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[Kyne]

A girl I went on 2 dates with just wants to be friends, which is a shame, but it obviously wasn't meant to be.

I'd be lying if I said it didn't sting a little though, but I guess that's just my self-esteem/ego talking.

In any case I took her up on the offer and we're meeting next week, but who knows if that'll actually happen.

Oh well.

In other news I've got a date with a hot Romanian girl tomorrow night, so fingers crossed things go well!

I mean.. do you want to be friends?

I'm at a point in my life where I have enough friends, and definitely enough female friends.

I have had 3 different girls at my apartment in the last 5 days and I'm sleeping with none of them. All 3 were attractive (but not necessarily single, although they have been single in the in the time that I've known them).

Pretty sure I'm messing up somewhere lol.

 

[Dreavus]

An update on this: she agreed "tentatively" to hanging out, but went on to say she was really busy with work and stuff, which is weird because on our date she mentioned how she only works 5-6 hours a day, and is off on the weekends. Meh. Think I'm gonna move on. Not gonna settle for that "I'll try to fit you in" bullshit. If she was actually interested she wouldn't bring up how busy she is, right?

"Fuck yes, or no" my man. I think you've got the right look here.

 

[Stopdoor]

Reading a cool dating profile like "Gaming's a main hobby of mine, into RPGs but I'll try anything" and "don't talk to me about LoL", and I'm like dang this is my type of person - "...also DOGS ARE MY LIFE"

Spoiler

*Throw phone at wall*

 

[ZackieChan]

I should do this more. One word answer responses do perturb me a bit.

I'd say this is a strategy for those who are getting regular dates. From your posts here, it doesn't sound like you should be blowing the whole thing because of the occasional one-word response. Give them some room to grow into being interesting.

That being said, yes, it sucks to have to he the lead on all parts of conversation.

 

[Vimes]

Reading a cool dating profile like "Gaming's a main hobby of mine, into RPGs but I'll try anything" and "don't talk to me about LoL", and I'm like dang this is my type of person - "...also DOGS ARE MY LIFE"

Spoiler

*Throw phone at wall*

Online dating game seems savage if you don't like dogs. I feel you mate.

I eventually put on my Bumble profile that I don't get along with them. It's probably contributing to my Sahara Desert of matches, but everyone saves time this way.

 

[JadedWriter]

I'd say this is a strategy for those who are getting regular dates. From your posts here, it doesn't sound like you should be blowing the whole thing because of the occasional one-word response. Give them some room to grow into being interesting.

That being said, yes, it sucks to have to he the lead on all parts of conversation.

So pretty much only stop communicating when they become uninteresting?

 

[SmackDaddy]

So pretty much only stop communicating when they become uninteresting?

no hard and fast rule here in my opinion. If you are talking pre-date, don't let that be an end-all unless they say something crazy as shit or racist or something. Wait for the face-to-face to decide if that person is boring.

If this is post date, first, take it as they don't like to text much. If they continue to be boring as shit even after attempts you make to try to hang out, they aren't into you or are actually super boring.

 

[JadedWriter]

no hard and fast rule here in my opinion. If you are talking pre-date, don't let that be an end-all unless they say something crazy as shit or racist or something. Wait for the face-to-face to decide if that person is boring.

If this is post date, first, take it as they don't like to text much. If they continue to be boring as shit even after attempts you make to try to hang out, they aren't into you or are actually super boring.

Makes sense. I do experience that often enough. Should've learned this last year to be honest since this woman responded so sparingly I thought she was going to stand me up...she didn't, honestly wish she did though.

 

[WolfeTone]

Makes sense. I do experience that often enough. Should've learned this last year to be honest since this woman responded so sparingly I thought she was going to stand me up...she didn't, honestly wish she did though.

You certainly live up to your username with this and your other posts over the past week or so.



I jest, but seriously man don't be so hard on yourself. One thing I've noticed, and this is something that's been pointed out to you already, is that you were way too invested in this girl. Regardless of all that wife material stuff, you went on what, 2 dates? And because it didn't work out you've got yourself into this funk and wishing that it never happened at all?

You shouldn't be letting something like that upset you that much. I don't want to tell you not to be yourself or not open up to people, but you can't be getting upset if something doesn't work out after just two dates.

Many people in this thread are going on multiple dates per week with multiple girls. I'm not saying that you should do the same, but try not to take this so seriously. Dating is supposed to be fun. Don't get depressed over a 6.5/10 person not liking you back. Even if she were 10/10, it's not worth getting sad over.

