always crazy bacon
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Yeah wouldn't trust it as a guide for when it's OK to raw dog. Just as a guide when your most likely not going to be getting sex.
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Dating Age |OT$6| Just ask her out already
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Yeah wouldn't trust it as a guide for when it's OK to raw dog. Just as a guide when your most likely not going to be getting sex.
SoldierOfLight
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Alright so that chick with Kids and 2 baby daddies and I officially ended it. Sucks but the best for the both of us.
This year so far I've lost a wife, a female friend at work and now this girl.
Oh by the way the reason she started ghosting me this past weekend was because her oldest daughter freaked out at the idea of moving (they live 50 miles away) and that her mom had a bf (me)
It's all good though since there was no benefit for me in this relationship what so ever.
Well we grow from these experiences, I'm not hurt at all, just relieved. Now I can have some real fun with no strings attached. I've been meeting and hanging out with a ton of girls lately at bars so time to work in my one nights
This year so far I've lost a wife, a female friend at work and now this girl.
Oh by the way the reason she started ghosting me this past weekend was because her oldest daughter freaked out at the idea of moving (they live 50 miles away) and that her mom had a bf (me)
It's all good though since there was no benefit for me in this relationship what so ever.
Well we grow from these experiences, I'm not hurt at all, just relieved. Now I can have some real fun with no strings attached. I've been meeting and hanging out with a ton of girls lately at bars so time to work in my one nights
LookAtMeGo
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I didnt say she must be gay. I said its possible. You win some and you lose some. I've had some great long term relationships and some disasterous short ones. Play it safe and potentially miss out on something? Or take the risk of it blowing up in your face and go for it? Or I could just get to know the person like I said and see where it goes.
always crazy bacon
Banned
It's your life mate, you'll post how that's working out for you. Just don't complain.
LookAtMeGo
Member
Will do.
It's called parting the Red SeaWhen you haven't jacked off for days to be in top shape tonight for some all night action, and the girl messages you that her period started.
always crazy bacon
Banned
Riding the red river, just bag up and it feels like she's lubed up in advance. (Only on hotel sheets though).
LookAtMeGo
Member
If I dont jack off for days I end up not lasting as long. Its been a while since I'll go multiple times in a night. The stamina is usually there for the one go to be sufficient though.
P.s you guys are gross.
P.s you guys are gross.
SoldierOfLight
Member
Lmao, the ex I was with had her period and didn't go down so that was horror -_-
I wouldn't mind bagging it up and going in with full hazmat lol
Raptomex
Member
I usually just ask if she's on her period or where she's at in the schedule, if we're getting ready for sexy time. At that point though I'm comfortable enough with her that I can ask these types of questions. I think that's easiest.
B-B-Bomba!
Member
I know there's no real answer to this and it depends on the couple. I'm just curious what people's thoughts are:
How soon do you think is appropriate for the L word to start appearing?
It's been 3 really incredible months so far, and it's on the tip of my tongue so often. It's an intense connection, albeit necessarily remote as we don't live too close. Lots of phones and texts, and we see each other as often as we can ...
And I'm frequently using the word by proxy, saying things like I love (this or that about you) etc.
I'm not asking for advice, I'll say it when I'm good and ready, but I'm curious as I'm not very experienced. What's the earliest you've said it? Or the latest?
How soon do you think is appropriate for the L word to start appearing?
It's been 3 really incredible months so far, and it's on the tip of my tongue so often. It's an intense connection, albeit necessarily remote as we don't live too close. Lots of phones and texts, and we see each other as often as we can ...
And I'm frequently using the word by proxy, saying things like I love (this or that about you) etc.
I'm not asking for advice, I'll say it when I'm good and ready, but I'm curious as I'm not very experienced. What's the earliest you've said it? Or the latest?
Megalosaro
Banned
Three months are fine. If you mean it, then say it
It's not a point in time, so much as your intention and feeling behind the word.
