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[Disxo]

And I thought I was beyond saving

 

[Go_Ly_Dow]

Are you happy? Are things working out well for you? If so, don't ruin it by overthinking how much/little you see each other compared to others! All that matters is that your relationship is fulfilling to you.

Yeah I'm happy, I just want to make sure what we have his healthy. We see each other about 4-5 days a week. I have less friends than her so the days we don't see each other can be a little boring, I've tried to make more friends, but it's difficult to in another country.

 

[Baron von Loathsome]

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dude

She's just being polite!

 

[Ray Wonder]

You want to chase me away, ask me to go the gym haha

 

[always crazy bacon]

Girl wanted me to meet at her apartment gym today to work out with her.

That would have been fun...

I didn't bring my gym clothes though

How difficult would it have been to just pick up a cheap Tshirt and shorts from a Walmart on the way to her apartment? Really, think outside the box guy.

 

[Megalosaro]

How difficult would it have been to just pick up a cheap Tshirt and shorts from a Walmart on the way to her apartment? Really, think outside the box guy.

That would have been the smart thing to do.

I am not smart.

 

[vypek]

That would have been the smart thing to do.

I am not smart.

At least in the future you'll be able to consider different approaches to "problems"

Figuring out how to make a situation work in your favor instead of stopping at an impediment is great. You should really make something happen with this girl soon. Like someone said before she might feel rejected and just quit with you

Talking on the phone is becoming a lost art?

I remember when that was the only way to communicate with a partner. You'd spend hours talking about nothing, talking about shows you were sync watching, sucks some people won't experience that.

Phone sex in those days was dangerous as fuck too...would a parent pick up the other phone in the house and hear all the nasty shit being said. Those were the real danger wanks..

Lmao. Danger wanks

I used to have some serious phone anxiety but forcing your way through it really helps. I still prefer texts to calls though. I think a TV commercial coined a phrase for watching a TV show at the same time with someone else on the phone. Hell, I still do that now

 

[always crazy bacon]

That would have been the smart thing to do.

I am not smart.

Don't worry about it too much. I made many dumbfuck decisions to cockblock myself when I was younger too. Just learn from them.

 

[gaiages]

Omfg Mega plz

@messo,i was referring more to the trust issues part than the therapy part. Everyone can use therapy lol. But people not wanting to talk on the phone nowadays is just something you'll have to accept from some people, so it's really more of an inconveince than like a red flag or actual concern.

 

[Living the Dream]

I'm so sick and tires of being ghosted. When did this shit become socially acceptable? Especially after three + dates. It's so god damn rude and disrespectful.

 

[Megalosaro]

I just got a pretty nice message from her.

"I missed you today lol. I know we texted but busy work happened. It's been so long since I saw you last"

We saw each other monday.

 

[Llyranor]

Nice to see that things are going well. But remember that words are just words. Don't get too enamored from the texting game. Many GAFers have fallen prey to it.

 

[Megalosaro]

I suck at it. I hate texting anyway, but this is another dimension.

I need to step my texting game up. I don't want to bore her but sometimes she wants that cute shit, which I do too.

This is the first time she's said "I missed you".

 

[SmackDaddy]

I suck at it. I hate texting anyway, but this is another dimension.

I need to step my texting game up. I don't want to bore her but sometimes she wants that cute shit, which I do too.

This is the first time she's said "I missed you".

Nice boo. She's being real honest. A little from you wouldn't hurt. Girl got pissed off at me this week that I stopped texting her after I opened up quite a bit. I was feeling really good about what I said and her response made me feel better. I just let it simmer after that.

"That third text was 24 hours too late"

Man, I can't fucking win I swear lol

 

[always crazy bacon]

Nice to see that things are going well. But remember that words are just words. Don't get too enamored from the texting game. Many GAFers have fallen prey to it.

There are women that say things "they meant at the time" but that can change with the wind. Don't put too much stock in it until you are exclusive.

 

[always crazy bacon]

Nice boo. She's being real honest. A little from you wouldn't hurt. Girl got pissed off at me this week that I stopped texting her after I opened up quite a bit. I was feeling really good about what I said and her response made me feel better. I just let it simmer after that.

"That third text was 24 hours too late"

Man, I can't fucking win I swear lol

From her point of view you dropped out of a conversation and left her hanging. Stop using texting as if its some Wile E Coyote plan to catch the girl. "let it simmer" SMH.

 

[SmackDaddy]

From her point of view you dropped out of a conversation and left her hanging. Stop using texting as if its some Wile E Coyote plan to catch the girl. "let it simmer" SMH.