 

[gaiages]

There, updated the OT with some very basic information on fashion stuff, mainly to link the resources y'all gave. Can the more fashionable of you guys just, like, list what places you like shopping at? I had trouble parsing out exactly what places are good so I only have a few listed in the OT at the moment

 

[WolfeTone]

There, updated the OT with some very basic information on fashion stuff, mainly to link the resources y'all gave. Can the more fashionable of you guys just, like, list what places you like shopping at? I had trouble parsing out exactly what places are good so I only have a few listed in the OT at the moment

I'm not very fashionable, but I've found decent clothes at J Crew and Banana Republic. It's on the more expensive side for some Gaffers for sure. Don't go in expecting to find pants for less than $50.

Cheaper alternatives would be H&M or Forever 21 (although I've not found anything I've liked in F21 in a few years to be honest.

I'll also echo the previous advice: Avoid graphic tshirts and cargo shorts. Shoes are more important than you think.

 

[gaiages]

I'm a little hesitant to put Forever 21 on there... from both my own experience and some men's experiences, it seems like they only cater to a very slim style (which isn't a problem, but might be a bit limiting overall. I'll add it to the list if others vouch for them.

I'll add J Crew to the list, already had H&M and Banana Republic, they seem popular

 

[WolfeTone]

I'm a little hesitant to put Forever 21 on there... from both my own experience and some men's experiences, it seems like they only cater to a very slim style (which isn't a problem, but might be a bit limiting overall. I'll add it to the list if others vouch for them.

I'll add J Crew to the list, already had H&M and Banana Republic, they seem popular

I somewhat agree on F21. I've had some luck there in the past, particularly in finding well-fitting pants which is generally an issue for me and my skinny waist and thick thighs.

As others have said, fit is as important as the style of the clothes themselves and this is where many people struggle.

 

[Llyranor]

I will second Banana Republic. Found some pretty fashionable stuff there (and fits me pretty well!)

 

[timetokill]

I didn't know F21 even had men's clothes tbh

 

[WolfeTone]

I didn't know F21 even had men's clothes tbh

I went in last week. Their men's section has shrunk since I was last there and seems to consist only of neon hoodies and low cut vnecks.

 

[timetokill]

I really need to redo my wardrobe :\
I hate buying clothes at my current weight though since I'm trying to lose weight (going to the gym 2-3 times a week now!), shit's expensive, and I feel totally incompetent when it comes to fashion

 

[gaiages]

Y'all inspired me to look at women's fashion and most of it was like "white t shirt, $100!" type terrible articles lolol

That and you can tell most fashionistas live in places with actual seasons, as in Florida I can't wear any kind of layers for like 2/3rds of the year, lol. I got a few ideas though.

 

[WolfeTone]

Seasonality is a problem for me when it comes to fashion. I live in Vancouver so it's pretty mild all year round, but I feel like my wardrobe is better suited to the warmer months. I struggle in winter. Basically I just can't find jackets/coats that I like.

 

[SmackDaddy]

There, updated the OT with some very basic information on fashion stuff, mainly to link the resources y'all gave. Can the more fashionable of you guys just, like, list what places you like shopping at? I had trouble parsing out exactly what places are good so I only have a few listed in the OT at the moment

Will study and hit up the mall this weekend. Been wanting to do this forever.... 21.

 

[JadedWriter]

You certainly live up to your username with this and your other posts over the past week or so.



I jest, but seriously man don't be so hard on yourself. One thing I've noticed, and this is something that's been pointed out to you already, is that you were way too invested in this girl. Regardless of all that wife material stuff, you went on what, 2 dates? And because it didn't work out you've got yourself into this funk and wishing that it never happened at all?

You shouldn't be letting something like that upset you that much. I don't want to tell you not to be yourself or not open up to people, but you can't be getting upset if something doesn't work out after just two dates.

Many people in this thread are going on multiple dates per week with multiple girls. I'm not saying that you should do the same, but try not to take this so seriously. Dating is supposed to be fun. Don't get depressed over a 6.5/10 person not liking you back. Even if she were 10/10, it's not worth getting sad over.

I'm technically referring to a different woman with that post. That one there was a half black half Italian woman that lied about her height.

 

[Leeness]

Y'all inspired me to look at women's fashion and most of it was like "white t shirt, $100!" type terrible articles lolol

That and you can tell most fashionistas live in places with actual seasons, as in Florida I can't wear any kind of layers for like 2/3rds of the year, lol. I got a few ideas though.

Lol those articles are the worst. "Scarf, $80"

Hell no.

 

[WolfeTone]

I'm technically referring to a different woman with that post. That one there was a half black half Italian woman that lied about her height.

Oh apologies in that case.

 

[Megalosaro]

Did Jaded make it the store?


I love scarves. I love fall/winter fashion in general.

 

[JadedWriter]

Did Jaded make it the store?


I love scarves. I love fall/winter fashion in general.

No cause I'm going fucking mentally crazy dealing with roommate search bullshit. I wanted to go, but I can't really mentally prioritize it. Even if I did go I'd just be in the store like this:

I'm pretty sure once I calm down a bit after this hopefully gets situated I'll go. I also live near a Gap Outlet store so I may or may not walk over this weekend. I don't exactly make the best decisions when I'm heavily agitated by life.
Not to mention I could just by some shirts off of Amazon.

