Ray Wonder
Founder of the Wounded Tagless Children
This page should be about at what point it's acceptable to buy flowers for your date.
That's happy! Yeah, let's do that.
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Dating Age |OT$6| Just ask her out already
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LegendofDragoonLives
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awaiting your next date post with a shanghai girl months from now amig
My only issue at the moment is that I screwed up the chance to hit it off with probably the only girl I've really really liked.. before things could even begin smh. Generally it's flings and fantastic short on off relationships throughout my life which I've enjoyed and have ended surprisingly well from both ends (I've done allright). This is probably the only time I'm very visibly distraught and really fucking sad. I can't even say it's her fault or anything since I fucked up and can do nothing but own up to it. I even apologized legit for a second time after I let her cool off for a bit in a much more sincere and open manner, and her response was passive aggressive and she even lied to me for the first time while I held that L.
I generally never really regret anything since I think a lot of my mistakes are lessons to improve and better myself, but this was just a special kind of stupid. I think I can list all my regrets in one hand.. There's no learning anything special here but actual regret. Think I fucked up with a special one before it really went somewhere big boyos. Just needed a little venting is all.
This gif has literally been on my mind the last few weeks lol
lol am I your wife? I swear I do that every morning with my SO lolol
But flowers inevitably wilt and die and teach us that we are all mortal creatures with an expiration date and why bother
Luckily plenty of outside girls here in shanghai. It's a big melting pot. Plus I got a date lined up in France in two days when I get there lol. Put in work on tinder last week in Spain, its paying dividends now 😌. Also went out with an amazing 20 year old drop dead gorgeous and fun and smart girl a few days ago. Will date her more when I'm back in china again. Things are mostly good that's why I just pop in and give advice usually. Most of my dates are very very nice.
Ray Wonder
Founder of the Wounded Tagless Children
I think everyone can enjoy being shown you're apprecia...
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But flowers inevitably wilt and die and teach us that we are all mortal creatures with an expiration date and why bother
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Pretty sure this was my first Shanghainese princess since about 2013. I swore them off long ago. I think I decided to go out with her because I second guessed myself a bit and figured maybe the reason I always had shit dates with them before was because I was new in china and didn't know what I was doing back then. Thought maybe that i understand the culture and language and shanghai people better now so I could see if the problem previously had been mine. Turns out it wasn't.
timetokill
Banned
The way I feel is that I'm finally ready to enjoy my 20's.
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I'm 33
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I would also say never. Flowers are a terrible gift. At least chocolate has some value.
I dated a Shanghai girl once. Emigrated to Canada a few years ago with her parents. Nicest apartment I've ever been in. That girl was crazy, like afraid to turn my back on her crazy. Thankfully I got out alive and unstabbed. Great sex though. No regrets. Would risk my life again.
While I was joking, yeah, I think some kind of chocolate or little treat goes across better than flowers. At the same time, though, when you've gotten to the point where you're considering little surprise gifts, you tend to know the other person's general likes/dislikes enough to know whether you should go with flowers, chocolate, or something else.
Chocolate is better, flowers do just wilt. I've never gotten gifts like that from anyone though, haha.
Chocolates or little things would be nice. 😊
A girl I was dating left me surprise candy in my apartment once for Christmas. It was delicious and sweet of her but it actually made me kinda mad since we had said no presents. I hate that guilt that comes with receiving presents when you haven't reciprocated. Why can't I just accept nice things! :-0
Gotdatmoney
Member
awaiting your next date post with a shanghai girl months from now amig
My only issue at the moment is that I screwed up the chance to hit it off with probably the only girl I've really really liked.. before things could even begin smh. Generally it's flings and fantastic short on off relationships throughout my life which I've enjoyed and have ended surprisingly well from both ends (I've done allright). This is probably the only time I'm very visibly distraught and really fucking sad. I can't even say it's her fault or anything since I fucked up and can do nothing but own up to it. I even apologized legit for a second time after I let her cool off for a bit in a much more sincere and open manner, and her response was passive aggressive and she even lied to me for the first time while I held that L.
