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[Megalosaro]

Happened to me. So, questions:

Were you drinking?
Were you anxious?
Did it happen quickly enough that you weren't able to get mentally situated? Or pee?
Were you focused on pleasing her and very conscious of your body and its movements?

What you ought to do -- and what I always do -- is extended oral first. Period. I enjoy it, and if I take care of her first, then I think (to myself) that it's time for me to enjoy things too.

I'm almost positive that it's anxiety. I don't think you need to go to the doctor (yet). I don't think you have low testosterone. I think you're just getting inside your own head, and the first time that everything clicks, you'll be fine.

Wasn't drinking
Wasn't anxious until it didn't work again
We too it pretty slow this time. We were watching the wedding crasher then started making out. Went from there.



She doesn't like oral. At all. But yah, that was my strat too. Did other stuff to make up for it.

Once it happens, I think I'll be okay.

 

[always crazy bacon]

If i ever decide to date, it wont be until im chiseled, have my own house, a car, and when im more intelligent/mature. So probably not for 5+ years.

Having all those things won't make any difference as you are just overcompensationg for a lack of confidence. Personality gets you girls not having a list of stuff you own. You don't want the girl that is attracted to you just becuse you have stuff.

 

[always crazy bacon]

Wasn't drinking
Wasn't anxious until it didn't work again
We too it pretty slow this time. We were watching the wedding crasher then started making out. Went from there.



She doesn't like oral. At all. But yah, that was my strat too. Did other stuff to make up for it.

Once it happens, I think I'll be okay.

Some women need time to get used to oral giving/receiving don't take that as something that won't change as she gets more comfortable with you.

 

[timetokill]

I know I joke a lot but best of luck to you mega

If it continues you should really see a doctor though

 

[ZackieChan]

Some women need time to get used to oral giving/receiving don't take that as something that won't change as she gets more comfortable with you.

Possible she doesn't like it because she's too sensitive. Work up to it, maybe? Like, through the underwear and play around before diving in.

 

[always crazy bacon]

Possible she doesn't like it because she's too sensitive. Work up to it, maybe? Like, through the underwear and play around before diving in.

Yes possible now you mention it, guess you've had experience of women like that too. "Stop it feels too good".

 

[artsi]

The girl who found me from Instagram seems like she's DTF. She's pretty smokin' so I'm down.

But more importantly I'm waiting for the rich girl to come back from her trip tomorrow so I can finally get to kiss her damn it. Never had things go so slow but I hope it pays off.

Wasn't drinking
Wasn't anxious until it didn't work again
We too it pretty slow this time. We were watching the wedding crasher then started making out. Went from there.



She doesn't like oral. At all. But yah, that was my strat too. Did other stuff to make up for it.

Once it happens, I think I'll be okay.

I've had performance anxiety and I just got some off-brand sildenafil (viagra) from my doc for that.
You'll be hard as a champ and anxiety is gone after a few times.

 

[Subpar Scrub]

Didn't meet any girls at the concert but it's a bit difficult when it's just a giant mosh pit of violence that you can barely move in, let alone breathe or speak.

Oh well, maybe next time. Concert was awesome at least, except that I managed to fight my way to the front and took a few crowd surfers raw to the back of the head as a result. My neck is so fucked.

 

[gaiages]

My pullout game is on point.

Spoiler

You are probably right

Hey that's a good thing, no rubber needed!

 

[FyreWulff]

pull out leads to Pull Ups

 

[vern]

Hey that's a good thing, no rubber needed!

Except for when I get the clap. 😤

 

[ZackieChan]

Except for when I get the clap. 😤

🍆💥💦👩*⚕️

 

[always crazy bacon]

Except for when I get the clap. 😤

Getting the clap in China was no fun. Like shit sprinkles on a cake made from shit already.

 

[vern]

Getting the clap in China was no fun. Like shit sprinkles on a cake made from shit already.

The only time I got the clap I was diagnosed in USA. I probably picked it up in china (or Asia somewhere) but that's neither here nor there 🙈 I do recommend condoms, unless you are in love like our friend heree

 

[LookAtMeGo]

I've somehow managed to never catch anything.

 

[gaiages]

I've somehow managed to never catch anything.

I somehow managed to get chlamydia while only having two sexual partners, ever.

I was less than pleased that day when I learned about that.

 

[Surfinn]

Anybody experience ok cupid labeling your profile as "conservative" when you're liberal as fuck? I've answered probably 100+ questions and doubled checked my answers.

As a result.. I haven't matched with a single "progressive" profile yet and keep seeing "conservative" as a positive match..

Super frustrating

 

[Gotdatmoney]

Didn't work again guys...
I made up for it though

It happens. Need to relax, think you're stressing yourself out.

 

[Servbot24]

Anybody experience ok cupid labeling your profile as "conservative" when you're liberal as fuck? I've answered probably 100+ questions and doubled checked my answers.

As a result.. I haven't matched with a single "progressive" profile yet and keep seeing "conservative" as a positive match..

Super frustrating

Could it have to do with sex-related answers?

