Alright well, since no one in this thread actually has the game and has played it on more modest hardware, I'll report with my own findings
I was curious how it would perform on the dreaded 8 GB VRAM GPU and fortunately (or not) I have a gaming laptop with a 3070 Laptop which is in fact an 8 GB VRAM GPU. The 3070 Laptop performs roughly like a desktop 3060 Ti for anyone wondering
My gaming laptop has an i7-11800H (Tiger Lake) and the 3070 Laptop. Resolution of the display is 2650x1600 (16:10) but Wilds runs in a 16:9 window, so 1440p resolution. The laptop has been upgraded to 32 GB of system memory. I have Win11 24H2, latest Nvidia driver (572.60), latest Nvidia app. I was able to force DLSS 4 Preset K (Transformer) using Nvidia app by manually adding Wilds to the game list. I verified using the registry edit that it is in fact using DLSS 310.2.1 with Preset K
I did not download the High Resolution Texture Pack to the laptop, I'll save the 70 GB of SSD space thanks. The game defaults to High settings on launch, and I left it that way except tweaking Anisotropic Filtering to 16x instead of default 8x. I also turned off Motion Blur and Vignette. I also switched to DLSS Performance instead of default Quality. Reflex is turned off (it doesn't work anyways in this game on RTX 30 series). Vsync/Gsync are enabled, in-game Framerate Cap is off, like it matters on this machine. All other settings were left as the game set them
Then I went outside and tried beating up a Quematrice. There was one right outside the Base Camp so that was convenient. In the Base Camp I was seeing framerates in the 30-40 range, which isn't amazing but also completely playable with Gsync. When bonking the giant fire bird, I was also seeing framerates in the 30-40 range. I noticed no stuttering or frame drops except briefly when textures were loading in initially.
The game looks fine with High textures. I didn't notice any issues with textures not loading or PS2 graphics. There was, as far as I could tell, nothing wrong with Wilds on my 3 years old gaming laptop using an 8 GB VRAM GPU that I could see. I'm going to go back to playing on my desktop with a 3090 obviously when I'm at home but I cannot imagine how people with desktop 3060 Ti (similar to my 3070 Laptop) can be having a bad experience unless something is wrong with their computer. Which judging from the 1.3 million peak CCU, average 700k CCU during North American peak hours, is also the experience of the vast majority of PC gamers playing Wilds
DF can go suck a dick