 

[Megalosaro]

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This isn't 1999 anymore, Jaded. There are better stores. GAP is overpriced and doesn't even look good.

Don't make me fly my ass to NYC to school you.

 

[JadedWriter]

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This isn't 1999 anymore, Jaded. There are better stores. GAP is overpriced and doesn't even look good.

Don't make me fly my ass to NYC to school you.

I am fashion stupid based on me not knowing exactly where I should really go. I remember H&M stuff not really fitting me well then again that was years ago. I usually just go to Macy's to be honest.

 

[Megalosaro]

Macys is better than GAP and you can get good deals... but you still can end up paying a lot if you aren't smart.

They had a pretty good sale last week.

 

[SmackDaddy]

Gaf, im so sad. I can't focus at work today, Im so damn torn up about what (im perceiving) to be happening between me and that chick.

I'm so close to calling her and asking her what happened, im at a loss.

Anyone wanna try talking me off this cliff?

 

[gaiages]

Jaded posting anime gifs and not bothering to read all the crazy good advice about fashion is just... well, expected I guess. But geez :/

SmackDaddy, we don't always get closure, We usually never do. It didn't work out, that's the end of it, no need to call her over it.

EDIT: I went to Gap once last year, picked up a shirt and saw the price and noped out of there super quick. Didn't help that I could see my hand through the damn shirt lol, what crap quality

 

[jimmypython]

*e-hug*

That feeling of being annoyed at yourself is tough. I don't even know where it originates from, but I feel it a lot too.. and the only thing that makes it feel better is if I disconnect completely or the person gives me something positive. Finding a middle ground will be my next goal.

Gonna go for the FWB?

I don't know....the potential FWB is now slow on texting. so i guess that's off too lol.

 

[JadedWriter]

Jaded posting anime gifs and not bothering to read all the crazy good advice about fashion is just... well, expected I guess. But geez :/

SmackDaddy, we don't always get closure, We usually never do. It didn't work out, that's the end of it, no need to call her over it.

EDIT: I went to Gap once last year, picked up a shirt and saw the price and noped out of there super quick. Didn't help that I could see my hand through the damn shirt lol, what crap quality

Read and processed are two completely things. I know I need some dress shirts, some polos, a belt and some shoes...luckily I think I settled on some Cole Haans. I think I also need a jacket or sports jacket that at least makes it look like I have my shit together. Now where to start with this is something completely different.

 

[Salamando]

Read and processed are two completely things. I know I need some dress shirts, some polos, a belt and some shoes...luckily I think I settled on some Cole Haans. I think I also need a jacket or sports jacket that at least makes it look like I have my shit together. Now where to start with this is something completely different.

I'd start with Pants, actually. Two pair - a clean pair of jeans, and something in a khaki/chino. Pant colors will drive the belt and shoe choices. It'll also provide a framework you can build your Tops off of.

 

[JadedWriter]

I'd start with Pants, actually. Two pair - a clean pair of jeans, and something in a khaki/chino. Pant colors will drive the belt and shoe choices. It'll also provide a framework you can build your Tops off of.

I have pants, khaki and black, should get something...less baggy though. My current pants are more for winter cause I layer, it's hitting the season where I can trim the pant size a bit.

 

[Leeness]

EDIT: I went to Gap once last year, picked up a shirt and saw the price and noped out of there super quick. Didn't help that I could see my hand through the damn shirt lol, what crap quality

Some of their stuff is kind of cute, at least on the website, but I can never find it in store to try on, and yeah...those prices for something I could get elsewhere for cheaper...

 

[SmackDaddy]

So, I was scared of the replies in this thread , so I didn't check back and called her.

We're meeting up this weekend to discuss being exclusive . She was scared. Wut?

 

[Omega Kirby]

Little update:

Things seem to be going ok? Girl seems into me. Asked her out today for the second date, she liked the idea but told me she was swamped by stuff this week. Told her that was fine and to give me a heads up if she gets any free time, she said she would let me know this weekened.

 

[always crazy bacon]

So, I was scared of the replies in this thread , so I didn't check back and called her.

We're meeting up this weekend to discuss being exclusive . She was scared. Wut?

Commitment can be scary to some people, to open up to someone and share more of yourself runs the risk of being hurt it it does not work out.

 

[SmackDaddy]

Commitment can be scary to some people, to open up to someone and share more of yourself runs the risk of being hurt it it does not work out.

For sure. I totally understand. She has been through some crap in the past. I'm just very surprised at the outcome of the call. I thought I was gonna have to end up walking away :O

I'm really glad shes thinking about opening up. I'm very ready to do so

 

[Messofanego]

I mean.. do you want to be friends?