I feel like advice about texting always goes like this in this thread:

1) don't text her its dumb.

2) why didn't you text her you fuck?

Advice about dating:

1) It's a game

2) Don't treat it like a game you insecure fucker

I dunno man, I'm trying my best here D: You're 100% right, but how am i supposed to know how someone is going to react to me? or the absence of me? I'm done regretting my actions dating these days. I'm getting a ton better due to the fact I can now pick a course of action, stick with it, and feel good about it. Before I would just smother people.

 

[always crazy bacon]

Both you (1) examples are not advice we give out in this thread. Both your (2) examples are. Your a very recent poster in this topic so wherever you've got your (1) examples from I'd have to assume you consider GAF a hive mind and they are from other relationship threads.

 

[SmackDaddy]

Both you (1) examples are not advice we give out in this thread. Both your (2) examples are. Your a very recent poster in this topic so wherever you've got your (1) examples from I'd have to assume you consider GAF a hive mind and they are from other relationship threads.

I'm gonna say BS to your first point; it's very common advice to just keep texting to dates and times. But of course that doesn't count if we are 2 texts into a juicy conversation that I started (!) about how much she means to me.

What I'm getting at is there are no hard and fast rules to this thing, and it sucks to get burned when you're trying to do the right thing for you (me first saying someone is very special, getting a positive reply, and being happy with the conversation). There's loads of context you are missing from our budding relationship, so talking shit to me came off a little drive-by-ish. Sure, my first post was worded douchey, but I was trying to make the guy feel better.

I wanna get better, I'm not dying on this hill, and I'm wanting to keep learning from my mistakes. I got ammo for our discussion when she comes over tomorrow night.

 

[timetokill]

Got dinner with her and hung out until midnight watching Game of Thrones (rewatch for me, but I don't care). She's doing a shoot tomorrow and I have to work so we had to call an end to it.

Fun though! I think it's the most chemistry we've had together yet. Drinking helps lol

 

[always crazy bacon]

I'm gonna say BS to your first point;

Onus is on you to provide links within this dating Age OT$6 topic where we (regular posters) have given that advice. We'll wait.

so talking shit to me came off a little drive-by-ish. Sure, my first post was worded douchey, but I was trying to make the guy feel better.

Drive-by-ish? if you're not on mobile click on that link next to this topic link that is a number around 11,300. look at the names you see and reconsider if those names are the definition of drive by posters. we'll wait.

I wanna get better, I'm not dying on this hill, and I'm wanting to keep learning from my mistakes. I got ammo for our discussion when she comes over tomorrow night.

Our? you and the members of this topic or "our" you and her? I don't fancy your chances either way.

What is it with 28YO guys in this topic?

 

[Messofanego]

I'm gonna say BS to your first point; it's very common advice to just keep texting to dates and times. But of course that doesn't count if we are 2 texts into a juicy conversation that I started (!) about how much she means to me.

What I'm getting at is there are no hard and fast rules to this thing, and it sucks to get burned when you're trying to do the right thing for you (me first saying someone is very special, getting a positive reply, and being happy with the conversation). There's loads of context you are missing from our budding relationship, so talking shit to me came off a little drive-by-ish. Sure, my first post was worded douchey, but I was trying to make the guy feel better.

I wanna get better, I'm not dying on this hill, and I'm wanting to keep learning from my mistakes. I got ammo for our discussion when she comes over tomorrow night.

Whoah, dude, why you picking a fight with people here? lol

Meeting early is good advice, whether you got it from here or anywhere else. I don't see anyone here saying only text about an upcoming date, you can get to know the person. We got too many people who catch feelings without ever having met and constantly overanalyzing everything when it hasn't gotten serious yet.

Just don't keep stringing it along for months, that's all (unless if it's a LDR and it's not feasible but that's a whole other can of worms) cause all that could become over-investment and then when you meet up and don't gel, you'll feel a waste of time.

 

[Subpar Scrub]

Yeah I called it, the girl I was going to meet up with tonight couldn't make it out. Texted me like a few hours before we might have met up saying nah.

She didn't ask if I wanted to meet up this weekend at any other point and when I asked if she'd like to hang out sometime before I fly out for my holiday on Monday, she read it but never replied. Idk, might just chalk this up to a loss haha. Luckily a mate of mine was having a house party because he's moving to Canada, so I tagged along to that instead.