I've said it as early as 3 months, yes... but looking back, all of those times were not really love in hindsight. I think as I get older, the time it takes me to say that word is longer and longer.
The First Guardian
Member
Need some advice.In a friend's party about three month ago when my friend was introducing us to his coworkers, my conversation with one of them went really good. Actually everything between us has been going awesome since then. I've hung out with her circle of friends several times and vice versa. She even came hiking with me and my other friends without our mutual friends. I'm confident she likes me and I really really like her too. I really want to ask her out and got to next level and I'm sure she wants me to. Once one her friends told me "Just go on a date already!". My friend (her coworker) also thinks that I need to ask her out. I mean It's pretty obvious what I need to do. But there's one very stupid problem. In our very first conversation I lied about something. The thing is, She's a dentist. actually a lot of people in that party were dentists and all agreed that smoking is not good for general health and tooth. At this point of conversation, she said "No offense to smokers here" and suddenly turned to me and asked "Do you smoke?". I just opened my mouth and replied with a smile "Of course not". And that's a lie. I mean I can go days without smoking. But I really like 2-3 cigarettes a day if I get the chance.
This stupid lie is just ruining everything. I can't tell her the truth. I know I have to but I don't know how! I can't just go tell her "I know you probably don't like smokers and I don't smoke in front of you, but I really enjoy smoking. Also lied about it when we met. Now, let's go out". One of my friends says I should ask her out and when we're deeper in our relationship reveal the truth. I... don't like this idea.
This stupid shit is ruining the relationship with the best girl I've met in yeaaars. Yeah, I've considered quitting smoking, but even then I feel I need to admit my lie. Also, I think there's a chance revealing truth could even harm our friendship.
tl;dr : There's a girl I really like and I think she like me too. I need to ask her out. But I told her I don't smoke and it's a lie. i don't know what to do. We've been quite perfect for each other and I don't wanna ruin that. Also there's a possibility she doesn't like smokers.
This stupid lie is just ruining everything. I can't tell her the truth. I know I have to but I don't know how! I can't just go tell her "I know you probably don't like smokers and I don't smoke in front of you, but I really enjoy smoking. Also lied about it when we met. Now, let's go out". One of my friends says I should ask her out and when we're deeper in our relationship reveal the truth. I... don't like this idea.
This stupid shit is ruining the relationship with the best girl I've met in yeaaars. Yeah, I've considered quitting smoking, but even then I feel I need to admit my lie. Also, I think there's a chance revealing truth could even harm our friendship.
tl;dr : There's a girl I really like and I think she like me too. I need to ask her out. But I told her I don't smoke and it's a lie. i don't know what to do. We've been quite perfect for each other and I don't wanna ruin that. Also there's a possibility she doesn't like smokers.
Just come clean and be honest, say you were put on the spot and just blurted it out impulsively for fear of embarrassment, but that it's only 2-3 cigs a day and that you're actively trying to quit (and mean it).
It was a little white lie that doesn't harm anyone else. If that's enough to turn her away from you, so be it. If she really dislikes smokers and you actively trying to quit is not good enough, so be it.
Or you could hope she never notices your stinky smoker's breath or something.
It was a little white lie that doesn't harm anyone else. If that's enough to turn her away from you, so be it. If she really dislikes smokers and you actively trying to quit is not good enough, so be it.
Or you could hope she never notices your stinky smoker's breath or something.
The First Guardian
Member
Isn't it wired if I tell her that I lied to her and ask her out like a week later? Assuming she doesn't hate me for lying and not telling the truth when I had multiple chances.
Ask her out first, then immediately tell her the truth if she says yes. Then ask her out again after coming clean to make sure she's still cool with it.
No point in admitting your lie prematurely. If she's interested, wipe the slate clean by admitting your little white lie and genuinely apologize to her. Then confirm whether she wants to continue.