I'm at a point in my life where I have enough friends, and definitely enough female friends.

I have had 3 different girls at my apartment in the last 5 days and I'm sleeping with none of them. All 3 were attractive (but not necessarily single, although they have been single in the in the time that I've known them).

Pretty sure I'm messing up somewhere lol.

Maybe they saw your anime collection?

 

[AcridMeat]

Uniqlo, Muji, H&M, thrift stores.

Write this shit down on paper in your room since you won't heed the posts by the folk dressin what nice like in here.

Those are all simple, cheap, and decent quality.

Once you're feeling more confident/adventurous you can check out asos and the like.

 

[Kyne]

Maybe they saw your anime collection?

I have nothing anime on display.

Oddly enough 3/3 of them actually like anime (one is more of a vanilla miyazaki fan but I'm counting it)

:l

Express has good quality/well-fitting clothes, but try and jump on to the promotions. Singular articles of clothing are expensive.

 

[cheezcake]

What's the nerdiest thing you guys in full view of any dates coming over?

I have a life size replica of a portal gun on top of my bookshelf and I'm never getting rid of it.

 

[artsi]

I'm secretly an anime enthusiast but no one would guess from my looks or apartment.

But if they saw my hard drive...

 

[brawly]

What's the nerdiest thing you guys in full view of any dates coming over?

I have a life size replica of a portal gun on top of my bookshelf and I'm never getting rid of it.

About 60 manga volumes and all seven Harry Potter books.

 

[WolfeTone]

All I have in view are my wii U and ps4. My games are hidden in little boxes to minimize clutter and disguise my nerdiness.

 

[Xun]

I mean.. do you want to be friends?

I'm at a point in my life where I have enough friends, and definitely enough female friends.

I have had 3 different girls at my apartment in the last 5 days and I'm sleeping with none of them. All 3 were attractive (but not necessarily single, although they have been single in the in the time that I've known them).

Pretty sure I'm messing up somewhere lol.

If she actually is up for being friends, sure.

I don't have that many female friends anyway.

I'm sorry to hear that, but have you tried to date those girls?

Uniqlo, Muji, H&M, thrift stores.

Write this shit down on paper in your room since you won't heed the posts by the folk dressin what nice like in here.

Those are all simple, cheap, and decent quality.

Once you're feeling more confident/adventurous you can check out asos and the like.

Uniqlo and H&M are my main go to places.

Some great fitting stuff in both stores.

I need to order from ASOS at some point too.

What's the nerdiest thing you guys in full view of any dates coming over?

I have a life size replica of a portal gun on top of my bookshelf and I'm never getting rid of it.

Not really in full view, but I have an amiibo of Toon Link by my TV, so that I guess?

Outside of games I don't really have any nerdy stuff to be honest.

 

[ZackieChan]

What's the nerdiest thing you guys in full view of any dates coming over?

I have a life size replica of a portal gun on top of my bookshelf and I'm never getting rid of it.

Pile of board games in my bedroom and steam controller above my TV (gathering dust)

 

[hodgy100]

What's the nerdiest thing you guys in full view of any dates coming over?

I have a life size replica of a portal gun on top of my bookshelf and I'm never getting rid of it.

i have some framed artwork from kill la kill and hotline miami, as well as my console collection and amiibos.

if you find a good date they will probably like that kind of thing.

 

[Subpar Scrub]

What's the nerdiest thing you guys in full view of any dates coming over?

I have a life size replica of a portal gun on top of my bookshelf and I'm never getting rid of it.

My bedroom has an entertainment unit with a ps4, xbox one, big TV and fightsticks/games stacked on it. Also have a couple of "Tasteful" anime posters on the wall, and I have a few anime figures but I'm thinking of putting those away. I have stacks of astronomy and military/fantasy fiction books and like a whole shelf dedicated to anime/animated/games/movies/literature artbooks. Also have some dark souls statues and posters. All of my posters are professionally framed, which makes them look slightly less childish I guess.

I'm considering getting rid of the anime figures and putting the stacks of games and fightsticks away in the closet storage to make the room less cluttered, but I'm not going to hide away the posters and consoles in my own room lol. The books in my shelving are also not going anywhere.

i have some framed artwork from kill la kill.

This is one of the anime posters lol, but it's just ryuko with the sword standing normally, not transformed or anything.

Other poster is this but in crisp A2 sizing and framed, with original airing dates and times for the animations (had to source it in tokyo when I visited last):

The rest of my posters are framed and signed by an artist I like but are... interesting... (middle link might be slightly nsfw)

http://fav.me/d4p8997
http://fav.me/d5mgxq1
http://fav.me/d8zoc1k
http://fav.me/d8hs9ge
http://fav.me/d8hlxt8

My room's artsyle is pretty darnn bi-polar I guess. I don't let this stuff seep into the rest of the place though.