 

[Attack You]

Anybody experience ok cupid labeling your profile as "conservative" when you're liberal as fuck? I've answered probably 100+ questions and doubled checked my answers.

As a result.. I haven't matched with a single "progressive" profile yet and keep seeing "conservative" as a positive match..

Super frustrating

Probably need to answer a few hundred questions for a better representation. Or just answer more questions in the category you care most about.

 

[Ralemont]

Friend Ive known for about a year and I had mutual attraction, decided to do something about it. Problem is we haven't gotten to see each other much, like two times over the past two months (summer traveling). This has had potentially disastrous consequences.

Her last night:

"I always have a great time with you, find you really attractive, and the sex is great. But I can't get over this weird feeling in the back of my mind when I kiss you. It feels awkward and I'm feeling confused."

No idea what to say to that. The kissing has been awkward mechanically but I thought it was more amusng than anything. Told her I was still into it but to take her time and let me know what she wants, but if I was a betting man I'd say the romance angle is kaput. I think she hasn't gotten enough time with me as a non-friend to override seeing me as a friend and now it's produced a bad result.

 

[Surfinn]

Could it have to do with sex-related answers?

Good thinking.. But definitely not.

Probably need to answer a few hundred questions for a better representation. Or just answer more questions in the category you care most about.

I'll try to answer more. I've answered SO many questions under "ethics" which is where I see all the political questions pop up.

Thanks for the help guys.. Gunna keep looking.

 

[Megalosaro]

The third time didn't work either.

"Erectile disfunction " was brought up

 

[Attack You]

The third time didn't work either.

"Erectile disfunction " was brought up

What does she do that you like before you let her get to 3rd base?

 

[timetokill]

I somehow managed to get chlamydia while only having two sexual partners, ever.

I was less than pleased that day when I learned about that.

Damn :\

I guess it was easy to narrow it down to who you got it from, though

 

[Joni]

Just say, "do you want to get out of here and grab a drink?" in the afternoon sometime.

If she doesn't say yes, then don't make a big deal about it and never bring it up again.

Thanks, I'll try that.

 

[Leeness]

Mega:

You got this!

 

[Lemon Crest]

Mega, you should stop masterbating if you haven't already. You just need to "stew" on your juices for a bit and then try again.

 

[LookAtMeGo]

Nvm. Im pissed now. Think I'm getting ghosted by this girl again.

Twice is all I need to fuck off. Just fucking cancel. Dont wait until the day of and ghost. Fuck off. Imma get drunk.

 

[gaiages]

Damn :\

I guess it was easy to narrow it down to who you got it from, though

My SO got a very stern talking to for like a month

Thankfully out of any possible STD that's like the most mundane and easiest to cure lolol, all I had to do was take this (nasty af) powder

 

[Megalosaro]

Mega, you should stop masterbating if you haven't already. You just need to "stew" on your juices for a bit and then try again.

I haven't touched my dick except to piss in like 2 weeks.

It's doctor time. I'm not going to lose this amazing girl because of anxiety. I think I just need a boost. Once or twice to get the stress off, and then I'll be ok.

 

[gaiages]

I haven't touched my dick except to piss in like 2 weeks.

It's doctor time. I'm not going to lose this amazing girl because of anxiety. I think I just need a boost. Once or twice to get the stress off, and then I'll be ok.

At this point I doubt she's gonna leave you just because your ding dong isn't working perfectly

Maybe talk to a therapist about all the irrational fears you keep having about losing this girl too, since that seems to be a reoccurring thing every time you drink/have something the least bit negative happen

 

[Miles Quaritch]

Nvm. Im pissed now. Think I'm getting ghosted by this girl again.

Twice is all I need to fuck off. Just fucking cancel. Dont wait until the day of and ghost. Fuck off. Imma get drunk.

Why did you go back after the first ghosting? Stupid mistake my dude.

 

[SmackDaddy]

Stay strong mega , I'll transfer some boner power to you now.


GYYYAAAAAAAAHHHHHHH!!!!

I like the therapist angle suggested above, but perhaps a temporary boost from doc won't be a bad thing to get over the hump

 

[Servbot24]

Nvm. Im pissed now. Think I'm getting ghosted by this girl again.

Twice is all I need to fuck off. Just fucking cancel. Dont wait until the day of and ghost. Fuck off. Imma get drunk.

Maybe she's not seeing you because of that attitude. Chill out man. There's a million things to do if she doesn't turn up.

 

[Miles Quaritch]

Need me to horsewhisper the little guy, Mega?

 

[SmackDaddy]

Damn, I miss having sex. Especially when it was so good.

I'm reading the "Women" book suggested earlier by bukowski. What am I supposed to be getting out of this? These chicks and the main character are lunatics lol. Fun read nonetheless. Half way through btw.

 

[Puck Beaverton]

Damn, I miss having sex. Especially when it was so good.

I'm reading the "Women" book suggested earlier by bukowski. What am I supposed to be getting out of this? These chicks and the main character are lunatics lol. Fun read nonetheless. Half way through btw.

Bukowski was about that life.

