: im not sure why this fiasco has affected me this much, looking back its really stupid. But its caused me to be more introspective, so i guess its okay.

 

[Messofanego]

Its been a while since ive been here, so howdy.
The girl i met on the internet that i was talking to for 3-5 months finally blocked me on all platforms about a month ago (i think she just got bored of me). We were planning on meeting up and stuff too, so its a bit disappointing. She was the first female i ever talked to, but we never met so idk if it really counts. Ive still been sad about it, but i need to realize that i pretty much only liked her for her looks, her personality was boring and she never initiated conversations. The only thing i got out of this fiasco is i realized that i'm decently attractive. I used to have incredibly low self confidence/worth before this.

Ive been working on myself mentally and physically a lot the past year, so its taking my mind off it. Ive never dated anyone, and im not sure if i ever want to. Ive learned to not let my inexerpience with sex and dating not define me. If i ever decide to date, it wont be until im chiseled, have my own house, a car, and when im more intelligent/mature. So probably not for 5+ years.
Sorry for the long post, just wanted to report back.

Edit: im not sure why this fiasco has affected me this much, looking back its really stupid. But its caused me to be more introspective, so i guess its okay.

I don't have any of those except the personality and car status and many people here don't, yet we still all dating. If you're wanting to get married, maybe those material things might matter more, but you're already giving up before even starting. Your personality and worldview is the first thing that could do with some work.

 

[loudbill]

I don't have any of those except the personality and car status and many people here don't, yet we still all dating. If you're wanting to get married, maybe those material things might matter more, but you're already giving up before even starting. Your personality and worldview is the first thing that could do with some work.

Yeah i understand, and thats something im working on. But i just want to be the best "version" of me before i start dating. I dont want to waste anyone's time

 

[Raven117]

Yeah i understand, and thats something im working on. But i just want to be the best "version" of me before i start dating. I dont want to waste anyone's time

Dude, really re-evaluate what you are saying. While I understand that some of those things do instill confidence, they can't be the things that define you as you view yourself to the opposite sex. There will always be "one more piece" that you need and chase.

This stuff is NOT SCIENCE...Get it through you head. This is not some calculus where you can meet certain qualification check certain boxes and then "poof" it works.

Chemistry is chemistry. So, smile have some things that interest you and that you pursue (that aren't women), and try and snag a date or two. Even though you may not be chiseled, car, house, mature...whatever...there is going to be a girl out there that digs you.

 

[loudbill]

Dude, really re-evaluate what you are saying. While I understand that some of those things do instill confidence, they can't be the things that define you as you view yourself to the opposite sex. There will always be "one more piece" that you need and chase.

This stuff is NOT SCIENCE...Get it through you head. This is not some calculus where you can meet certain qualification check certain boxes and then "poof" it works.

Chemistry is chemistry. So, smile have some things that interest you and that you pursue (that aren't women), and try and snag a date or two. Even though you may not be chiseled, car, house, mature...whatever...there is going to be a girl out there that digs you.

I totally get what you're saying. I think my problem is my self doubt. The only females i interact with are the ones at my job, and they are always really awkward around me. I'm very friendly and chill (at least i think i am), but when they are all awkward and shit and it makes me doubt myself. Im not hitting on them or anything, im just trying to have a conversation.
If i could stop doubting myself, maybe i could succeed. Im trying really hard to stop doubting myself all the time, and im making progress. But i also think i need to meet some girls outside of my work for a change lol.

 

[asagami_]

Well, I'm going to the birthday party of this girl this weekend. I really liked the first time I saw her (this was a week ago), but I didn't really talk with her, so I will be just there because our mutual friend invited me. I... I don't know really what I need to do and how far I can go, but surely let her know I exist is the first step, right?

 

[Subpar Scrub]

surely let her know I exist is the first step, right?

Well, it would certainly help.

 

[Advocatus Diaboli]

Well, I'm going to the birthday party of this girl this weekend. I really liked the first time I saw her (this was a week ago), but I didn't really talk with her, so I will be just there because our mutual friend invited me. I... I don't know really what I need to do and how far I can go, but surely let her know I exist is the first step, right?

Read the OP. Seriously. Read the quoted posts. Read the links. Read a random page in this entire godforsaken thread.

What you do is talk to her and then ask her out.

The only person who'll make that more complicated than it has to be is you.

 

[War Peaceman]

Well, I'm going to the birthday party of this girl this weekend. I really liked the first time I saw her (this was a week ago), but I didn't really talk with her, so I will be just there because our mutual friend invited me. I... I don't know really what I need to do and how far I can go, but surely let her know I exist is the first step, right?

Letting them know you exist is the first step to disappointment

 

[Megalosaro]

Didn't work again guys...
I made up for it though

 

[gaiages]

Didn't work again guys...
I made up for it though

Go to the doctor~~~~

 

[LookAtMeGo]

Low testosterone maybe?

 

[Advocatus Diaboli]

Didn't work again guys...
I made up for it though

Happened to me. So, questions:

Were you drinking?
Were you anxious?
Did it happen quickly enough that you weren't able to get mentally situated? Or pee?
Were you focused on pleasing her and very conscious of your body and its movements?

