in that party I asked J to take a photo with me without asking my girlfriend to be in the picture as well. A couple of days latter I posted those pictures on Facebook and the main picture was the one with me and J. Oh boy, was that a mistake!
Sounds to me like your dating my Ex wife, so much matches up in her behaviour.Yes, it was insensitive. Not taking the picture but making it the main Facebook picture. When you're in a relationship you learn to avoid things like this that are innocent if you are single but can be misconstrued when you are in a relationship.
That should be the end of the advice but oh boy, you've uncovered the crazy
I couldn't tell there as everything seemed fine, but this upset her a lot. Like really, really much. In retrospect I realize that what I did was a dick move, but I thought she would be over it fast. That didn't happen. She seems to have lost trust on me and attribute it to that event. She suspects that I might have some kind of secret admiration for J or something like that.
She's dwelling on it and escalating it in her mind. This path will lead her to look for things that aren't there and her confirmation bias will FIND things that aren't there.
For reference, today I went to the bathroom and took my cellphone with me. I was basically browsing gaf, facebook or something. She asked if I was talking with someone who I didn't want her to see. After laughing a little and explaining what I was doing she didn't buy it. She says that she doesn't take her phone to the bathroom nor know of anyone who does it, and brought back the graduation party thing again.
Everyone takes their phone to the bathroom.
I guess that she has trust issues because of her last boyfriend.
I guarantee it's not the last boyfriend, think back when did she first mention this? How many times? Did she play the victim and use it to get attention from you?
I don't know if I can keep a relationship with someone who can't trust me in the most basic level.
You can't, this is going to get much worse.
What are your opinions on this? What I did was really that bad and I shall avoid it like hell (like on the next relationship if we break up) or is she overreacting a little?
Bail out, respect yourself and avoid this drama. If you've got one girlfriend, you can get another, who cares if you've met her parents? It's not a rite of passage anymore.
We're both 30+ years old if that makes any difference.
Not for you as you say it's your first relationship. But for her at 30+ it's a massive red flag.
She isn't sure if he cheated on her,
but one year into her last relationship the guy got a personal message from his last girlfriend, and she saw it when she took his phone to see the time (the notification was in the rest screen, she didn't open the message app).
She snooped his phone and looked at his messages. This overly detailed explanation from her is just cover for her being a snooper.
Things were never the same ever since, and she says it was on of the reasons they broke up.
That dude did the smart thing and bailed.
The dick move is because I stand up for a minute and rushed to ask for the picture, letting her there alone, so I can see where she's coming from.
Bruh, once you start rationalizing her behavior and blaming yourself you are starting down that path where you validate her insecurities. She'll be constantly looking on your phone, questioning women you talk to, talk about or even look at
So I accept that I might be clueless about what is socially acceptable and what isn't.
You made a small mistake that uncovered a big flaw in her. I can assume perhaps there were things she said when you started dating that the more experienced person in relationships would have seen as red flags you might be oblivious to because your blinded by the fact that she's your first girlfriend and you think you've finally made it.