 

[SmackDaddy]

Bukowski was about that life.

Haha alright cool. I think it's telling me to not care and just let women flow in and out of my life organically ? OK I can roll with that train of thought

 

[Neoweee]

Mega, maybe beforehand you can watch some porn or something? Or have her talk dirty to you?

For the first part, would women really be down for that for the first time? That's more of an intimate, long term couples kind of thing. If she's about as inexperienced as she is, she probably won't know what to do to help him out.

Mega, if you can, you should see a medical/psych professional, if it happens next time. It is a fairly common problem, and anxiety from other parts of your life can bleed into your sex life. Physical stuff, like cardiovascular issues, can also feed into the problem.

 

[Servbot24]

Haha alright cool. I think it's telling me to not care and just let women flow in and out of my life organically ? OK I can roll with that train of thought

Man I wish I could do that, lol

 

[JadedWriter]

Damn, I miss having sex. Especially when it was so good.

I'm reading the "Women" book suggested earlier by bukowski. What am I supposed to be getting out of this? These chicks and the main character are lunatics lol. Fun read nonetheless. Half way through btw.

Same here, haven't had sex in over a year. I probably don't even know what to do anymore.

 

[timetokill]

For the first part, would women really be down for that for the first time?

I meant doing it on his own, like... going to the bathroom and checking some out on your phone real quick. But probably better for him to go see a doctor.

 

[AcridMeat]

Wasn't he super excited about her just wearing a dress? I agree just get a pill for the first time to ease into the mindset. Think you're overthinking it way too much.

There's a chance either you/she/both of you are rushing to try.

 

[Neoweee]

Same here, haven't had sex in over a year. I probably don't even know what to do anymore.

It's a year, man. Yeah, recent is better than not recently, but your'e beating yourself up way too much of a year dry spell is dragging on you.

 

[JadedWriter]

It's a year, man. Yeah, recent is better than not recently, but your'e beating yourself up way too much of a year dry spell is dragging on you.

When my ex and I broke up I didn't exactly think it would take this long. Granted I stayed with her because a) I loved her and b) I didn't want to go through the dating phase again cause I knew it would suck. I'm fine with the break up but I miss companionship.

 

[LookAtMeGo]

Why did you go back after the first ghosting? Stupid mistake my dude.

She was the one who gave me her number and initiated everything and sent me all the texts to make this shit happen. I gave her the benefit of a doubt the first time because she cancelled in advance and rescheduled. Her excuse this time was "oh my god Im so sorry my phone was dead and I went to my brothers house after work, I totally blanked out" lmao fuckin hilarious.

Maybe she's not seeing you because of that attitude. Chill out man. There's a million things to do if she doesn't turn up.

I just like to swear a lot man I'm not too worked up. Its some bullshit for sure I just hate wasting my time. But its all gravy.


Anyways. I was just at the beach with some fellow beachbums and I was telling one guy about this and I was describing her and he asked what her name was so I told him and he knew exactly who I was talking about. Turns out she is a total skeez and is with a dude who is in the military and she tries to fuck around on him when he is gone. He said she is probably ghosting me because he is home right now. He showed me that he has her on facebook and it was her 100% and she is totally with someone. And he is a big dude. I just cut that shit off. Seemed too good to be true anyway. Off on another solo mission.

Where I live you get a lot of the small town shit like the one girl I slept with who showed up with my friend at the beach the very next day on a date with him. Not exactly a big city. These things happen.

 

[Puck Beaverton]

Haha alright cool. I think it's telling me to not care and just let women flow in and out of my life organically ? OK I can roll with that train of thought

Pretty much. I always took his general philosophy as enjoying moments for what they are and to never force anything.

 

[AcridMeat]

Where I live you get a lot of the small town shit like the one girl I slept with who showed up with my friend at the beach the very next day on a date with him. Not exactly a big city. These things happen.

I thought you were around Vancubah?

Spoiler

Vancouver

Nice that you dodged a bullet on that one.

 

[ZackieChan]

She was the one who gave me her number and initiated everything and sent me all the texts to make this shit happen. I gave her the benefit of a doubt the first time because she cancelled in advance and rescheduled. Her excuse this time was "oh my god Im so sorry my phone was dead and I went to my brothers house after work, I totally blanked out" lmao fuckin hilarious.


I just like to swear a lot man I'm not too worked up. Its some bullshit for sure I just hate wasting my time. But its all gravy.


Anyways. I was just at the beach with some fellow beachbums and I was telling one guy about this and I was describing her and he asked what her name was so I told him and he knew exactly who I was talking about. Turns out she is a total skeez and is with a dude who is in the military and she tries to fuck around on him when he is gone. He said she is probably ghosting me because he is home right now. He showed me that he has her on facebook and it was her 100% and she is totally with someone. And he is a big dude. I just cut that shit off. Seemed too good to be true anyway. Off on another solo mission.

Where I live you get a lot of the small town shit like the one girl I slept with who showed up with my friend at the beach the very next day on a date with him. Not exactly a big city. These things happen.

For them, it was Tuesday.