Dude you really need to take a step back and re-read what you just wrote
None of this is good
Garmonbozia
Member
I asked a girl out last Sunday, she told me that she was busy throughout the week because of her finals and that she would get back at me when she would be available. Would I sound too "pushy" if I texted her asking if we could meet tomorrow?
Advocatus Diaboli
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She's not interested.
You can text her something like, "Hope finals are going well. Are you free Saturday?"
If she responds with anything but "yes" or "no, but I am on Tuesday," delete her number.
If they've already met, your advice is solid.
If he asked her out on an app, your advice is still solid, but a bit more abrupt because some girls genuinely don't go out of their way to schedule a first date with a complete stranger from the internet. In those situations, I think it's okay to be a bit more patient (but not by much).
Jzero
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One of the most essential rules in dating is:
If they like you, they'll make time for you.
Don't let her waste your time.
LookAtMeGo
Member
I'm a mess. The more I think about it the worse of an idea it seems... sorta. Its just pretty damn tempting. That hot neighbour fantasy I guess. We will see what happens. I just hate these rules. Shes pretty and seems to be really nice. But fuck she lives across the hall so I cant try to get to know her and see what comes of it?
I just dont think it would be too stupid of a move to at least chat it up over a pint if she is down. I mean, my place I live is by no means permanent, I dont think I've lived in the same place for over 2 years my whole life. I have no plans on settling down in my apartment above a pub with no laundry in the building.
I've asked the opinion of others in real life and so far outside of gafs advice its unanimous that I should holler at her. Its not like I need her to be my girlfriend. I'd be fine if we just had a pint and talked and just became buddies. Id be fine if nothing came of it. I have plenty of girlfriends I dont sleep with.
And I was joking about the cat thing.
Krauser Kat
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I edited to show what the dates were.
Krauser Kat
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I edited to show
I am not bad at. Monday i ended up at a house party of these girls i just met at the bar for the a birthday party. Also gave this hilarious gay guy a run for his money when he really wanted to buy me a shot after i replied to his long ass emmerson quote with some poetry. He wasnt expecting. it.
Tonight i go draw some naked ladies. I havent had a true day off to do nothing in probably 2 weeks.
Raptomex
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Experiment time. I'll try flashing your GAF profile at women I meet in person and see what happens.
Advocatus Diaboli
Member
I know. I enjoy it too. I think we hit on it before: new boobs are addictive.
I think I'm something like 0.5% open relationship at heart, but that's impossible to put into practice. Realistically, I just need to find someone worth committing to.
PancakeBurglar
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I'd like to live that life but I'm broke, 2 to 3 dates a week is my max.
LegendofDragoonLives
Member
That's 2 to 2.5 years of my college life lol.. Just crazy amount of partying, exploring, drinking, meeting a ton of people and having an amazing time. Now I am completely obsessed with my goals/dreams and am much more frugal (a peasant) going out compared to before. Helps that I save money for personal projects and going on vacation to different continent every summer, so I'm not so open the wildlife culture I had just a few years ago
Fun to read him doing similar shit to what I did though, good for him.
LookAtMeGo
Member
I like going out and meeting random people and having drinks and stuff but I only have a planned out date like once a month. If that.
you need to treat this like an old band-aid and rip it off ASAP. Get it over with so that you can determine how things will proceed.
if I was in her shoes I would drop you. :\ Sorry man, I won't date a smoker.
B-B-Bomba!
Member
Yes, this is the thing, I'd happily say it if we could both agree it was a handy cipher for something slightly previous to the thing itself. It is too early really, but there are some really positive feelings with nothing adequate to describe them. There should be another term really - love with a small 'l'.
TVexperto
Member
nope
also thanks for all the replies! dating gaf is amazing.
I guess I was just overthinking it
It's getting comical at this point how all of my app matches just torpedo, I had this girl who I thought messaging at all was a long shot, but she kept replying, but then she mis-read a (bad) joke as some legitimate topic of conversation, making any response awkward... and then next time I checked she'd disabled her account.
Yeah.
