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Dating Age |OT$6| Just ask her out already
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JadedWriter
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Will I be shot for liking these?
http://www.colehaan.com/mens-originalgrand-sport-perforated-sneaker-black-perf-leather-optic-white/C25316.html?dwvar_C25316_color=Black%20Perf%20Leather-optic%20White
http://www.colehaan.com/monroe-wing-oxford-sapor-suede/C25051.html?dwvar_C25051_color=Sapor%20Suede&dwvar_C25051_width=#cgid=sale_mens_shoes&start=16
Advocatus Diaboli
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I really like the second one. The first isn't my style, but it's not bad either. The thing is, you say you wear business casual to work, right?
You can easily wear dark brown or oxblood Oxfords with jeans and with dress pants. My personal favorite's British tan, mostly because it pops, especially with my wardrobe, which basically looks like I raided John Oliver's closet.
JadedWriter
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Yeah tan oxfords look pretty nice, what is oxblood? I guess I'd get the first ones for something more casual. Look like a nice "eff it" chill shoe.
SmackDaddy
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what does fwb mean?
Oooo friends with benefits! Sorry to hear that dude. It might be a bit of your pride of her picking another dude. I dumped a couple women in my day that I didn't really care about until they started with someone else, and I felt horrible. It's a weird thing. Also, even if you aren't losing someone you love, you're still losing someone at some other capacity.
Also, "one of my" fwbs, lol. I think you'll be good! Was there a reason you didn't open up to this girl?
well that's why fwb isn't a waiting room. it's fuckin' someone you trust.
Spaced Harrier
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It means the girl he developed feelings for but hadn't figured it out yet.
Sorry dude.
But if they are not yet a thing/haven't start d to fuck and it's a pre emptive move on her part, there is still time.
Go get her tiger.
Sorry dude.
But if they are not yet a thing/haven't start d to fuck and it's a pre emptive move on her part, there is still time.
Go get her tiger.
I didnt even know she wanted something serious, but apparently some dude was like let's do something serious. She got me drinks at least. Kinda buzzed, kinda salt. Sex was guy, fuck that guy
Honestly, I'm a scumbag and just being selfish
I want many cake and eat it too. Still salty tho
Honestly, I'm a scumbag and just being selfish
I want many cake and eat it too. Still salty tho
always crazy bacon
Banned
Dont catch feels for your FWB, you shouldnt start if you dont think you can keep it purely phsyical.
And that's why as fun as they can be, FWB relationships can also turn into feelings getting caught and things going south for the regular friendship.
also "didn't know she wanted something serious" doesn't specifically mean she wanted a full on life relationship with you. it is in fact, possible for someone to be trustworthy and fuckable but not qualify for the consideration of a full lifelong relationship.
just let her work out whatever while you go date or FWB other women edit: don't wait around for her, but doing anything else will just make the situation worse.
also "didn't know she wanted something serious" doesn't specifically mean she wanted a full on life relationship with you. it is in fact, possible for someone to be trustworthy and fuckable but not qualify for the consideration of a full lifelong relationship.
just let her work out whatever while you go date or FWB other women edit: don't wait around for her, but doing anything else will just make the situation worse.
Spaced Harrier
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You've been drinking?
SmackDaddy
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Don't really think that makes you a scumbag. It's just impossible to know how you're gonna react in situations like this until they come around. You might have just liked this chick. Also you have some drinks in you. Tomorrow will be different.
Also, i think you're being super hard on yourself. you aren't being salty, you're just feeling some shit. It's not a negative thing.
I just hate feeling like I was upstaged by someone, tho apparently he brought up relationship talk kinda face and that's what she didn't know she wanted. Yea, I'm a big upset. The physical was amazing, but she was also cool to hang out with. At the moment I can't promise anyway a relationship, or something serious for a few reason. At the end of the day though, I just like dating and meeting new people. Sad to see her go. She really wanted to remain friends but I'm not going to be friends with a girl I'm not hooking up with. Thats why I feel kinda scummy.
Anyway, I'm feeling better.
Anyway, I'm feeling better.
ZackieChan
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I bet the other man wears anime tees
ZackieChan
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Sadly I don't know enough anime to make a joke here 😫
always crazy bacon
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Reboot of Gatchaman, Gatchyagirl.
JadedWriter
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Ouran High School Host Club stole his girl.
Advocatus Diaboli
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Sailor Moon.
... Sailor Moon?
You know, there's definitely an inverse relation between "anime known" and "number of dates."
Was gonna have a quiet evening leveling characters in Fire Emblem: Echoes, which is fantastic, btw.
And yet, I ended up booking two more dates. I feel optimistic about the Zelda. I didn't even try for the second - she messaged me first and Leeness egged me on.
I'm glad I'm going away for the weekend to recharge.
I'm super tired.
ZackieChan
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I know of this one by name, actually ( -_-)
New thread title?
I've been using long hair for years and well damn, first time I received this kind of message on Tinder and it sucks. I got a match, got hyped, saw girls profile, got more hyped because she's very attractive, I politely write her something saying hello and she just replied:
"I just saw you well and honestly, I don't like you. You should cut your hair"
I politely replied: "How unfortunate, thanks for the suggestion."