I generally never really regret anything since I think a lot of my mistakes are lessons to improve and better myself, but this was just a special kind of stupid. I think I can list all my regrets in one hand.. There's no learning anything special here but actual regret. Think I fucked up with a special one before it really went somewhere big boyos. Just needed a little venting is all.
This gif has literally been on my mind the last few weeks lol
Did you do something extremely dumb or like extrememly ruthless? If it's dumb she probably will get over it if she likes you, may take some time though. If it was nore ruthless than probably not.
Either way, girl is just one of many. Sucks but the world is not ending.
Whenever I'm told "no gifts" I make sure to have a gift prepared anyways.
Rules exist for a reason! But yeah I probably should have bought her a snickers bar or something.
LegendofDragoonLives
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I'll PM for deets breh
Gotdatmoney gonna look at the bullet points thinking of asking me for details
Subpar Scrub
Banned
This is a rule which should never be followed lol
I've never been scolded too harshly if I bring wine and chocolates or something when she says no gifts 😅
Messofanego
Banned
You're really hyping me for married life, huh.
Baron von Loathsome
Member
tfw you can't touch boob because you're single :'(
But think about the tax breaks
Advocatus Diaboli
Member
Keep going... I love this kind of talk.
Question for the ladies here.
Have you ever been convinced to go out with a guy because of the way he dressed? I mean, sure, if someone dresses badly, that might make him less attractive. But I'm talking about going out with someone, who you otherwise wouldn't have, because they had really nice clothes?
Have you ever been convinced to go out with a guy because of the way he dressed? I mean, sure, if someone dresses badly, that might make him less attractive. But I'm talking about going out with someone, who you otherwise wouldn't have, because they had really nice clothes?
Not a lady here, but I don't think anyone decides who to date in this way. No one is going to be thinking "I'm not into this guy but he's a snappy dresser so I'll give him a chance".
That being said, the clothes you wear play a large role in someone's initial impression of you. If you dress well, it makes you more attractive and people are more likely to want to date you based on first impressions.
Liquid_015
Gold Member
Hi Dating-GAF,
Just wanted some confirmation on the below (spark notes version):
- met female and got close
- we've been doing stuff together over the weekends (on numerous occasions)
- got female into persona 5 (knowing that she's not a gamer)
- says "yes" most if not all of the time when I ask if she wants to do activity X,Y, Z.
- had female over to my place to watch GoTG Vol 1.
- held/interlocked hands a few times.
- sometimes female vents about her issues
- met up with her on a work day late into the night, held hands majority of the time, and bought her ice cream to make her feel better.
What do you guys think? Do I have a chance?
Just wanted some confirmation on the below (spark notes version):
- met female and got close
- we've been doing stuff together over the weekends (on numerous occasions)
- got female into persona 5 (knowing that she's not a gamer)
- says "yes" most if not all of the time when I ask if she wants to do activity X,Y, Z.
- had female over to my place to watch GoTG Vol 1.
- held/interlocked hands a few times.
- sometimes female vents about her issues
- met up with her on a work day late into the night, held hands majority of the time, and bought her ice cream to make her feel better.
What do you guys think? Do I have a chance?
cheezcake
Member
Dating Age |OT$6| Just ask her out already
Advocatus Diaboli
Member
Stop calling her a "female." Ask her out. Do not engage in simpish nice guy behavior until you do. Be prepared for her to reject you. Wish her well if she does.
Seriously.
Only one person can answer this question. And it's not us.
Liquid_015
Gold Member
LOL. Now that's a legendary response! Well, I'll have to wait until she's back. I'm just not sure, if she's interested, but I mean if she's willing to accept physical contact then I think I'm in the clear?
cheezcake
Member
No such thing as in the clear until you ask her out and she says either yes or no.
Liquid_015
Gold Member
I've been out of the game for quite some time. This may sound stupid as hell, but by asking her out you mean "would you be my gf, or I think there's something between us"?