Another of my mates has his 22nd tomorrow night, I've had a good convo and drink with a few of his girlfriend's friends, so I'll see where that leads I guess lmao

We got too many people who are constantly overanalyzing everything when it hasn't gotten serious yet.

reporting for dutt, caps lol

 

[Advocatus Diaboli]

I suck at it. I hate texting anyway, but this is another dimension.

I need to step my texting game up. I don't want to bore her but sometimes she wants that cute shit, which I do too.

This is the first time she's said "I missed you".

So, have you asked her out yet?

 

[Disxo]

I suck at it. I hate texting anyway, but this is another dimension.

I need to step my texting game up. I don't want to bore her but sometimes she wants that cute shit, which I do too.

This is the first time she's said "I missed you".

Ask her out already

 

[Salamando]

So, have you asked her out yet?

Ask her out already

If it's the same girl (and I can't see Mega juggling 2+) they last saw each other Monday. If it weren't for a jackass roommate or a lack of gym shorts, they would've had sex by now. At minimum there would be boob-touching.

 

[always crazy bacon]

I miss the exciting days of boob touching..

 

[Solo]

Me and my girlfriend have been together for 4months now. It's all going good and I'd say we are very strong together.

I'm just curious how many days a week you all see your partners? Just looking for some perspective.

I've lived with my GF for 2 years now, so every day haha. But before that? I'd say it could have been as little as twice a week to as much as 4-5 times a week.

 

[Subpar Scrub]

I miss the exciting days of boob touching..

Boob touching? No way, I'm ton young to be a dad

 

[gaiages]

Jesus, just... fuck it, I'm going to just quote the OP for the questions that are in the OP

I'm so sick and tires of being ghosted. When did this shit become socially acceptable? Especially after three + dates. It's so god damn rude and disrespectful.

They stopped replying to my messages/ghosted me! Why does this happen, why can’t they say they’re not interested anymore?
In online dating, a lot of times people just… disappear. Everyone’s having a great time, the date was fantastic, and just… *poof*. Gone forever.

This can be immensely frustrating. Many people often take sudden ghosting or even an initial ignore as a slight against them. They wonder if they did something wrong, or why they don’t get any closure on this sudden break of communication.

It’s probably not your fault. There can be a billion different reasons that someone ghosted you, anywhere from ‘they didn’t feel chemistry’ to ‘I don’t feel like talking to you any more’ to anywhere in between. In online dating, neither party is owed a response. Silence is not consent in this situation—if someone ghosts you, it’s time to move on.

As for ‘why don’t they just say they’re not interested’, unfortunately, online dating seems to bring out the worst in some people, that cannot take rejection well. Insults and threats are abound, and unfortunately a few rotten people can ruin it for everyone. Remember that in the end, you two are still relative strangers, and they won’t know how you’ll react to rejection.

What is it with 28YO guys in this topic?

They're getting close to 30 and feel their youth is ending (although it's not). Quarter life crisis makes people desperate and irritable.

If it's the same girl (and I can't see Mega juggling 2+) they last saw each other Monday. If it weren't for a jackass roommate or a lack of gym shorts, they would've had sex by now. At minimum there would be boob-touching.

I think they know that, but his posts are showing that shit is moving slower than a river of butter in in a Canadian winter

Like at this point he needs to do something, Jesus... and he's not going to bother listening about the roommate thing, so taking her out somewhere is cleaerly the only option here

 

[Solo]

Boob touching never gets old. Never.

 

[Subpar Scrub]

Quarter life crisis at 30? How long do you think most of us will live? lol. I should be having that now that I'm the ripe old age of 22 in 3 months. A bunch of my friends are married, engaged or nearly engaged with long term GFs now ;_; but that's okay

Boob touching never gets old. Never.

I never actually personally got anything out of it lol

 

[Salamando]

I think they know that, but his posts are showing that shit is moving slower than a river of butter in in a Canadian winter

Like at this point he needs to do something, Jesus... and he's not going to bother listening about the roommate thing, so taking her out somewhere is cleaerly the only option here

Oh, oh god...I think I've lost my ability to detect facetiousness. Christ do I need a new job. So many stupid questions/statements that I assume all text is serious...

 

[Solo]

I never actually personally got anything out of it lol

I mean, they are one of most feminine, lovely parts on a woman's body. Also a major foreplay target. What's not to enjoy?

 

[gaiages]

Quarter life crisis at 30? How long do you think most of us will live? lol. I should be having that now that I'm the ripe old age of 22 in 3 months. A bunch of my friends are married, engaged or nearly engaged with long term GFs now ;_; but that's okay

Shit, you have a point, math fail lol

I guess the 25-30 crisis is more of the "school time fun time is over, oh shit everyone's getting married" stages.