Yeah.
always crazy bacon
Banned
Stop smoking, start vaping. Its better for you and you didnt lie!
always crazy bacon
Banned
Brad Pitt rule.
always crazy bacon
Banned
Two strikes and their out, dont need to be waiting around wasting my date time for someone that is not interested.
always crazy bacon
Banned
Once again the rule of not making a joke to a girl youve not yet met strikes again.
Really hard to get the tone of the joke over text or to guage how they'll react. So dont take the risk.
always crazy bacon
Banned
Because only gaf uses the phrase "Don't shit where you eat" right? That does not only apply to work environments.
LordKasual
Banned
the ball is in her court, do not text her again. If she wants to go out with you, she will hit you up. If she's genuinely busy and feels bad, she'll let you know.
When girls tell me that i delete the text thread and just forget about it until they text me back.
LookAtMeGo
Member
Oh I get that. But I've slept with and dated a few girls I work with but nothing super serious though. Its not that difficult to avoid them if shit gets weird. Most of the time it doesnt though. I'm sleeping with one girl at my work right now here and there and we pretend we dont know each other at work. Just a glance from time to time if we are in the staff caf at the same time. She works side by side with the last girl I was sleeping with. That one things kinda got weird with when she flipped out on me for not loving her out of nowhere. But we just give an awkward nod when we see each other. I get thats its more of a guideline than a rule and sure it can prevent some awkward times by avoiding it altogether but its not like some big uncontrollable ordeal if things go south.
artsi
Member
We had fun enough, and I got to be the little spoon for once. I like her.
She also mentioned her friend asking when she'll introduce me, so I think I know where this might be going.
I've had one very bad experience, not even gonna talk about it, but period sex is forever this to me after that:
She also mentioned her friend asking when she'll introduce me, so I think I know where this might be going.
I've had one very bad experience, not even gonna talk about it, but period sex is forever this to me after that:
LookAtMeGo
Member
Nice! Hope it works out well for you. I love being little spoon from time to time.
artsi
Member
Being kind of big (6'3" / 210 lbs) it's funny when the girl is tiny, but I like it dammit. Got breathing room on my front and warmth on my back.
LookAtMeGo
Member
Haha I know that feeling. Im 6ft and 200 lbs and the last girl who was big spoon was like 110lbs and 5ft3. Makes you feel vulnerable or something lol
always crazy bacon
Banned
You don't make the best decisions by your own admission.
How about not having to avoid it at all?
Uh huh, most...
Sweet summer child, everybody in your work knows you've banged, want to bang or could bang. You are fooling nobody. In fact I bet they knew it would happen before either of you did. It's so fucking obvious without you holding hands and kissing in front of your collegues.
They've spoken, they've exchanged notes. Don't fool yourself.
So still uncomfortable when you cross each other path?
Gonna be easy to avoid the woman that lives right across the hall from you right?
You certainly know how to rationalize shit decisions you make and then look for sympathy when it blows up in your face. Exhibit A) that post when your ex dumped you.
How about not having to avoid it at all?
Uh huh, most...
Sweet summer child, everybody in your work knows you've banged, want to bang or could bang. You are fooling nobody. In fact I bet they knew it would happen before either of you did. It's so fucking obvious without you holding hands and kissing in front of your collegues.
They've spoken, they've exchanged notes. Don't fool yourself.
So still uncomfortable when you cross each other path?
Gonna be easy to avoid the woman that lives right across the hall from you right?
You certainly know how to rationalize shit decisions you make and then look for sympathy when it blows up in your face. Exhibit A) that post when your ex dumped you.
always crazy bacon
Banned
I was once seeing a woman that had a good1ft+ on me, being a 5ft-something shortarse myself. It was damn epic, those thighs wrapped around me etc.
Something you taller guys statistically will be unlikely to experience. being an actual physical little spoon is one of my fondest memories. That and also winning that I could date a taller woman.
artsi
Member
True enough, honestly I've never even met a woman who is taller than me.
Would be a nice experience.
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