I'm with a girl right now and read her your question. She said yes, "I was intrigued by his style more than his face."
cheezcake
Member
Take a step back Romeo, it's just a date. Only rule is to be straightforward that your intentions are romantic. No bullshit "so do you wanna hang sometime?"
Something like, "Hey do you wanna go on a date, [preferable insert a place and or/time here]?"
Anyway you seem new to this, read the OT it'll help you out.
Advocatus Diaboli
Member
timetokill
Banned
Well, fuck. Sent a text asking girl how her modeling shoot went today and got a "give me space" GIF response. Fuck me, I suuuuuccck, I don't need you guys to rub it in thanks.
Got that message right before my workout so that made for a pretty sick feeling time. Just fucking kill me already
Luckily right after I finally got a match on okcupid so I'm gonna leave this other girl alone until she decides to initiate conversation, if that ever happens. I'm not counting on it.
Got that message right before my workout so that made for a pretty sick feeling time. Just fucking kill me already
Luckily right after I finally got a match on okcupid so I'm gonna leave this other girl alone until she decides to initiate conversation, if that ever happens. I'm not counting on it.
Advocatus Diaboli
Member
She doesn't respect you anyway. What a bitchy thing to do. Move on. You'll be better for it. She ain't worth it.
Holy shit. I was on OKC right now and saw what I'm 99.9999% sure was my ex-roommate's ex-girlfriend. It's been probably 6 years since we last saw each other.
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Liquid_015
Gold Member
Ya! I've done those things. Like drinks, dinner, and etc the whole 9 yards. That's why I was asking how should I approach.
Advocatus Diaboli
Member
No. Really, see the title of this thread.
cheezcake
Member
Have you explicitly asked her out on a date? Like used the word date or other wording that made it absolutely undeniable that your intentions are romantic?
You sound younger and sometimes you gotta be more blunt about it because of the inexperience.
Messofanego
Banned
Wow that was a pretty rude move on her part :\
Lol at this, and your further responses.
You have more than a chance, though to be frank I'm not sure how. Reread your posts and think about how you are appearing to us. I guess you come off as more of regular person in real life than you do online otherwise I don't think any "female" would be holding your hand. Sorry to be harsh but for real, take a step back and look at this thread as if it's not you posting, try not to facepalm.
One last thing, you said she says yes to pretty much everything you ask. As others said, ask her on a date. She will say yes. If she's on a date with you and continues to "accept physical contact" (lol) then move up from "interlocked hands" (lolll) and interlock your lips when the moment is right. Protip: If she's into you then the moment is pretty much always right for a kiss. Don't wait for the "perfect moment," just kiss the girl.
Liquid_015
Gold Member
Although I didn't use the word "date or any relevant terms". I think I've made my intentions clear simply through body language, given that she is older than me.
Nope. Just wanted to keep it anonymous.
poppedcollar69
Member
The hottest girl ever came into my work today and I didn't do anything (half cause I'm a coward, half cause it could potentially get me in trouble). But, damn.. so hot..
Messofanego
Banned
You can always say girl or woman and still be anonymous. Female in the way you said it makes it sound like some nature documentary.
Liquid_015
Gold Member
I suppose there's a few more things that I haven't disclosed that's why I've become extremely vague.
Hmmm, you're not sure how?
You "think", meaning you have doubts. Using the word "date" will make things 100% crystal clear. Seriously, it's as simple as that.
Just like that subquest in Yakuza 0. Sorry man! I didn't know the stereotype was that much true.
But flowers inevitably wilt and die and teach us that we are all mortal creatures with an expiration date and why bother
I found dead flowers very romantic, way more than plastic one. Just a thought I wanted to say that doesn't really belong here.
Vagueness + nature documentary terminology = they didn't interlock hands, he held her flippers.
I'm not sure how you have a chance with her because you seem super duper weird plus lacking in confidence in these posts. Seems like something that would put most girls off.
Liquid_015
Gold Member
I suppose I am weird if I don't say so myself. Hmmm, care to elaborate what makes you think so? Would be greatly appreciated!
timetokill
Banned
Getting drinks with a new girl. This will help.
I was very tempted to respond with a literal image of space
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