I've seen a lot of people getting married on my Facebook feed over the last year or two, and I'm about to be 29, lol. No doubt people are going to feel salty about it Oddly enough, my few close friends aren't really getting married or anything, though

Oh, oh god...I think I've lost my ability to detect facetiousness. Christ do I need a new job. So many stupid questions/statements that I assume all text is serious...

Bruh I know that feel

 

[Gotdatmoney]

Quarter life crisis at 30? How long do you think most of us will live? lol. I should be having that now that I'm the ripe old age of 22 in 3 months. A bunch of my friends are married, engaged or nearly engaged with long term GFs now ;_; but that's okay

I hit the big 25 in 2 weeks. Most of my friends are the same. It's whatever haha. 22 is young as hell. You aint have anything to worry bout.

 

[FyreWulff]

I never actually personally got anything out of it lol

same here but if they like it i do it to make them happy. with my current gf is basically an instant meltalikebutta button. my last ex liked to have my hand between her boobs while we slept.

 

[Jintor]

I hit the big 25 in 2 weeks. Most of my friends are the same. It's whatever haha. 22 is young as hell. You aint have anything to worry bout.

the big 25

...the big 25

...come on man i still feel like i just graduated high school in many ways ;__;

 

[Gotdatmoney]

the big 25

...the big 25

...come on man i still feel like i just graduated high school in many ways ;__;

Quarter century haha. It's suppose to be a big deal

25 still young as hell

 

[Leeness]

Shit, you have a point, math fail lol

I guess the 25-30 crisis is more of the "school time fun time is over, oh shit everyone's getting married" stages.

I've seen a lot of people getting married on my Facebook feed over the last year or two, and I'm about to be 29, lol. No doubt people are going to feel salty about it Oddly enough, my few close friends aren't really getting married or anything, though

Real talk, I wish I was turning 29 this year. 😭 But no. So I'm going to hole myself up in my apartment alone for like a week, with a thing of ice cream, and cry myself to sleep every night.

 

[proto]

She's just being polite!

After reading this whole "gym clothes" thing I totally would've made the same mistake. I mean how do you infer that it's a possible hookup situation?

 

[Krauser Kat]

I turn 31 this sunday.. Still feel like I am fresh in the world even though i got married at 24 and divorced at 27 and been in serious relationships for 12 of the years since i turned 18.

I feel like im just getting started.

 

[Advocatus Diaboli]

Shit, you have a point, math fail lol

I guess the 25-30 crisis is more of the "school time fun time is over, oh shit everyone's getting married" stages.

I've seen a lot of people getting married on my Facebook feed over the last year or two, and I'm about to be 29, lol. No doubt people are going to feel salty about it Oddly enough, my few close friends aren't really getting married or anything, though



Bruh I know that feel

Wait until you're 34 and everyone around you is married or in a stable relationship. It's not depressing, but it IS different. I cope by hanging out with younger people or willIngly playing the third wheel, but even that approach has limited longevity.

Oh well, at least I look young (for now).

 

[always crazy bacon]

Real talk, I wish I was turning 29 this year. 😭 But no. So I'm going to hole myself up in my apartment alone for like a week, with a thing of ice cream, and cry myself to sleep every night.

If you need some boob touching, I could help you out. Its no big deal or anything...

 

[always crazy bacon]

Wait until you're 34 and everyone around you is married or in a stable relationship. It's not depressing, but it IS different. I cope by hanging out with younger people or willIngly playing the third wheel, but even that approach has limited longevity.

Oh well, at least I look young (for now).

In just a few more years everything changes if you've got your shit together. Secret golden dating or hookup age.

 

[Leeness]

If you need some boob touching, I could help you out. Its no big deal or anything...

No? That's fine... 😕

 

[Megalosaro]

If it's the same girl (and I can't see Mega juggling 2+) they last saw each other Monday. If it weren't for a jackass roommate or a lack of gym shorts, they would've had sex by now. At minimum there would be boob-touching.

Same girl. We're seeing each other tonight. Going to a concert. I'm picking her up around 6, we are going to grab a quick dinner, and then heading over.

 

[Ray Wonder]

If you need some boob touching, I could help you out. Its no big deal or anything...

No? That's fine... 😕

This is the most awkward exchange I've seen on here. 😬

 

[Count Dookkake]

I'm almost 41 and girls in their 20s still let me put things in them.

Life is what you make of it.

 

[Leeness]

This is the most awkward exchange I've seen on here. 😬

I don't know why it happened...? 😰