This is the least shit I needed after an awful day :'/ Now I understand why I get a match every decade on Tinder. Girls simply don't like long haired guys anymore. sighhhhhhhh
"I just saw you well and honestly, I don't like you. You should cut your hair"
I politely replied: "How unfortunate, thanks for the suggestion."
This is the least shit I needed after an awful day :'/ Now I understand why I get a match every decade on Tinder. Girls simply don't like long haired guys anymore. sighhhhhhhh
😁😁
Yea, it was really my pride/ego. I didn't really open up because I just can't promise anyone something serious, I guess she was waiting for me to now that I think back. I liked her enough to not compelety fad away, but certainly became less proactive in making dates/plans which turns out to be the number one reason girls stop talking to me though most times that's intentional. Even if I wanted to date seriously or make plans, now is not the right time for me. She was cool, had a really nice date at the Bronx Zoo a few weeks back. Will probably hit me up again 😬
ZackieChan
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SmackDaddy
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The anime she tells you not to worry about
SmackDaddy
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I wouldn't sweat it then dude. You sound self assured, like you got other shit going on. There was a reason you didn't pull the trigger with her
For Tinder and such...would a pic of me from a half-marathon I did earlier this month be too much, too "try hard"?
Things with this one girl, don't know if it was the right girl, but it was definitely the wrong time. She was in a car accident a few months ago, still in a lot of pain, likely will need surgery. It's so bad she hasn't been able to make it into the gym in weeks.
Things with this one girl, don't know if it was the right girl, but it was definitely the wrong time. She was in a car accident a few months ago, still in a lot of pain, likely will need surgery. It's so bad she hasn't been able to make it into the gym in weeks.
ZackieChan
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LOL why y'all gotta be like that?
You want us to hide the truth?
Megalosaro
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Question.
In late July I'm going to Japan for my 30th bday.
Girl knows about it. She was giving me some advice tonight about which apps to use do we can keep in contact her while I'm gone. She seems to assume we will still be hanging out in July. I'd like to think they are too.
I think I want to see if she wants to come too. But is that too... forward?
In late July I'm going to Japan for my 30th bday.
Girl knows about it. She was giving me some advice tonight about which apps to use do we can keep in contact her while I'm gone. She seems to assume we will still be hanging out in July. I'd like to think they are too.
I think I want to see if she wants to come too. But is that too... forward?
I'd just go on your own so you can do it at your own pace. She might not be able to clear the time anyway, and might be too much stress for a starting-off relationship.
Megalosaro
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That's what I figured. In any case, I'm not going alone as is.
Miles Quaritch
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You got me. I'm mad jelly of the dicks who sniff their own farts while drinking artisanal coffee from a coke bottle lid and paying £14 for the privilege.
The other two guys are actually dressed well. I should invest in some brown chinos.
Miles Quaritch
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It's something you did and you're proud of. Plus it highlights you're somewhat fit and active.
I honestly don't think there's something that's too 'try hard' when it comes to pics on dating sites, the only thing is to the pics should be of stuff you actually do so...
ZackieChan
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It's just a scarf breh.
The suede chukkas are what sell the look
I've got a listing of my Platinum trophies on there - does that work?
That's gotta be a $1000 plane ticket. That's $500 a month, for a girl who's still living with her mom (if I remember your Gym story correctly).
You haven't even been in each other's apartments yet.
Megalosaro
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She's not living with her mom. Her mom is living with her. I don't know how much she makes, but I know what sort of job she has and I've spent quite a bit of time in her neighborhood (it's super nice). I don't think affordability is the issue.
Your second statement is more where I'm at. That said, she's coming inside my apartment this weekend.
ZackieChan
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Just go to Japan by yourself. Have an amazing time. Live it up bro!
True Savior
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The most important rule on Tinder concerning any photo is, do you look good in it?
No, discard it
Yes. Is it a photo with a sedated tiger or showing your car or in the holocaust memorial? Discard it.
None of the above, yes, use it.
artsi
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Date with the bank teller today, it's damn hot and we're going for ice cream outside. What could be better?
always crazy bacon
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Well, that makes ALL the difference.
Gotdatmoney
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You know the answer to this already.
always crazy bacon
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I would not say they were very but they were religious. Just say you are not religious and follow it up with "I respect, but I don't believe". Don't say Athiest as that has far too many negative associations. Live and let live.
Ron Mexico
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Born and raised Catholic and consider myself non-religious at best-- I did a couple of times with mixed results. One was only really an issue during holidays and gatherings. She didn't really push the issue (and nor did I) and we were able to have some decent conversations about it. The other was an absolute train wreck. Both were great learning experiences though.
Now, having the issue of a non-religious fiancee with born again parents. They're insistent on the whole church wedding. We're both completely against it. I see eye to eye with my in-laws in practically every other respect than this. Eloped once and no major qualms with doing it again although I'd prefer a more amicable solution.
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