What you ought to do -- and what I always do -- is extended oral first. Period. I enjoy it, and if I take care of her first, then I think (to myself) that it's time for me to enjoy things too.

I'm almost positive that it's anxiety. I don't think you need to go to the doctor (yet). I don't think you have low testosterone. I think you're just getting inside your own head, and the first time that everything clicks, you'll be fine.

 

[vern]

Didn't work again guys...
I made up for it though

Don't use a condom next time.

 

[Puck Beaverton]

You need to see somebody about your anxiety dude. It isn't healthy.

 

[gaiages]

Don't use a condom next time.

Bruh come on now

 

[Servbot24]

So what are the main dating sites these days? Haven't gone out in a while but feel like I might be ready.

I checked OKCupid, but ummmm... the people there seem a bit different than I remember. I don't want to be mean, but almost every profile the person is very overweight. I have a very active and healthy lifestyle so that's not gonna work out.

I checked Bumble, I like actually like this concept quite a bit and there seem to be a lot of attractive people on there. Not much luck receiving messages so far but it's only been a couple days.

Not on Tinder, guess I'm just assuming the worst about that.

Didn't work again guys...
I made up for it though

Haven't followed your story so hopefully I have the right idea here, but I tend to have a tough time keeping it up the first couple times I'm with someone, but once I'm comfortable with them I have no problems after that. So may just give it another go or two?

 

[timetokill]

Mega, maybe beforehand you can watch some porn or something? Or have her talk dirty to you?

Maybe she can give you some Harry Potter themed sex talk

 

[ZackieChan]

Social media is part of my day job. I know a fair bit. I only really use Instagram personally though (anything else is business). I do have a personal Facebook, but don't post much.

I'm not suggesting its always true, that you'll always know everything about a person, its simply that in my experience, people tend to overshare and I wouldn't want that with someone I was wanting to date. But you won't know what their social media habits are until after you've added them. As I said, I'd personally avoid it.

If you want to get deep, as a society we've kinda lost the art of conversation. Texting, email and social media does it all for us now. We need to learn to communicate in person again

Its just my opinion though, and I respect yours. We're all cool bud

I suppose I understand, but your original post gave off a different impression. I agree that conversing is a great skill to have which is getting lost. I'm glad that I've developed that, for the most part, in the last few years of my life.

 

[vern]

Bruh come on now

He's in love. I thought. The other day he was. Love makes us do crazy things.

Also I'm not advocating releasing inside of her.

Spoiler

Also I'm joking. Mostly

 

[LookAtMeGo]

Its really fucking hard to stay in on a friday night. I do work in the AM and want to be fresh for the date tomorrow after work but god damn I want to go out. My mind is so occupied with trying to get out and meet new people and shit that I cant even focus on my games at all. I'm just sitting here trying to convince myself to stay in.

Its my friends gfs bday as well and a bunch of them are goin out. 🤔🤔🤔🤔😲😲😲


Fuck it im staying in.

Edit: errrrgh I just got asked by a cutie to go have drinks. Faaaaack! I need a new fucking job this not having weekends off is horseshit. I said no. I havent had a weekend of in 6 years. 6 FUCKIN YEARS!

 

[Jhoan]

Didn't work again guys...
I made up for it though

On my first sexual encounter, I had performance issues and the girl never saw me again. Normally when I'm seeing someone new, anxiety kicks in and it happens. Foreplay usually does the trick because I don't watch porn nor masturbate. It definitely sounds like something medical/low testosterone.

So what are the main dating sites these days? Haven't gone out in a while but feel like I might be ready.

I checked OKCupid, but ummmm... the people there seem a bit different than I remember. I don't want to be mean, but almost every profile the person is very overweight. I have a very active and healthy lifestyle so that's not gonna work out.

I checked Bumble, I like actually like this concept quite a bit and there seem to be a lot of attractive people on there. Not much luck receiving messages so far but it's only been a couple days.

Not on Tinder, guess I'm just assuming the worst about that.




Haven't followed your story so hopefully I have the right idea here, but I tend to have a tough time keeping it up the first couple times I'm with someone, but once I'm comfortable with them I have no problems after that. So may just give it another go or two?

You can always set filters on OKC to search for specific types of people. Anything but curvy would be fine although to be fair, there women that are curvy and not overweight. I'm a sucker for thick women but to a certain limit.

You can try Coffee Meets Bagel and I suppose Happn and Hinge to a lesser extent. The latter two don't have a large install base though. Maybe even POF too because it's owned by IAC Group which owns OKC, Tinder, and Match. It has a larger install base than Happn and Hinge but not as big as Match, OKC, Tinder, etc.

 

[ZackieChan]

It's a fucking miracle that Vern doesn't have any kids yet

Spoiler

He's most likely sterile

 

[vern]

It's a fucking miracle that Vern doesn't have any kids yet

Spoiler

He's most likely sterile

My pullout game is on point.

Spoiler

You are probably right